Bye-Bye Shadowland

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Bye-Bye Shadowland
by lotus3 at 5/8/2009 7:44:22 AM

I'm back, image is in tack

After spending 5 days in Shadowland, I have reached several conclusions. The first being, other shadows, do not reach out to faceless people. I had 4 views from the shadows, three views from members with a pic, who I have not seen before...and the secret admirers, who would view me over and over..never paid me a visit

Hmmmm and I thought it was my personality they were interested in

Emails? Replies to emails I sent? Zero, Nada, Nil...so I would suggest if you don't use the forums/groups to socialize, and you truly want to make contact with others, if you are seriously looking for a relationship, post a pic, because without one..life in DH land is non existant.

If I wanted to play games, be freer with words, cop a disruptive attitude within the forums and groups..the shadow is the way to go, without a doubt. Now I am not saying all shadows do this, I admire quite a few I have come to know by interacting publicly with them. But I do see how easy it is for some to disassociate their words from who they are. If nothing else..when you review what you have written, and your pic, is right along side of your words, disassociating yourself is much more difficult.

Don't ever kid yourself...it is all about IMAGE, so decide what it is you want from this site..and if you want to truly limit yourself, from interacting, or be just a whisper among much stronger voices...remain in Shadowland. If not, then post a pic that you are comfortable with..it doesn't even matter if it is from a distance..it is much better then nothing.

Comments
waterlilly77200	5/8/2009 7:51:51 AM Thank you Lotus for your Detective work. I think your findings are immpressive. A picture is worth a thousand words.
atlgarn2	5/8/2009 8:06:59 AM Hmm, guess I could go back to being Liza with a "z" then. Glad the grand experiment is over! I miss seeing your smiling face!
flirty_me_1	5/8/2009 8:17:50 AM Glad you are back. Interesting study project. I have known for a while that many men do not read profiles..look at a picture and not even read or comprehend the description under the pictures. You can tell by the emails if they paid attention. This might also explain why scammers and fake ID's often post a fake picture..because they learned they get more attention with some kind of picture. Glad to see you again.
sassysherri	5/8/2009 8:37:39 AM Welcome back Lotus!!
lotus3	5/8/2009 8:45:10 AM Ladies our images are just fine. As a matter of fact, if a man chooses to weed out what he finds undesireable, on the basis of a pic, then he has done you a favor, if there is no contact. Remember quality vs quantity, that rule applies almost in every aspect of life. Personally when it comes to pics..give me just the face, if I sense character in that image, I will take it further. Flirty you are right about the scammers. They also have learned to set up a location, close to whoever they are trying to scam. My last was located 40 miles away. Thanks Sherri
flirty_me_1	5/8/2009 9:05:47 AM My last scammer was on XXX and 8 miles away. I spoted him from the email..and before I could report him..poof he was gone..someone else had reported him. That site is pretty fast in that type of thing.
weaimtoplease	5/8/2009 9:14:52 AM Glad you are back as you! Your findings seem to be what we all pretty much assumed but were never sure of. Thanks for doing this experiment!
lotus3	5/8/2009 10:13:06 AM No need to thank me Donna, to be honest, I have had it up to my ears, with the dating aspect of this site...and this was a great way to just stay and participate in the threads, and get away from the lookers, the rude emails, the scammers, and the habitual online cazanovas.
jo52562	5/8/2009 10:32:47 AM Glad to see your smiling face again! I've met some great shadow people on here as well - but I have to say - I'm a wee bit reserved when communicating with someone who doesn't have a picture. Sometimes there is a good reason and others not. It's just hard to always have to ask if they have one. I guess I can even be shallow wehn it comes to that. But at least I'm honest!
1mt	5/8/2009 12:21:36 PM Nice to see you back Lotus! I agree with your findings 100% I have had the pleasure of staying in shadowland under Mikes ID which for me works just fine. I don't have to put up with rude emails, scammers, trouble makers. Here's another study you can do if you like. Try changing the part of your profile that states your status. Change it to (in a relationship) and see what happens. Let me know your findings? Will compare notes! LOL So glad to see your smiling face again! Hug's Coffee
lotus3	5/8/2009 12:23:36 PM Honesty is always the best policy, there is just no way around it. I don't like asking a million and one questions when meeting someone, and I also don't like asking for a pic..when I use too..believe me, I held my breath, because I wasn't sure what was going to flash in front of me...and I do mean flash
flirty_me_1	5/8/2009 1:00:09 PM Yes I remember a flash like that..very interesting and a while back before I learned lol...when I rolled my mouse over the picture it belonged to a guy on adult FF....funny that link and id popped up and when I clicked on it..wow I went to the site. did not belong to the guy on the site that sent it to me at all. Was interesting though..
map12	5/8/2009 2:34:20 PM I feel the same way lotus3 I don't take a good picture yet but still want people to see me so there is no surpise
bigblueeyes511	5/8/2009 7:41:55 PM WOO HOO She is back!!!!
jennyann71	5/8/2009 7:44:07 PM So nice to see who I am chatting with,,Pictures make us more real,
anne654	5/8/2009 8:35:18 PM Glad you are back in person Lotus! And yes, I get very tired of the shallow emails guys send. I can only imagine what my inbox would look like if I allowed winks. They wink....I wink back....then what? Usually nothing
knightkosd	5/10/2009 3:30:29 PM As a male let me say, women fail to read profiles as well. They often email several times then mysteriously stop. I don't respond to non-photo profiles for several reasons, one I list in my profile.