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by jamesg13203 at 7/14/2008 10:04:32 AM
Well, its been 3 weeks since my wife of 7 years and I separated. I am going to attempt to summarize the events that led up to the present the best I can.
We met about 8 years ago at a small town bar in Dundee Michigan. Her Aunt owned the place and she worked nights there as a bartender/waitress.
She was absolutely breath taking, funny, witty, intelligent and confident. Every guy in the place wanted to be with her... in short, way outta my league.
I was programming robots at a factory down the street. My best friend and I would go to the local gym after work just about everyday, then stop into the bar for a drink before heading home...
Then the day came that she asked me to come back to the bar later for kareoke. I declined, not being a big fan of the sport.
She persisted but still I resisted... Later that night, sitting at home alone, bored as usual, I thought "what the hell else do I have to do?". So, I went back to the bar. Although she was supposed to be working, she rarely left my side. We talked about anything and everything the entire night. It was as though we had known each other our entire lives... a clecie I know, but it's true. That's how it felt!
Everything was going great... I was having an incredible time... then the whiskey started to kick in.
I asked her for a cup of coffee... she walked into a back room to get it an I followed. Thats when she turned, wrapped her arms around my neck and kissed me very passionately. At first I was shocked but quickly recovered. Her lips were soft and sensual and she tasted incredible. She smelled incredible. She felt.... incredible.
And that was all it took. I was hooked. She was hooked. We spent every minute we could together and we never ran out of things to talk about. We were best friends and passionate lovers.
So Anyway, love took a strong hold of us. After a few months we decided to move in together, a few months later we decided that we are done searching because we have found our soul mates so we got married.
Life was great. She had two amazing children and we became a very happy family. We had a little house but it wasn't very expensive. We had a lot of what they call "disposable income" back then. And we used it to enjoy life. We camped often, or took spur of the moment trips. Just living and loving life.
Then came the big beautiful house i wanted for her and her two beautiful kids. I bought a 5 bedroom house with a 4 car garage right near her kids school. The mortgage payments were well out of our budget but its what we thought we wanted.
With the increased expense's I worked my ass of to get a promotion at work and became a quality engineer in automotive manufacturing.
The job required 20 more hours a week, lots of travel and tons of stress. The pay was better but not enough to cover the extra expenses of having such a large house.
Are disposable income was reduced to nothing. It took everything we had to pay the bills and the mortgage. No more going out, having fun... We became hermits.. we became bitter.. I started drinking too much.
This past year, I lost my daughter, my mother and then finally I was laid off from work.. The house went into foreclosure. I sold just about everything I owned trying to prolong the inevitable.
She had enough. It was too much for her to take. I cant blame her... it was too much for anyone... So, she decided that the best thing for everyone was for us to divorce and move on with our lives. As harsh as that was...in my heart, I know that she was right.
So, I gave her everything that was left... packed a few bags, put a couple things in storage and moved down to Florida for a fresh start...
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