Clean Slate In Life

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Clean Slate In Life
by joy617 at 8/5/2009 12:26:36 PM

The other day God spoke to my heart. I needed to clean house, physically and rid my closets of all of the “memories” of former relationships and to break all emotional, mental and spiritual ties from my past relationships.

He wanted me to empty my computer of all e-mails, letters, songs dedicated to me, etc. that remind me of old boyfriends in my past.

The new me is setting my Spirit free from the bondage of my past and starting new in life.

I had saved old love letters, cards, notes, roses, jewelry, gifts, etc. from former relationships and I allowed them to be a memorial in my heart of the pain that men has caused me. As I shredded and threw away those “Memorials” of my past I felt the burdens lifted off of my heart that I didn’t even know were still there.

Why did I feel it was necessary to clean out my closet and computer to rid myself of “memories” from my past? I have never done that before in my LIFE! I had never even considered it! Why the “CLEAN SLATE”? Why the “NEW BEGINNING”?

Think of your heart as an elevator. Only so many people can be in there and it starts to get crowded. If we keep everyone from our past in the elevator of our heart we can't have much room for the ONE person that is meant to be in our life. Every time we try to turn around there they are, the men who haunt us from the past.

I have not even considered what my heart would be like without the “Memorials” of past relationships. The person I was BEFORE I had ever loved anyone. My innermost being! As I have not examined myself before in life like this. The pains and heart aches I have endured is what made me who I am today.

God wants those erased so that a new relationship will be as if he is the only man who ever occupied my heart and thoughts! I understand the rationale for this. It removes all preconceived notions and ideas that I have had from my past experiences. With no memories there is no one to compare him to.

I guess my main point being, as Christians we should have a clean slate before beginning a new relationship. We shouldn't carry baggage from other relationships with us that could cause damage.

Is it time you cleaned up your act? What do you need to clean out of your closet? What have you saved on your computer that is a reminder of "someone special" from the past? I'm not judging you, trust me! I threw out two garbage bags of love letters, cards, etc. Gifts and jewelry I will donate to charity or give to a friend.

I don't need extra baggage. From now on, I plan on traveling light in relationships! Anyone up for a Road Trip??? *SMILE* (I'm gonna miss the jewelry.)

Thanks for your comments.
Hugz,
Jan

Comments
jjbriteyes	8/5/2009 2:03:13 PM I understand what you are going through. I too saved emails, IM's textes, voicemails, roses etc. to remind me of the things that were good in my life. Those times have come and gone now. I too, just let go of a man that I dearly loved.(he moved on)so must I. Unfortunately the walls are back up to protect myself. When my heart and soul is ready, shall will I. I have a clean closet, and empty shelves waiting to be filled. Good Luck!!
joy617	8/5/2009 2:42:47 PM I think we all need a Spiritual cleansing to empty our heart and soul of the things that have caused us pain from the past. We don't need these ghosts are reminders of our pain. I pray that you will be able to move forward and are truly FREE INDEED from all of yesterday's heart ache. Hugz, Jan
wildchild1956	8/5/2009 3:22:44 PM Jan, I have been doing the same thing. Getting rid of the past as I moved. Somethings I can't get rid of for they are for my kids but they are put away and many of the reminders of the past are gone to Good Will. Life goes on where ever God takes us. Kat
joy617	8/5/2009 4:06:55 PM Good job, Kat! I am proud of you! Hugz, Jan
btweety210 online now!	8/5/2009 8:46:22 PM I also save the same from past relationships. I wouldn't get rid of the jewelry though. One day I will have enough strength to rid of it all. Maybe when I find my Mr. right.
joy617	8/5/2009 10:46:58 PM It is SO worth it. I felt like a burden had been lifted and I didn't even realize it was there. I know now I can focus on the person I am dating. It wasn't easy, but it WAS worth it! Hugz, Jan
stillsearchin84	9/30/2009 8:27:15 PM The only reminders I have of the past are in pictures of holidays and the like. It's hard for me to throw those away because that's when times were often good. Im not speaking of that particular relationship, mind you. What I am speaking of is my entire family... from my mother to my aunts and uncles, of course my daughter.. the ex is in many of those shots, but seeing her in them just makes me remember the day and fondly smile. Not really any feeling for her at all, just another face on the paper if that makes any sense. Other relationships... I have nothing but memories of, and thats the way I like it. out of sight, out of mind lol.
joy617	9/30/2009 9:48:13 PM Family photos you should never get rid of. I still have mine, too. I don't keep them out to remind me of "those" days, but I do keep them for my Son to remember the "good old" days. I have pics of me and the three kids with their Dad. I don't look at them or dwell on them. I just know that someday the kids may want them.