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by dumbblonde2 at 6/2/2009 6:48:39 AM
I know that is a strange title for a blog, but I think that is probably the most accurate title for a blog on this site.
If we all take the time to look at the people that are no longer in our lives, that we have "lost" in one way or the other....we have won, those relationship ended for a reason...which will open us up for a new adventure with someone new, and hopefully more positive and a healthier situation.
I am always interested in the mindset of a man....and why they respond the way they do to actions of a woman.... clearly we think differently, that has been proven...but again, clearly what we crave, desire, need in a realtionship is very different as well. Funny how in most beginnings we all say we want the same things..passion, honesty, faithful, etc....but after you get into the relationship, you find that is sometimes one sided...and as you all know you can't have a relationship with 1.
I honestly want to know more of the male mindset and what makes them tick...as to why they feel the way they do about women and relationships/faithfulness/honesty. It amazes me, intrigues me the differences between the sexes...and how the minds work. what were the gods thinking????
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how do you trust in love, when trusting in love, made you loose your trust in love???????
Why does love make you ignore the red flags that come up in your face? Are we all that desperate to be loved that we look the other way? Are we all so lonely that we will accept unacceptable behavior in order to have someone in our lives? Let's hope not.
I talk a lot to people in my work about this, and yet we all do this...not just women, men do it also.
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I find it amazing the ability of women to forgive...yes, it is true, they don't forget as easily, but forgive yes. Men, not so much. The sexes certainly are different in this way. I have found from being on here and two other sites, that there are clear agendas from both sides, altho, I do hear from men that there are women on line that have issues with truth as well. That surprised me, a bit. But as I review my clients of the past 30 years, I realize how the women have become about secrets and faithfulness...it does surprise me as well. I guess life will always continue to surprise me !
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"Can you read a page slow enough to sit in each word’s breath? The eye connects, but a melody beneath guides the tempo of tongues and touch..."
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Life just doesn't stop surprising me, and I suppose that is a good thing. I find that even tho people are very different, they really are the same, no matter where you live. I have lived in several places , geographically different, but in the end, the realtionships between men and women are the same. Rarely to you come across one that has lasted for many years, and with great honesty in it. Why is that so hard to find? What makes us, as a human being, have such a difficult time with making ourselves so open, so vunerable to a person that we claim we love more than life it self? Yet, we have a difficult time, sharing truths with that same person. Oh, I get the little things, like Christmas, birthdays, surprises that you keep secret, but beyond...it baffles me as to the need for it. I am not blaming men more than women, I certainly know a fair share of women who have kept things from men, big and small, but not understanding the longivity of the abilty of not being able to share truths. I suppose this is a lesson for me to work on , understanding, in my life. Perhaps I ask WHY too often. lol How else do we learn tho?
"Can you read a page slow enough to sit in each word’s breath? The eye connects, but a melody beneath guides the tempo of tongues and touch..."
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well, life does go on, as we all deal with the ghosts of relationships past ! how often do we let the ghosts from the past come up and bite us with our current relationships? Have we not learned the lessons from them, is that why they are able to bite us? How do we close off those ghosts..how to we send them to the light? The only way is to see what the lessons were that we were to learn from it, so that those same issues don't effect our current relationship. This touches so many people. I get calls all the time from clients about this, how is it that the ghost person, senses that your in a new relationship and calls just when you begin to feel something for the new person. Closure....it isn't the easiest process for oh so many of us. Perhaps that is just one of the reasons we are all here on the site? humm?
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