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| Fun vs The One
by tigr44 at 10/31/2009 8:47:16 AM
Okay, I've looked at a lot of profiles - ladies' only of course - and read quite a few posts.
I have to share this with any woman who's interested - if any are! 
I understand the desire to find The One; have it myself on occasion (more rare these days, but still).
Maybe some of you have never had a rewarding relationship; or you've been played; or you're not happy with the responses you're getting; or maybe you had something great and want it again; or whatever; and so bitterness is creeping in because it's hard to find  . Don't give in to it! 
I really don't know your history, but I think I can say with reasonable certainty that ruling out those men without the stated interest of also finding The One is not helping your chance of success.
In fact, you're not only reducing that chance considerably  , but I bet you're not having much fun with your search either. I'm pretty sure you're missing out.
Take some of the pressure of yourself and the gents you may hook up with; I think you'll be surprised at what you may find when you're not evaluating someone for an LTR the first time you look at their profile or make contact or go on a date.
Sure, there are guys who might lie to get in your pants, just as there are women who may use sex as a carrot-stick to get a commitment. Shame on them all equally!
Don't let them stop you! Persevere  !
Take me for example  . While I am not looking for The One at all (I had One of those for almost 15 years, 10 of which we were married - it was freaking fabulous! It ended anyway.), that doesn't mean I'm resistant to life happening!
And on the flip-side of the coin, you shouldn't be either!
Now, for the record, and so you know where (I think) many men are coming from: I'm a (very) healthy man with a (very  ) healthy interest in sex; but I bet 80% of the women my age have had more one-night stands than I.
For one thing, if it's "casual", you're not doing it right nor trying hard enough.
For another, too many buttons to find and push in one night.
And if it's NSA, that should be because strings are to thin to be useful; you should be using straps. 
But because I sleep with someone doesn't mean I want to marry them; that doesn't diminish anything about it. At all.
Geez, get real all around.
Alright, since this particular blog isn't really about me, I will stop with that.
In closing, just open your eyes wide and stop with the tunnel vision; I know you'll be better off and have a better chance of finding what you're looking for.
We now return you to your regularly scheduled programming.
Thanks for watching.
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