Singledom sucks.

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Singledom sucks.
by tincupblueeyes at 4/7/2009 11:46:52 AM

After being part of something much bigger than myself for 25 yrs. I find it uncomfortable to be only about me. I found great solice and joy in being part of an emotional union. The hard times, the good times, crying together, laughing together........living life along side one another.

Love is easy as long is everything is going well. But there is a difference between "love" and "real love". "Love" is when things don't go so perfect and you scramble to see how you can get out. "Real love" is when things don't go so perfect and you set down and discuss it and figure out how to work through it. Real love comes from caring as much about the other person's needs and wants as your own. And more concerned about what's best for us and not just what's best for me. Being supportive of the other's interests even if they seem silly to you. Real love means letting the other one "in". Love, when lost, imposes anger and hurt. Real love, when lost, imposes intolerable pain.

Just some thoughts.

Russ

Comments
vmburk	4/9/2009 5:28:09 PM I totally agree! I feel completely lost by myself-it's as though I have no important purpose! Vicki
klassylady4u	5/19/2009 6:11:41 AM You certainly have a way with words. I hate being alone. People tell me you will get used to it, but they are wrong. Some people may, I don't think I ever will. Your profile is correct that you can love again. I lost my husband when I was 42 and was alone for 5 years. I then met and married a man and was married for 10 years. Unfortunately, that marriage ended in 2008 when he became interested in a young woman in the neighborhood. Sad to say, death is easier than that experience. It has caused me to re-live much of the time I was left alone the first time. kate