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by tiltedtempest at 9/22/2008 5:50:52 PM
In the real world, what is there to say about relationships? Is there anyway to deduce and divide the real, to the make-believe? Woman, what to say about them, how to express them? Men are they really an alien life force sent down to dominate and over-rule and basically screw up the natural order of things, or are man and woman both extensions of each other, perfect halves that become whole. What happened to the way things should be you meet, you love, you live, and you die? When did it become a three ring circus with a spectacular finale, when did it become the freak show? I myself am not a person to be viewed when it comes to matters of perfection either. I expect too much, and always lower my standards to still be left wanting and disappointed.
Why is it we can see the mistakes and the misunderstandings in everyone else's relationship but our own. What makes us cling to the make-believe where you can catch a prince, but become blinded that he is a rat. And at the end of the day when you haven't found your fairytale where does hope go?
My friend Violet says that we become jaded by the relationships we have, in a world of never endings, when your raised as a child on happily-ever-after, you have to realize as an adult that, maybe there is a happily ever not. Well, that's what she said until she met Mitch, he was a sergeant in the army, and divorced, baggage that she thought she never could handle, now, she's about to become an army wife. We talk daily about our lives and even though I am still ever so much jaded and cynical, she has become a champion of love.
And as humans can we really go most of our lives with out the I love you??? What is it about those three small words that seem to hold so much power? In recent events, my own in fact I was faced with the I love you and I froze unable to conceive a correct response in return, is there in fact a shelf life for the I love you? The guy of course is the marrying guy, the elusive one that when you meet you know what direction he's headed, so what happens when your not ready to head that way, do you give up the great guy, or do you try him on like a great pair of shoes, only to realize they doesn't quite fit? And if they don't fit, is it time to pass them on, or will you have ruined the shoes?
Leah, a long time critic of romance, and a champion of cynical statements seems to always ask me the famous question of why isn't dating easier? What makes it hard, that we have movie nights instead of dates, casual sex instead of romance, and of course emails and texts instead of love letters? Are we as a society killing romance, and if so, the biggest question of all, if we let go of love, the one thing that seems to make us human, are we giving up on ourselves?
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