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What I've Noticed
by chat_girl at 8/23/2009 10:55:28 PM


I have been on DH since Jan. of this year.. I was sooo nieve.. I thought this would be an exciting adventure and that I would meet the Man of my dreams and ride off into the sunset.. well LOL it has been an adventure alright but more like an adventure through a jungle..

I have never seen anything so cut throat in all my life.. Grown men and women devouring each other for their own personal gain... what's really sad is that these people are decieved into thinking it's ok.. what ever you get at the expense of someone else is in vain.. it will slip through your fingers like sand...God himself will see to it.

Trying to ruin someones reputation or sabatoge a newly blooming relationship.. because you want that person for yourself? Or men who are soo wounded that they try to ruin the reputations of women that did not recieve their advances?

Or How about a woman posing as a man just to see if you would take the bate.. thinking to try to stop a newly blossoming friendship???

Others posing as friends then at the first chance will throw you to the wolves if it means they will be part of the in crowd..These are things that happen in jr. High as adults we should have out grown it by now..

And I have seen it all here.. who needs soap operas you can get every sin known to man done right here on the DH threads..

Remember if you have to hurt someone to get it, you will not keep it.. What you do will come back to you So please think before you speak or act these are real people that are being hurt...


Comments

woodsmamma
8/24/2009 7:32:26 AM

I guess I would say that the one thing I have little tolerence for is just what you are describing here. How hard is it folks, we are to love one another as we love God and ourselves, unconditionally! As God is love,and it is so simple, we have to complicate it, because we are too blind to see how simple it is, and refuse to believe it's that simple.Believe it, and then do it!

wldmtnhoney333
8/24/2009 8:18:55 AM

woodsmamma ... Ditto to all those wise words of wisdom.. just one thing to add to your "Do It" .. Live It With Love In Your Heart and Without Thought on how to or why .. just love naturally .. automatically .. Love Is All .. Nothing else exists .. LOVE TO ALL

justmysay
8/24/2009 12:31:19 PM

Hey, Chat... Wearing your Heart on your sleeve is a great way to get it hurt..(I found that out) So many choices no one is ever good enough (so it seems) but if were not good enough now for those who we think would be perfect... Well from experience I myself move on... If you don't see the good in me now then you don't deserve it later... Hugs G/F... DH wondering if it stood for Drama High...LOL

chat_girl
8/24/2009 6:00:46 PM

yep with each situation I deal with I get a little tougher.. The trick is not becoming Hard..Understanding why people do what they do is a start..but that doesn't mean that I trust them...

deannalynnr
8/24/2009 6:56:28 PM

That's why I say if ya like someone keep it between you and that person until you get a strong foundation then nothing or no one can come between it no matter how hard they try because yep their are many on here who would love to cause trouble

chat_girl
8/24/2009 7:01:47 PM

That is a very good point Dee.. but at the same time.. I believe if it is meant to be it will..Someone once said..when God puts YOUR name on a man.. then no body else will get him because God set him aside only for you...There is great peace in that.. Just giving it all to God and let him deal with it..Hmmm now I just need to follow it myself..

hcb12
8/24/2009 9:06:37 PM

Chat....I know how hard it is here....ANd yes I have seen people play games and atempt to hurt others....Please dont let yourself become hardenned by it....Because when you do then THEY win and YOU lose. You need to stand ABOVE all the games..... Remember that there are many more frogs out there than princes...H.

hrsetrainer4u
8/24/2009 9:32:02 PM

3 words to discribe what you have been saying chat 1) childish 2) imatureity 3) insecurity

chat_girl
8/24/2009 10:31:18 PM

You are right the behavior I have witnessed on here is childish..immature and insecure..

lovableken
8/25/2009 3:58:04 AM

What happened to the days when people dated for awhile? One date or 2 is not enough to know someone. All these date sites are like that chat girl. Its ashame the bad people on these sites make it hard to find a good person.
seriousforsure



8/25/2009 6:00:49 AM

I know exactly what you mean.Yes it's right if you care for someone or are going to start seeing them,we have to keep it to ourselves,we both have been through this before.And the childish behavior between adults is so wrong,the jealously just because of having fun with the posts is crazy.I had one woman asking me who I liked,I never mentioned his name,she emailed another man thinking it was him,cause she was interested,it wasn't even him.Why are they so insecure that they have to try and mess my life up.Just relax out there and have fun and be friends with people,we are here fun fun and hopefully meet someone,Chill and relax.Life is to short.

chat_girl
8/25/2009 8:04:54 AM

Something just come to mind.. desperate people do desperate things... I think many of these things stem from desperation...
shyone421



8/25/2009 8:47:19 AM

I got an email from someone who was already in a relationship, Now to his credit he was up front with that info. but REALLY how many of us would willing except 2nd fiddle? Isnt that why we're here in the first place, To find someone (1) special?

chat_girl
8/25/2009 11:39:50 AM

Yep shyone that is why we are here.. that guy may have been up front but if he wanted you on the side, doesn't say much about his caharcter.. and he apparently doesn't see worth and value in women except for what they can do for him..

mathwiz
8/25/2009 12:11:52 PM

I agree with all said above, especially what Dee had to say about keeping things between you and the one you are communicating with. There are many selfish and inmature people out there (yes, both men and women)... Chat you man is out there.. Keep smiling and keep the faith. He will show up and yes, when he does nothing will be able to shake him from you.

chat_girl
8/25/2009 12:54:41 PM

You are sweet mathwiz but I am not looking anymore..

rockerbabe_0
online now!
8/25/2009 3:36:36 PM

You are absolutely true about what you have said.Men and woman both are almost alike and when the time comes to meet either 1 seems to chicken out at the last minute and that is the end.

justmysay
8/25/2009 7:27:18 PM

Good for you Chat... When God has the right man in mind for you and one day he will... You'll know (oh, you'll feel it too) and so will he, he's out there... (heck, well all know if he likes to post) Hugzz G/F

positive_times
8/26/2009 4:16:03 AM

I like seeing positive responses. Unfortunately, you take a chance at meeting people that are not being true and forthcoming. You wonder what they are doing on these sites. Many think of these sites as a place to find desperate people so that they can take advantage and get what they want. Many of us do not want to believe that our efforts are going to be fruitless but it has nothing to do with you. Take the experience and turn it into a positive one and show how much stronger you are.

chat_girl
8/26/2009 5:10:23 AM

Thank you positive times for your comment.. but just so everyone knows this blog isn't about me getting a man really, it is an observation about how some people on here devour each other.. it's more about single desperation and what lenths some people would go to to get what they think they want.. You are right positive times I have done just that .. By understanding them and why they do what they do..

louisianagumbo
8/26/2009 3:06:48 PM

i dont know what you have been through. but i can tell you i would appericate haveing a woman like you . my queen , my everything

chat_girl
8/26/2009 5:34:02 PM

Thank you for the sweet words but if you read my profile you would know I am ONLY looking for friends here ..
greeneye0516



8/27/2009 7:53:20 AM

Wonderful,and beautiful new picture Teresa,just like you are.

peanuts1959
8/27/2009 9:26:43 AM

hi im deb50 singlelive alne i been on herefr goodnes 3 years or more lies every day i did meet one still talking him hes cool mice sweet as pie we dated than things had go he was married so dont go for that now hes divorce we talking again but never trust a man on here some then are liers cheaters usladies need tobe treated like ladies not wh*res there are some good men out there god knows where he will send us one go church i do no better place than church wake up men life to short god bless u all