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What in the world is a girl to do???
by kentuckykat at 9/22/2009 6:17:41 AM


I met a very nice gentleman off of here and I was dressed casual but very nicely, in jeans with embroidered sides, a top that was black with SHORTIE on the front in silver and white letters and then small shortie all over it in lipstick pink.. had a pink tank sewn into it for that layered look. Makeup was perfect, teeth brushed, perfume on but not strong.
Forgot to do nails so they were natural. Had on lipstick to match the pink in the shirt. Hair was clean and brushed.

Met the man for a soda pop at a local restraunt, thought that would be a nice neutral location. He was very nice, seemed things clicked. He gave me his home and cell numbers. I was so overjoyed to have met a nice man, one who I had a lot in common with and who had a lot in common with me. We like muscle cars and love music. I am making him a copy of a cd I had in my car that he said he liked. I was joking and said, "oh i can make you a copy if you coax me".. I was just joking... Heck I am new to all this, I feel like a 14yr old...... I am scared to death with all this stuff.. not knowing if what I say or do is right, if I look ok, etc..

That was thursday, he had to work, which of course, is something that anyone who doesnt understand has to be a numbskull. But no calls. Nothing. I wrote and asked if he thought i was a dog or what. I know I am not skinny nor do I look like a movie star. But I am way far from Jabbah the Hut, and dont look like a trick or treat witch nor a Rice Krispie Treat making Granma with Mom jeans and sprayed hair.

We had came by my house so he could see how close we live to each other. I dont know if that put him off or what. I am NOT high maintenance. I was just showing him where I lived at, and how close it was to his home. I didnt invite him inside because he had to go to work and because my dog was inside and I hadnt gotten everything straightened up really nice for company. Nothing meant by not inviting him in.

I am just perplexed as to what one is to do and how to act, etc........ last time I dated was about 20yrs ago and back then I was still scared about what to do and how etc..... This is very scarey to be in this new "dating realm"...... and I just wanted a friend and even if it didnt go further than that if the chemistry didnt jive then we would still have met a really good new friend. As friends who you can count on are few and far between.

Enough ranting for now.

Kat


Comments

catsmam76
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9/22/2009 10:20:47 AM

Is it possible he is as perplexed as you.Have you considered calling him.I have had that unsure feel like a teenager feeling myself lately being newly involved for the first time in MANY years.....And yes it is more than acceptable now for a lady to call and initiate things.One of the few modern social norms I agree with.

waltaz
9/22/2009 10:46:00 AM

Communicate with him. Very important.
baltimoregirl52



9/22/2009 11:08:27 AM

Try calling,he may feel put off by mail since he gave you his phone numbers,maybe he is more comfortable on the phone,less impersonaljust a suggestion

jennyann71
9/22/2009 11:45:27 AM

Did he get your phone number?

456johnny
9/22/2009 12:40:22 PM

just relax, he will get back to you, i am sure. there could be a hundred reasons why he didnt. some people have this stupid reasoning not to call the next day after a date etc. thats bull and for those people who are determened to follow these dumb dating rules. you did everything right including not letting him in your home. if he doesnt contact you then he doesnt deserve you.

pretty_moonpa
9/22/2009 2:05:39 PM

Guys....she said this is new to her. Be honest. Sweetie..if he hasnt called or come by your house hes just not that into you. I'm really trying to be kind here, You are very attractive. Dont sit and wait.....move on.if he calls fine..if not you had a nice few hours.But dont stress after one meet...its NOT YOU. Boy I really wish you had not shown him where you live. Not a good idea with someone you dont really know......

venussmiles
9/22/2009 3:01:04 PM

Well you did make contact with him after the date. He may not be that into you or something may have come up with his job or family & he hasn't had the time to get back to you. Just let it go for now. It's not you; if he doesn't get back to you -- his loss, not yours.
jasie52



9/22/2009 3:24:46 PM

In my humble opinion I think he is "not into you" it does not mean anything is wrong you or with him. Unfortunately I think he did not want to personally tell you so he took the easy way out. Just disappear. I think this was what I found to be the most difficult to deal with..guys disappearing. To me it is disrespectful. I can handle honesty. Even an e-mail would be nice after a meet to inform the person what they felt of the outcome. He may call but I would not wait around, move on and continue to meet others.
jasie52



9/22/2009 3:25:05 PM

I have learned the hard way and I began to roll with the punches. Be careful not to give too much information out during the first meet. Too scary..there are many non-gender specific who can reak havoc in ones life..good luck in your search and hang in there.

bigjohnp
9/22/2009 5:54:31 PM

The bum was married....give him up

irishlady855
9/22/2009 6:12:37 PM

Could be because you asked him if he thought you were a dog or what. We learn from these experiences.

kentuckykat
9/23/2009 9:34:44 AM

IF HE GETS PAST THE THREE COPS WHO LIVE AROUND ME, THE ALARM SYSTEM AND THE DOG, NOT TO MENTION MY GUN WHICH IS UNDER MY PILLOW, THEN GOD BLESS HIM... BUT HE DIDNT "APPEAR" TO BE THAT KIND OF GUY... SHEESH.