So you've been talking to someone online and are finally ready to meet in person?
Great! This is a pretty big step. People
are often surprised to find that the person they meet isn't the same as they
were online. Sometimes they are disappointed. This happens. How are you
supposed to get a good feel for someone by just chatting with them online? You
can't. Our advice when it comes to meeting for the first time is to set up
something short, nothing over 20 minutes. Meet for a drink or a coffee. You
will very quickly be able to tell if the chemistry that was there online is
also there offline. If you think you've found a winner, maybe you will want to
do something else. But if you think you've found a loser, won't you be happy
that you were only meeting for a drink, rather than going on a trip together?
What about long distance?
If the person you are meeting lives so far away that you have to fly to meet
them, you will want to be extra sure they are going to be someone you will have
good chemistry with. Talk on the phone more than a few times. Make sure you
have exchanged many pictures. Make sure you know this person's religious and
political beliefs, as incompatibility here can be a disaster waiting to happen.
It is better to know certain things before you spend $200 on a plane ticket!
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