Ok I get it...do you?

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Ok I get it...do you?
by knightkosd at 4/28/2009 6:34:17 PM

I have been previewing several profiles and I see a common re-curring theme, and ladies, I get it.

Having said that I will take my life in my own hands and say this plainly.

From this point in this blog if you don't like what I have to say, you can go pound sand. Here's the truth:

Not every man wants to rook you over. Not every man is a beer swilling arm-chair quarterback. Not every man will sleep with whatever he can.
Some of us still believe in vows. Some of us believe the ball game goes off to spend QUALITY time with you or kids

And don't think you have the momopoly on abuse, ladies.

I was married for 3 years to a woman who was an alcoholic and a drug abuser. She was mentally and physically abusive to myself and my step-son. She slapped me on several occasions to humiliate me, then taunt me when I wouldn't hit her back ("big tough man huh?")(That was one of her favorites).

Now I don't blame her for all of it. I married her because she was beautiful-in fact she looked like she stepped off the cover of Glamour magazine.

Now for the moment of truth. Think back to your cheat, drunk, abuser, ect.
Was he a hunk when you married him? Could you have married for the same crappy reason I did? If he was fat and ugly would you still have married him?

If you can honestly say yes,that was mostly your reason, you win, things will get better. If you said no, you are probably fooling yourself and you are headed DIRECTLY for more trouble.

I know I will get lamb basted for this blog, so consider it a public service

Comments
foxy_woman_49	4/29/2009 5:15:13 PM ahh gotta let it all go to move forward
lilmissala1957	4/29/2009 5:25:13 PM Not going to blast you at all. Actually agree with you. There are some really good guys and gals out there and eventually I am going to meet the guy for me.
knightkosd	4/29/2009 6:04:58 PM Thanks for coming by and commenting. I can't believe someone actually READ my sorted dorky and twisted musings, but its great to know you are there!
rhondadazed	4/30/2009 9:02:07 AM I agree with you too. We all have a level of abuse we will put up with.And it depends on what your definition of abuse is.Some more extreme than others. I think you need to love yourself first,understand what real love is and then youll come to a point that youll know what you want.And then youll find it.I think alot of people take what they can get because they are so lonely.only to cause them pain later down the road.
knightkosd	4/30/2009 5:23:48 PM Good point!
nab5055	4/30/2009 7:10:35 PM I agree with you too.........see, you are not getting beat up. My past is my past and I need to let it go to make it to my future. I can't stand drama, it kills me and is a waste of time. There is a saying and I don't know it work for word but it says......let go fo the people in your past, there is a reason that they are not in your future. I believe that!! Move on........if you can't, you are not ready for a relationship with someone else.
markwantsamate	4/30/2009 11:03:03 PM Yeh! Good for you dude. I know several people knew X & I, or commented about all that i did, but nothing the other half did. (She). Ya do know if I wasn't treated like dirt, it wouldn't have been flung back and what really pissed me off was neglecting the kids. Good luck to you sir.
knightkosd	5/1/2009 3:19:40 AM I think the keys to this are 1) Some men get flack too 2) Maybe it wasbt all ohe other persons fault I could have made better choices, and I certainly wasn't a perfect husband. But now some of the fear is disapating, and its time to start again
tattcatt	5/5/2009 4:13:18 PM Here's a saying I love: To be truly happy, you must forgive the unforgivable. I did that with my ex and am a much happier woman for it.
redlacepantys	5/27/2009 1:00:52 AM well I said I have never been abuse in my life I had a good marriage for 27 years but I do hate when some one abuses some one it makes me very angery.