| 5/25/2008 7:46:12 AM | Married or Single | |
wishicould
Mesquite, TX
age: 52
| Seems as though a lot of people on this site complain about how difficult it is to date, and to find The One. It also seems like the majority of the people on here are divorced.
So the question becomes, Is it better to have the freedom to date, to have the benefit of being alone to make your own decisions or, be married and endure all the negatives that go along with the benefits of finding The One?
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| 5/25/2008 7:53:47 AM | Married or Single | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| I hope if you are married that you are in that state with "The One". All examples that you provided each have their own pros and cons.
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| 5/25/2008 7:53:57 AM | Married or Single | |
tarrant220
Hibbing, MN
age: 27
| I'm coming off a divorce, was in that relationship for 8 years and while the end was bad, the time before it was was a time I wouldn't trade for the world. I think you're going to get a lot of varying answers from people who have been through divorce, it's going to depend greatly on how their marriages went up till the time they dissolved.
For me though, as someone who's done both, I would rather be in a long committed relationship then date around.
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| 5/25/2008 10:26:14 PM | Married or Single | |
grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 39
| i would think that if you are enduring "all the negatives" and that's a benefit then you probably aren't with "the one"!
i've been divorced a long time and have two daughters.. this is why i am "single".. i've been focusing on them and let me tell you, it does get lonely at times.. i'm divorced because he was not "the one"..
i have gotten used to being "single" but hope that's not my destiny.
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| 5/25/2008 10:35:47 PM | Married or Single | |
wishicould
Mesquite, TX
age: 52
| Thought this post would get more responses.
Just goes to show you.
Is being single so terrible...At first it seems to be.
But there is a certain freedom about it...
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| 5/25/2008 10:42:42 PM | Married or Single | |
grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 39
| only at times..
mostly it's not so bad. when i talk to the girls @ the spa and they tell me about their home lives.. well, let's just say, it makes me happy i'm on my own.
i think it will be different one day but i'm mostly happy!
when i meet that one that i just can't stand to be without, things will change.
until then,
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| 5/25/2008 10:46:02 PM | Married or Single | |
heykoolaidman
South Bend, IN
age: 36
| I do like being single, but then I miss the coming home to someone too. Its hard but I guess if you have that right person then you can have a freedom but the want to be ball and chained lol
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| 5/25/2008 10:50:50 PM | Married or Single | |
waytogo51
Farmington, AR
age: 52 online now!
| I don't like being single. But I would rather be single than be in a bad marriage. Hopefully I won't always be single for I want very much to spend the rest of my life with that "Special Lady"
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| 5/25/2008 10:52:53 PM | Married or Single | |
grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 39
| hey way!
you are lookin good my friend..
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| 5/25/2008 10:55:37 PM | Married or Single | |
lilguppy2bit
Auburn, WA
age: 53 online now!
| I was married and it was fine turned real bad and abusive got a divorce but just did not handle tha well (30yrs ago) became single parent , then child grown and gone and saw a man and knew at first sight that he was the one. we spent the next 15 yrs together never apart not even at work. He went home 7 months ago. now am very alone but will prob. do it again because when you have the right one nothing in the whole world matters except each other, and yes I believe if the right one comes along I would do it again.
Bettye
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| 5/25/2008 10:56:11 PM | Married or Single | |
waterluvr75
Cherry Hill, NJ
age: 33
| I agree...would rather be single than in a marriage that was not good.
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| 5/25/2008 11:22:07 PM | Married or Single | |
rockytopgirl
Winnsboro, LA
age: 48
| been single all of my life. been in some pretty bad realtionships. so it's darned if you and darned if you don't.
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| 5/25/2008 11:46:52 PM | Married or Single | |
bethlet
Spokane, WA
age: 49
| It would not be wise to answer that one would rather be in a bad marriage than be single....
and I don't wish to be married at ALL....
but I would much rather be in a relationship than single. A GOOD one. Isn't that why many of us are putting ourselves through the total unadulterated HELL of being on internet dating sites? Because we hope for that one GOOD person to find us so that we can have a GOOD relationship?
I do. Hope, that is.
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| 5/26/2008 4:41:39 AM | Married or Single | |
lovesflowers2
Fort Smith, AR
age: 47
| I have a friend who once said she’s a “Life-er” in other words, when dating she wasn’t just “dating” to be “dating” she was looking for a long term mate…so I guess I’m a “Life-er” I look forward to being married again…single life is good but it’s best when shared with someone.
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| 5/26/2008 6:44:04 AM | Married or Single | |
flsweetie
Dunedin, FL
age: 43
| I asked someone what they feared the most and the reply was "Dying alone". I had not thought about that far into the future until I was told that. I suppose I would rather be single than in a bad relationship but if I found my "true soul mate" I would do it again.
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