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by strangledsmile at 5/7/2008 12:53:22 PM
I've no time or patience anymore for people who continually inflict pain on themselves in the form of abusive relationships or never-ending job difficulties, and then go looking for a sympathetic ear.
These people will accept no responsibility for the predicaments they get themselves into, and they expend little or no real effort to solve their own problems. They either want you to solve them, or they want you to suggest alternatives so they can shoot them down for a variety of f*cking reasons. And when you get frustrated with them, they tell you that "you just don't understand".
BELIEVE ME, I UNDERSTAND!
I can't tolerate people who rewrite history everytime they break up with someone. Like the woman who gets into a relationship, goes on and on about how lovey-dovey-blissful things are, until object of her affections turns out to have different goals. All of a sudden this prince falls off his pedestal, to become a "user" a "bastard" and numerous other nasty things. Never mind that he never said a nasty word to her, and was always attentive and charming. Everything the couple did together is now black and horrible. That wonderful romantic picnic he took her on, was dreadful - it rained and there were ants, and she had suggested the idea to him in the first place, so it wasn't like it was really his idea....
You get the picture. --- and for those of you who know what's going on right now with me, you KNOW I'm not referring to the roomate situation. TRUST ME.
The worst of it, is that this type of person has a an overwhelming amount of "self-help" books on her shelves... Somebody ought to whack him/her over the head with one. It might do more good.
Don't go blaming the other guy and rewriting history every time someone doesn't live up to your expectations. And don't waste years of your life pursuing some guy (or gal!) expecting the person to change. Trust me, I've learned my lesson. Take responsibility for your actions and behavior! I'll let people disclaim responsibility for being involved with one lunatic, but after that, I figure a person plays an equal part in their relationships.
Hey, I've made mistakes. I just don't go around wailing about them, most of the time, attempting to elevate my problems to martyr status. And I don't sit around wallowing in self-pity, using my tale of woe as some kind of pathetic attention-getting device.
My attitude is that if you are in difficulty, don't sit around moaning, expecting other people to solve your problems for you. I don't want to hear about it. Life is too short to spend your time with assholes or bastards, that never wanted you in the first place. MOVE ON BE HAPPY. 
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