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by sirstevereno at 5/13/2009 8:53:05 AM
I believe for men to understand women; it takes 2 basic ingredients.
1. Willpower: It takes willpower on the part of a man to reason that just because he is normally physically stronger than a woman, that does not mean that he is any better suited to count her opinion as something less than his...just because she happens to be a weaker vessel so to speak. Usually, she is more fragile and tender in her ways, but that does not mean she does not excel in many skills and talents, many times far surpassing his own. A man does well, to use willpower in discerning when to be quiet and listen. He also does well, to build and use willpower in seeing his woman, or any woman for that matter, as human partners on this earth...for without them, where would we be? How could we be?
Men can be very stubborn at times; I know...I am one (been there...done that...still do at times). However, for a good relationship to work, a man must know when to hold his tongue, just as much as when and where to use it. Willpower...is not a bad word, but when it comes to being used correctly, it is certainly a very rare word.
2. Concern. Concern is so important, that it outreaches and surpasses even the first point I made above, though I must admit...they are indeed very much related. You see? A woman who knows her man is concerned with her feelings and well-being is much more willing to be more open with the man and she will certainly appreciate him more.
A man should be concerned when she is having a bad day, just as much as when she is having a good day. He should know when he can and should help her, but then equally as much; he should be man enough to realize when he can't and to back off when she simply wants some time and space. Women need time. Their emotional make-up...demands it.
Being a man, has always been easier than being a woman. If we look throughout history and unfortunately even in today's modern times, we quickly see how women have been and are being exploited by men in countless ways; some of these are so horrible, they in fact are unspeakable. So, when a man stands up for his woman and shows deep concern for how she feels and what she thinks, she will sense that concern, even if her man does not agree or understand. She will know that she is being cared for emotionally and it will make a difference to her. At least he showed concern...in listening and trying to understand, which most women will readily tell us (men)...that we don't do very well, unfortunately.
In closing, yes, there are things that most women could do better to understand men as well, but the factis when it comes down to the nitty-gritty...most women do far better in understanding than most men do...
and that is my opinion.
Thanks for your time.
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