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| Trust is Essential to a Relationship.
by angelic_magic at 9/29/2009 12:29:18 PM
Lack of trust can make you suspicious of everything they say and they do.
Without trust,
you can’t have a relationship that will last.
In terms of restoring trust,
you have to have the belief that the person is worthy of your trust.
If you’ve been given reasons not to trust someone,
but your heart and mind says you still want to,
all you can do is believe in them.
That’s the only way to give them the opportunity to prove that they really are trustworthy.
If your trust is betrayed again,
then it is time to take a long hard look at yourself and the relationship.
No one wants to continuously be made a fool of.
A friend once asked, “How do you know that you can trust me,How do you know for sure that you can?”
I answered “I don’t. That’s why it’s called trust.”
I tend to trust until I lose my belief in the person.
Trust is fragile and a very individual thing.
I think every person has a betrayal boundary.
What one person may think is the final betrayal,
another person may be able to recover from
and learn to trust the person again.
That’s why some people are able to rebuild a relationship,
while others leave a relationship without looking back.
Trust is about respect.
I realized that once I feel someone has lost respect for me,
it’s impossible for me to believe that they have somehow “regained” that respect.
Trust is also about insecurity. There’s a difference between “You’re not trustworthy!”
and “I didn’t anticipate your behavior very well, and it frightens me!”
The difference is in the intention.
Telling a lie is certainly a betrayal of trust;
but changing your mind about something is not a betrayal, it’s being unpredictable.
I think there is a big difference between being thoughtless and being deceitful.
I believe that there is a correlation between jealousy and trust ,
but I don’t think it’s that way in every case.
I think you can completely trust your partner and still feel jealous.
Sometimes the jealousy comes from your own fears and insecurities
and not an actual lack of conviction in your partner.
I think there are times when a lack of trust ignites jealousy.
I also think that jealousy can be a healthy sign in a good relationship.
To me jealousy can be a signal to cause us to pay attention. “Look Out”...
someone else is interested in our partner
and we need to pay attention!
Lack of jealousy might be an indication that we are taking things for granted.
That we are not committed, so it doesn’t matter that someone else is interested.
I think if you look at jealousy as a positive sign in the relationship that inspires one partner to show more attention and affection to their partner, then yes, it could be a good thing.
Unfortunately sometimes,
jealousy is about feeling a lack of attention from our partner—
attention that is being given to someone else.
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