The Irony of Cruelty

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The Irony of Cruelty
by nekiteflyer at 10/2/2009 7:58:27 AM

I met a man a couple of weeks ago. After being single for almost ten years, after so many "he's not my type" dates and encounters... It took my breath away to finally meet a man I connected with on ALL levels - intellectually, spiritually, emotionally. In a nutshell - Mr. Right. The chemistry was instantaneous! Sparks flying fireworks exploding. The whole nine yards! We lived quite a distance from each other so a great deal of our discovery process was being done via the phone. We spent a great deal of time marveling at our chance encounter and how perfect we seemed for each other and how much Fate must have played a part in our meeting etc, etc, etc. After 22 phone calls in one day from him, In his last message he declared he was falling in love with me and that this, " scared the hell" out of him. It took him all of about two weeks to start showing a few cracks in his fascade. I guess he just couldn't keep up the ruse over time. As I started noticing more and more discrepencies in his demeanor, I, of course, got more and more cautious. When he finally realized I really wasn't going to have sex with him before we committed to each other, he concocted a story so farfetched I almost laughed and could have predicted. After which he then beat a hasty retreat. Are men really this cruel to go to these extremes just to get into a girl's bed? Honesty and integrity don't seem to have a place in these machinations anymore. I guess I've been out of the relationship game for so long, I don't know how to play it anymore. Ah well - Life goes on. I've waited ten years for Mr. Right ...What's another ten?

Comments
lkavour92	10/2/2009 8:26:04 AM Teenagers these days are involved in sexual relationships at the age of 15 and even younger. When I was a teenager, your reputation was a prized possession, not any more. The "Rules" of dating state that sex on the third date is the norm. If you haven't been "Out There" for awhile,these realities may come as a shock. More important than your unwillingness to go to bed with someone you obviously found very attractive, is his hints at dishonesty. Perhaps it wasn't cruelty but good fortune that this relationship fizzled.... You may have saved your self some real grief.....
catsmam76 online now!	10/2/2009 8:49:15 AM I'm going to put myself way out there this time because I need to say this.I have not found myself in a sexual situation with a woman in more years than I'm willing to admit to.I'm just as healthy and driven sexualy as I have always been.That being said I would NEVER EVER resort to such low handed evil tacticts just to satisfy my physical needs.Those that do make life more difficult for both men and women who posses good old fashioned self respect and human dignity.
miss6042	10/2/2009 9:42:23 AM Yes they do go to any lengths to get into a womans pants..NOT ALL OF THEM JUST A MINORITY BUT THEY ARE THE ONES WHO CHECK OUT THE MOST PROFILES.They are the ones who do the most searching for the ones of us who are lonely. I could name quite a few on here who would like to have sex but they will not try to get it in an underhanded way.. Out of say 9 names of good guys who come to mind I got lored in by the 10th who was the a$$hole..I thought he was just right also...Maybe we could compare notes..If I was a man I would beat the living sh*t out of himBut then he isnt worth the dirt off the bottom of my feet..Hang in there, there are good guys on here..Just go slow..I know it hurts way down to your toes..Hang in there..
jennyann71	10/2/2009 9:53:53 AM Be true to yourself and hold your ground and It is A Power Play and if you have and had all that going on for the two of you, he will return, as that is how the game is played,,,and maybe it has always been that way I just never knew it. Good Luck and You may find you do not want him?
pretty_moonpa	10/2/2009 1:51:06 PM Welcome to the world of internet dating. And the men dont need to come on here and say thats not me. There are are few on this site that I agree its NOT you. However, the OP is not alone. This is a story that is repeated over and over again. Not only do they disappear if they dont GET sex...they disappear after 2 or 3 messages when you tell them your not into phone and internet sex. You can say we can be friends...they say .."not in this lifetime..see ya".....I say....I will be alone forever before I get into that type of relationship......I'm alone....NOT lonely.
whamback	10/2/2009 4:56:33 PM A Note from the Lesbian that live's inside me..YES THEY ARE, The Bastard's. They should all have their Johnson's removed... From wham...oh but then we would not need women, would we (wry smile) have a soft day wham
alrose	10/2/2009 5:52:43 PM It's a scary world now. My daddy could scare any guy into being nice, guess I miss that. Like Ika said, you would never dishounor your reputation. I still value my name ( & body)..& hope someday, just maybe someone else will too! I've heard my male cousins talk for years, couldn't believe it..now I do!
angelic_magic	10/2/2009 7:41:41 PM nekiteflyer i know that sometimes men can behave badly..just as women can. However I still believe each person who is put in our path teaches us something we are suppose to learn. This man seems to have taught you that if it sounds "too perfect" it probably isn't.. if a man tries so obsessively to convince you he is the one... then he most likely isn't. Don't close your heart..just continue to guard it The only game worth playing is the game of life.. some people just don't know how to play.