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| soul mates? forever love? all of me? Be realistic...
by tartnsweet at 8/7/2008 3:43:11 AM
It strikes me funny that so many people are looking for a soul mate, forever love and offering all of themselves to others.
Perhaps I'm a cynic (I've been called that before!) or perhaps I'm overly analytical, or pragmatic about issues of the heart, but it seems to me these ideas are just that - ideas.
A soul mate? The idea that there is ONLY one person on the face of the planet for each of us. HA! Imagine the absurdity of that! it's surely like finding a needle in a haystack; hard, if not impossible, to find. MILLIONS of people are on hundreds of dating sites, trying to find 'the one'. The reality is we each have a huge pool of potential mates to choose from. Within the pool there will be many, many possible matches for each person. The 'fit' of each person to another will very in differing areas of compatibility. Even the same potential mate may 'fit' us better at differing times in our lives. It's important to keep in mind a 'soul mate' may not be your lover, it could be your best friend, your child, a family member...your pet?! It's that connectivity to another being, not where every little thing is perfect in that fantasy world we tend to conjure up in our minds.
Forever love? blah... that's simply not realistic! We are not stagnant creatures that fail to change and evolve as we learn the lessons of life. We all change our views, perspectives, and ways of doing things as we get older and have new adventures. Current research shows a trend for MOST people to have 3 marriages in their lifetime: the marriage for having children, the marriage during mid-life, and the marriage in later life (usually when one mid-life spouse passes away). Forever doesn't exist. We only have today and the ability to make it as good as we can with each person we choose to share our lives with.
All of me... LOL that's funny and impossible to do. Each of us has obligations that pull us in so many differing directions that we sometimes don't know what end is up. The 'all of me' we give our dearest loved ones can be the ugliest part of ourselves. After work, co-workers, school, family members, children, events, and obligations, in-laws ... EVERY ...one takes a part of us, there's often not much left to give our significant other(s). Perhaps the best we can hope for is to find that one person that can take our good, bad and ugly days and love us in spite of ourselves.
I know I'm going to get lots of rebuttal for this blog, and that's okay. Frankly, I feel it's perfectly okay to agree to disagree. BTW, my profile name IS .....
TART (and sweet)  so you were warned LOL
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