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| A picture paints a thousands words.
by amy1968 at 3/28/2009 7:45:50 PM
A picture paints a thousands words.
One line internet photo's, we all have been tricked by them. Rarely is the image we see on screen match the person before us. What the heck with that? Yet they serve a purpose.
I’m certain most people would agree that first impressions are important. That’s why you wear your Sunday best on a job interview. While, dating isn’t a job interview, surely we all know that presenting a pleasing appearance is paramount in attracting a mate. But, has anyone ever thought about the story they’re telling? What is the best way to get to know a person and ultimately find a mate?
Glamour shots or posed pictures are great tools in doing just that. It’s sort of a big deal getting one of those together. No wonder they’re sometimes old. Self-portraits are an option and fun if you are creatively bent. They are a bit tricky. I couldn’t tell you how many I deleted. For example, there was one where my head was turned in a manner that caused a wrinkle on my face, combined with a funky shadow, which made me look 100 years old. Now that’s attractive! I’m not even going to go into lighting, back ground, cloths, make up, dpi and all those other details that go into making a striking picture of anything, let alone yourself.
I did take a personal pleasure in editing my own likeness. There was something intimate about staring at my face for hours. I really got to know my own features, the blue in my eyes and the curve of my throat. I developed a new appreciation for my image. I am beautiful, lovable and appreciated. I am proud to be me.
Now what about what’s IN your pictures. Are you always holding a drink? Are you smiling? Do you have your pets or things that are important to you in your pictures? Is the image clear? What about your favorite hang out? Do you look happy, sad, sensual or angry? Would you hang out with you?
As I’m writing this I realize that I need to check out my own pictures to see what representation I’m painting of myself. Oh yes…, my horses, truck and of course me. That isn’t all of me of however. I played fast-pitch softball in college. No pictures of that. I like to lift weights. No pictures of that. I love to do massage. No pictures of that. There is so much more to me then what I (or anyone else for that matter) could portray in a few crappy pictures posted on a random website intended to attract a mate. We are far more complex creatures then that.
Bottom line is. There are few who could look great in sackcloth. Even fewer who make sackcloth look good. All that an internet picture tells you is, this person exists, their eyes are on either side of their head, there is a nose is in the middle of their face and a general out line of their figure. Even all those things are subject to change either by time or photo-shop.
Therefore, we can assume that while images, profile descriptions, and blogs are an excellent starting place; there is no substitution for a face-to-face meeting. Maybe that’s way single’s bar are so popular. There is nothing like facial expressions or vocal inflections to give you a more accurate idea of what a person is like. A blush, a crooked smile or a nervous swallow is far more telling and sexier then any old IM.
Beyond that, what is it that I can advise to make this entire dating process more enjoyable? Spend less time chatting on line and more time in front of new people. Try not getting so attached to the outcome of a date. Be real with yourself and how you present yourself to others. Be fully present in the moment and take pleasure in the adventure of meeting new people.
Our lives where meant to be joyful and happy. And the best part is, we get to pick.
Hugs and Kisses,
Amy
“There is so much beauty in this world that when I see it, I feel like a balloon about to burst. Then, I remember to stop trying to hold onto it all and allow it to flow thru me. Then I’m filled with gratitude for every moment of my stupid little life.”
Paraphrase from American Beauty
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