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| HARD LESSONS THAT LIFE HAS TAUGHT ME PT 3
by logik0505 at 3/5/2008 8:25:18 AM
Now i also know how falling in love with the wrong individual can destroy your spirits , and your heart and sometimes it can destroy your life and leave you forever scarred.When we go through a bad relationships afterwards we tend if left to our own devices to build a ever growing emotional wall and barrier to shield us from further pain or to prevent someone with malicious intent to hurt you again and also this barrier provides us with the feeling of security.I know this because i myself went through this phase may times over.Life has taught me that an emotional wall is a great thing to have but also it can be a curse as it tends to give someone a false sense of security that could interfere with current or future love interests.What was once a defense could now be holding you back and further reinforcing feelings of abandonment irrational thinking or self deception.I learned to guard against the human tendencies to idealize or cling to past illusions or past transgressions done on to you by past individuals in past relationships and not to hold a prospective or potential life partner's feet to the fire because of life happenings in your past life.I found that when faced with that particular situation the best way to heal your heart and spirit is an honest acknowledgment of the situation past or present and honest a perception that somethings in life we can't control .
I learned that You can let your past go or allow it to cloud your judgment or consume you all together.Sometimes in life is good to lean on people for advice if they have been through the same things you have and may be overcoming heartbreak themselves..If you learn how to turn hurt into self-empowerment and promise yourself that you will not commit the same mistakes that got you in the position that you are in.Life has taught me that realizing your own self worth will allow you to rebuild your foundation or build a new one, and because of what you have had to overcome and endure you will grow to appreciate the little things in life and and most of all will make you a much stronger and and wiser so you can better deal with any adversity whether is because of a relationship or just life happenings and to better make the Decisions that will not allow your past to repeat itself again.
Finally YOURSELF: One of the most important lessons that life has taught me is belief in yourself. If you believe in your self and the goals and standards that you have set for yourself you can accomplish anything in life.Never let anyone tell you that you can't because most times they are failures themselves.I learned that you must be willing to expand your expectations as daily life events dictate,cross your own emotional barriers and be willing to accept change if that is what is required of you to further go up the ladder of life.Always make time to re access your life and priorities.Life can be very unpredictable and if you have a plan of where you want to go in life and what you want your destiny to be then you will be in a position to enjoy the fruits of your labor and to reap in the rewards that life has to offer.The last lesson that i will share with you and to me is probably the most important one is that no matter what individuals will suggest or insinuate along the road of life you alone are the author of your book of life.Nobody else can write it for you.Only you can shape your Destiny!!! And to this day i live by those very words.
YOUR DESTINY IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT!!! AND WITH THOSE WORDS I WILL NOW CLOSE THIS POST. . PEACE AND GOD BLESS YOU ALL. LOGIK.................
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