Life in Shadowland #1

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sassysherri	5/4/2009 10:09:46 AM Lotus. How about trying to send winks or emails to new people with you being a shadow..or just viewing their profiles..to see if they will view you back..seeing as you are a shadow person?
waterlilly77200	5/4/2009 10:13:12 AM I think some people are a little leery when they cannot see who they are talking to. ...And then there are the men...
flirty_me_1	5/4/2009 10:36:23 AM GF, I worry that it will make you feel like you are not here and eventually in a strange way damage your self esteem, not that we are just the picture, but it identifies you as you.
lotus3	5/4/2009 10:45:23 AM Flirty, my self esteem will be fine. You are right a pic is an identity...but sometimes that is not a good thing..sometimes it draws in, just the type you do not want. In saying that..men in my age group, know enough about women now..to finetune the approach, masquerade their intentions. I have feeling, I will not have to deal with much of that as a "faceless person"..and that as I see it, is definitly a pro and not a con of being in Shadowland.
flirty_me_1	5/4/2009 10:57:24 AM Yes, That is true. I have thought of making my profile plain vanilla..no poetry not so many pictures and take the music off. I think I attract ones that fall into the romantic moment and they are not really romantic. Men often like the romance, but have no clue how to be romantic, and yes worse at my age than at yours. Hate to tell you this, but I believe it get worse.
baconhollow	5/4/2009 5:47:57 PM ...sadly, I believe what you ladies state may be correct...once in a while someone who considers your feelings, and truly wants to make a connection, because he enjoys the company...is still considerd jaded. There are still Men, who are considerate, caring, and honest...who appreciate God's gift to us. I have a friend, a very good friend, I met here...she was there when no-one else was...romance is not dead!...God help us all if you, the Ladies truly feel it is...Cracker
atlgarn2	5/5/2009 4:54:18 AM Well Lotus blossom, as you know my venture into Shadowland lasted less than 24 hours. My experience was that I was virtually ignored in the forums. No responses to my postings, etc. I was viewed on a few times during that time, then with the next great experiment I posted my current photo. Interestingly, I have received more winks and emails than I have in quite some time, including some email from guys much younger than me. Who knew? I think I'll post Shrek next and see the response. Probably won't work, being a cartoon character and all. Enjoy your adventure.
weaimtoplease	5/5/2009 3:23:41 PM Do you feel freer? I mean when I was a shadow I think I felt like I could say or do anything I wanted. Maybe, though, that was just because I was new to DH. Now, with things being like they are, I really don't feel all that comfortable posting and very rarely check to see who has viewed my profile.
lotus3	5/5/2009 4:57:56 PM As a matter of fact, I do, and it is just as Atl mentioned, I feel like when I post, I am whispering, in a group of loud speaking people I have had the benefit of using a pic, making friends, and most in the 50's know me..or think they know me. One thing for sure, being faceless, must be very difficult, almost lonely for those that start their experience on DH without a pic. I know I will make a better effort reaching out to faceless newbies.
settee_for_2	5/7/2009 7:42:01 AM I, too, have been doing a little test. I've been posting in the General Dating Forum. I probably put 30 posts out there in the last two days. With the exception of people I know from the 50s who post there as well, there has only been one response from someone and it was to make fun of what I said. I'm not sure what that tells me. It hasn't been very rewarding. And I haven't gotten any bump in the number of men viewing my profile. I did note that there are an exceptionally large 30 something membership posting in the General Dating Forum. I felt like an old woman...evesdropping.
lotus3	5/7/2009 8:01:52 AM Settee, I spent quite a bit of time in the general forums, when I joined..that was enough for me. I believe in reading posts before I make a comment..and I found many to be way to vulgar for my likes. Thankfully I found the 50's group. I have had 4 views since Tuesday, I purposely sent out emails to men in my area..and no one has repliedI also am not getting any instant messages..to think I turned it off because of getting so many
flirty_me_1	5/7/2009 7:51:51 PM The whispering thing is real..or feels real. I notice that as I read posts on my blogs more than on the threads in the groups. I pay closer attention to the words of the shadow poster. I have a number that are regulars and some on my friend list. It is like they are not as loud as the ones with pictures. Really a very real sensation.
lotus3	5/7/2009 8:16:59 PM Yes, it is Flirty, and even with all my wonderful friends, I do feel a bit disassociated from everything. I won't be doing this much longer, I have confirmed many of my assumptions, and I am ready to go back to feeling whole
flirty_me_1	5/8/2009 6:32:40 AM Yes, you look good. I really like that picture of you. it says a confident woman. Great smile and happy with yourself. (as you should be)