The Clarity

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The Clarity
by irresistiblered at 10/13/2009 11:52:25 AM

This is a combination of the thoughts between me and a friend. I love and share these thoughts so much, that I wanted to keep it forever.
The first portion is from Rocket. Here she write:

"My mom will tell you I cut almost all suitors off at the knees before I've given them a chance. I tell her, "no mom, I have CLARITY.

My family and friends will tell you I have a big heart and am extremely nurturing to those I love, if you cross me I'll eat your liver.

I'm cautious and not typically trusting of a potential romantic partner. Why? Because most of the men who are attracted to me like the look of the package and don't "get" my lifestyle. By the way....I do want a guy with all the good "internal stuff" but find far too many aesthetically UNappealing. I make no apologies for being shallow.

I've gotten too good at living alone.

Give and take?
At 51, I will not pretend to want to give you my limited and valuable time to join you to go boating, ride an ATV, attend any NASCAR events, truck pulls, mudding,etc. This is not the "giving" I want to do in a relationship. If you want a girl who will attend, participate and enjoy these activities, it won't be me.

I will never tell you you look good in a speedo. IF you look good in a Speedo, you'll look better in something else. I PROMISE."

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And here is the second part. My words:

"Rocket...I admire you and share most of those "Faults"...maybe I am getting too old...maybe I have been single way too long,...maybe I grew up enough to say, My Life Matters...My needs matter...My wants matter...and if a man wants to share this ride with me, it must be OUR ride...not HIS and Oh-fine-she-can-be-a-passenger.

I have a set of goals, and I have a path, which I learned that would make my happiness possible. Why should I compromise, when everything works just fine the way it is.

I would rather be alone on this path, with the clarity which comes from wisdom, than share someone else's life and be a side kick to His life, His goals, His success, His rules, His happiness....rather than ours.

NOW... I call this: "Brutal Honesty"."

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I could not seperate these two posts, because my thoughts...my clarity ...was inspired by hers. I found out some things about myself that day.

So...I hope I can always remember what I am ...and how did I get here.

Signed: Redd...in a snowy day

Comments
d_freebird	10/13/2009 1:35:21 PM Well of course everything is not fine because here you are. The self-sufficient path can be a lonesome one. Especially if you are not even willing to play along in someone else's fantasy for the return favor. "Works and Plays Well With Others" like in kindergarten (where I got an Unsatisfactory, and never did improve) is one of your basic social skills and you may have to put a dime in the jukebox occasionally, if you aren't entirely content being the wallflower. Of course if you and he were of similar interests that dime might find itself.
irresistiblered	10/13/2009 5:14:41 PM Who says everything is not fine? I think people measure Happiness with their own scale. What one would enjoy, is a prison cell for another. The trick is to find the same type of happiness...then you can judge MY FINE and yours. But telling someone else that she is NOT fine is an extremely egotistic behavior. And by the way, I play just fine in the school yard. So much so, that I only played by everyone else's rule...never mine. I think it's time for me to declare this a MUTUAL game...where I count, too. It might not be sufficient enough for most...but I am not going to change the rules to appease to the ones who wouldn't be sufficient enough to begin with...hmmmm....don't worry about it. I know someone like you wouldn't understand someone like me. ;- )
colesy	10/24/2009 9:39:59 PM Sorry , I may have misjudged you . Judging is no good at all when it comes to people , I like your depth ,,,,,,,,,,,Allan