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| HARD LESSONS THAT LIFE HAS TAUGHT ME PT 3
by mystery0505 at 2/12/2009 1:50:10 AM
CONTINUED FROM PT 2
Now
i also know how falling in love with the wrong individual can destroy
your spirits , and your heart and sometimes it can destroy your life
and leave you forever scarred.When we go through a bad relationships
afterward s we tend if left to our own devices to build a ever growing
emotional wall and barrier to shield us from further pain or to prevent
someone with malicious intent to hurt you again and also this barrier
provides us with the feeling of security.
I know this because i myself
went through this phase many times over.Life has taught me that an
emotional wall is a great thing to have but also it can be a curse as
it tends to give someone a false sense of security that could interfere
with current or future love interests. What was once a defense could
now be holding you back and further reinforcing feelings of abandonment
irrational thinking or self deception.
I learned to guard against the
human tendencies to idealize or cling to past illusions or past
transgressions done on to you by past individuals in past relationships
and not to hold a prospective or potential life partner's feet to the
fire because of life happenings in your past life. I found that when
faced with that particular situation the best way to heal your heart
and spirit is an honest acknowledgment of the situation past or present
and honest a perception that somethings in life we can't control .
I learned that You can let your past go or allow it to cloud your
judgment or consume you all together.Sometimes in life is good to lean
on people for advice if they have been through the same things you have
and may be overcoming heartbreak themselves.
I learned how to turn
hurt into self-empowerment and promise yourself that you will not
commit the same mistakes that got you in the position that you are in.
Life has taught me that realizing your own self worth will allow you to
rebuild your foundation or build a new one, and because of what you
have had to overcome and endure you will grow to appreciate the little
things in life and and most of all will make you a much stronger and
and wiser so you can better deal with any adversity whether is because
of a relationship or just life happenings and to better make the
Decisions that will not allow your past to repeat itself again.
Finally YOURSELF: One of the most important lessons that life has
taught me is belief in yourself. If you believe in your self and the
goals and standards that you have set for yourself you can accomplish
anything in life.Never let anyone tell you that you can't because most
times they are failures themselves.I learned that you must be willing
to expand your expectations as daily life events dictate,cross your own
emotional barriers and be willing to accept change if that is what is
required of you to further go up the ladder of life.Always make time to
re access your life and priorities.
Life can be very unpredictable and
if you have a plan of where you want to go in life and what you want
your destiny to be then you will be in a position to enjoy the fruits
of your labor and to reap in the rewards that life has to offer.
The last lesson that i will share with you and to me is probably the
most important one i have learned over the years is that no matter what individuals will
suggest or insinuate along the road of life you alone are the author of
your book of life. Nobody else can write it for you.Only you can shape
your destiny.
And to this day i live by those very words.Everyday day
that you draw a breath on this earth is another opportunity for
greatness and another chance to to accomplish your goals and realize
your dreams.
Your life is what you make it.I hope in sharing these blogs
with the public it will give you a small insight into who i am as an
individual and if someone gains something by reading my blogs sheds
some light for them and prevents them from making some of the same
mistakes i committed than i would have made a small contribution to the
world.
Thank you all who decide and take the time to read my blogs.
Peace And God Bless.... Mystery....
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