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| Straight White Male Manifesto
by avtech39 at 6/28/2009 11:23:46 AM
I need to get some stuff off my chest. For FAR too long, I have noticed problems with the whole male/female relationship situation. I have had my share of "ups", but far more "downs" while dating. I think ladies are very good at telling me what they want, so take the time to hear what I (and probably many other guys) need. This is a two way street, you know.
Please read this with an open heart; don't get offended and stop "hearing" what I need to say. Some of this might sound harsh and cold-hearted, but that is not who I am. I am just 100% honest without worrying about the consequences.
I am also writing this because this world would be such an ugly and depressing place without females. I would find it hard to live without hearing your soft, feminine voice. When I am lucky enough to get a genuine laugh and/or smile from you, my spirit is lifted high and my day automatically is better because of it.
And when I AM blessed to win your love and affection, your TRUST, to the point that you truly open your heart to me...well, there just aren't words I can find to describe that.
First, you need to know a little about who I am so you can better understand where I am coming from. I am a 39 year old BORN AGAIN Christian. I have never been married/divorced and have no children, even though that would help complete my life. I am just not going to make a rash decision that would not honor God.
Does that make me spotless? FAR from it! That is why I am strong in my faith. Years ago, due to things that had happened in my life, I realized that I, like every other person to walk the face of the earth (except Jesus), am a wretched sinner. That truth transformed me, and even though I still make mistakes and sin, I always strive to walk in His footsteps. I also seek His forgiveness when I mess up.
I say all of that to let you know where I am coming from in writing this. Also, I am not doing this to find someone to date off of this website. I find excitement in meeting someone on a face-to-face level; the nerves, the looks she gives me, and trying not to flub it. It's just that no ladies ever seem willing to talk about any of these things face-to-face.
I NEED to find the lady who I am meant to be with. I went a very long time without going out with anyone, and then I met this lady at my part time job. My regular work is as an Avionics Technician at an airline. I like that job, and have truly been provided for by my Heavenly Father.
But since 9/11 and the state of the airline industry, the way our out of control govenment taxes/spends, and the resulting inflation that is going to hit us like a ton of bricks, I decided to get a second job. I knew if I was going to do something, it would have to be something I am very passionate about, and that is shooting.
I grew up shooting with my father, and have never tired from it. And trust me when I tell you it is a great stress reliever after a hard day! : ) If you can get past the initial anxiety of the recoil and noise, you will most likely enjoy the feeling, not to mention that it is a skill that could save your life one day. But I am digressing...
I had a man call me to set up a shooting class for his daughter and some other ladies from a local church. I wasn't expecting to meet such a fantistic lady that night. Well, we set up a date (I won't tell you what it was because most of you would laugh, but she was interested in doing it).
After a month and a half, things seemed to be going great, but the last month has been HARD! I admit to messing up. I am 39, know who I am and who I am looking for, so I wanted to get beyond the just friends stage and take it more serious by talking about deeper things, not just "what is your favorite color", etc...well that has backfired big time! Now I am afraid we won't even make it as friends, and that would hurt me.
This whole experience, and past ones also, have motivated me to write this Manifesto. It is not a condemnation of ladies, just a way to let you know what we as men need.
The Straight White Male Manifesto;
Let it be known far and wide that we have feelings too, that we respect you as much as you respect us, and that this is a two person venture. This is not all about "you" or "me, it's about "us".
We (males) hold these truths to be self evident as it pertains to what we want and need in women;
1. Don't be hypocrites! Don't say that you want a man who listens, is warm and sensitive, and treats you wonderful if you are not going to return the same kindness. If you are only looking for a "good time", don't get jealous if we do the same. We don't want to be your lap dogs. We want to be treated just like you do, with respect and compassion.
2. Tell us the cold hard truth of what you think and how you feel, even if you think it might hurt us or the relatioship! We (Males) dont have some innate, mysterious, and supernatural ability to tell what's running through your mind and heart at all times. Granted, if we have a long enough time to be with you, we will start to aquire the skill to tell by your words, voice, and body language what is going on "in there". But it is, by NO MEANS, 100% effective. It is not that we don't care; maybe we just can't read minds.
To be continued...
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