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| Players and head games
by jph53 at 9/30/2009 12:19:09 PM
I often see the caveat in profiles stating that the one profiled does not want anyone who is a player or is into games. Thinking about that I find myself pondering exactly what is a player and what is the "game" no one wants. I myself have not denied access to those who play nor those into games as I think I am both old enough and hardened enough to both recoginize it and not be crushed by it. Now the "it" I define as a game is nebulous at best. I don't really like to meet someone, have it start to develop into something then the object of my desire disappears. Not that it's a real problem because if this game gets played, it's too new in the relationship to cause any more damage than "darn, and she sure seemed nice." Maybe at worst it's the price of a few dinners and a movie or something not too expensive. Generally I stay away from profiles that have a lot of male friend photos mainly not that they are players, it's just that I don't want my mug forth on the right, that's just me.
I think many people have fits and starts in developing relationships. For example, he/she may just be a little slower in falling in love, when the other is frustrated because of that...well, he/she is a player. Not really, it's just that both pieces are not on the same square on the old monopoly game of love and there's nothing wrong with that, it's just life.
Let's face it, if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. I don't really think anyone is going to write on their profile.."I'm dramatic, have baggage, play games and a player." I certainly don't expect it and further I expect a percentage of people out there in dating land are wanting only something to do on the weekend and have as much sex as they can. That is not a bad thing as long as all parties are aware of it, but come on....how many guys out there could get the above by stating on their profile...guy wants sex on first date with beautiful woman no strings attached! I think they would rather behave somewhat gentlemanly and go for it as soon as the green flag starts to go up. Of course the other side is the woman who relinquishes her virtue then is summarily dumped because he got what he wanted (I also include she as the other). Come on people, don't hate the player.......hate the game.
Dating can be a rough sport.
As far as the game....bring it on!
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