| 5/26/2008 8:27:47 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| This was taken from USA WEEKEND May 16-18, 2008:
What women want
by Dennie Hughes
Q: I'm a 30 year old guy who has started dating again after ending an eight-year that began in college. Times - and women - have changed. What do women really want these days? (D.B., Wisconsin)
A: TO FIND out the answer I explored the most recent relationship research. The Engage.com singles site, for example, indicates that women regard old-fashioned manners as the biggest must-have on a first date; 77.9% want a guy to at least hold the door for them. Pepper Schwartz, a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle, says a guy is likely to make the grade if a woman finds he is of similar intelligence, has a sense of humor and generosity of spirit, and, "even if it's a lame attempt, shows he's trying to be romantic." Psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women says it's all about a guy listening and remembering personal things such as significant dates or food allergies.
Having a sense of humor, being attentive and kind and making her feel like she's the most important person in the world...what a woman wants probably hasn't changed much since your dating days.
What has changed is that women today are less willing to let a guy run the show. Many are financially independent and more apt to value a big heart over a fat wallet. (True.com found that fewer of 10% of its female members list income as a key criterion in the search for a mate.)
The bottom line: Today's women won't settle just to settle down.
My response:
95% of this article is BULLSHIT. As far as the "sense of humor" thing goes, that's ok, but I've gotten more responses like, "You're cute & funny, BUT...(whatever the EXCUSE is for not wanting to go out on a date). The "being romantic" thing does NOT work either...I know,... I write poetry - & it's NEVER helped with a woman (& NO, I'm NOT talking about, "There once was a man from Nantucket..."), I've also found that if you're not at least 6ft, you're automatically a "cast-off". I've gotten several different answers on the "d*ck-size" thing,... so I'm not even going to attempt to COVER that! Oooh, oohh, & God smite you men to be single forever if you're not a chain-smoking, bounce-a-quarter-off-of-your-incredibly-tight-ass, Harley-riding, Hell-raising, Leather-jacket-wearing, tight-blue-jean-donning, muscles-out-to-Texas, bad-boy-born-on-the-wrong-side-of-the-river-Styx! No wonder why we men need f**king Psychiatrists!!! If we write poetry,...we're girly...if we cry,...we're wimps...if we tell you we "love you & want to be with you until the end of time"...we get dismissed in favor of a "bad-boy". The TRUE bottom line: Why don't you women just quit lying & tell the frigging truth for once?...NORMAL, CARING, MEN AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH & NEVER WILL BE!
[Edited 5/26/2008 8:30:10 AM]
| | 5/26/2008 8:31:19 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 45
| I disagree, but you appear angry enough as it is, so I won't take the time to point out all the err's in your post.
I hope that eventually you realize where your many mistakes are in what you have composed above.
When you do, 
then maybe you'll find the good and caring woman you claim to be searching for....
Until then it sounds as though you'll be emotional and pissed off at all women,
and now, maybe journalists as well???
| | 5/26/2008 8:40:09 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | 
im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 33
| Oh, boy...Here we go again... Generalizing much??
How many times have it been already said? About a million, but i am going to say this one more time: not all women are like that.
a chain-smoking, bounce-a-quarter-off-of-your-incredibly-tight-ass, Harley-riding, Hell-raising, Leather-jacket-wearing, tight-blue-jean-donning, muscles-out-to-Texas, bad-boy-born-on-the-wrong-side-of-the-river-Styx! No wonder why we men need f**king Psychiatrists!!!
This is by far the biggest BS I've read. I happened to know several "harley-riding, hell-raising, leather-jacket-wearing" men who are romantic, polite, funny, and intellegent. But it sure looks to me that you do need a psychiatrist to work on your anger issues. JMO
| | 5/26/2008 8:42:38 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | 
drumrman
Belmont, MA
age: 43
| im, stop talking about me in the forums....ok!
| | 5/26/2008 8:43:49 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | |
im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 33
| Oh, Drummr....I am just pimping you...I am just trying to get you a date....
| | 5/26/2008 8:44:42 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| You bet your sweet-little-butt, I am! Sick of this shit, & so is every other guy who's heard the same-old-used-up-lines like, "You're sweet/nice, but...whatever" or "It's not you, it's me..." or "I like you as a friend, but..." & whatever line of B.S. follows that!
| | 5/26/2008 8:52:41 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| No, not all...but one hell of a lot! What the hell am I supposed to do...sit here & play "Mr. Demure-nice-guy" until HELL freezes!?! Y'all say y'all want romance...well, every time I've tried to show a woman my romantic-side, ALL I'VE GOTTEN IS RE-BUFFED.
| | 5/26/2008 8:55:04 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | |
im_vika
Brooklyn, NY
age: 33
| What the hell am I supposed to do...
Do what the rest of us doing. Weed out the bad ones...
| | 5/26/2008 8:58:49 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| Easier said than done...I might as well weed out the whole-damn-website while I'm at it!
| | 5/26/2008 9:01:08 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | wishicould
Mesquite, TX
age: 52
| Dude...Whoah
Go lay down
| | 5/26/2008 9:10:40 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| Wishicould, lay down & what,...die?
| | 5/26/2008 9:28:32 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | theironmandan1
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 39
| i believe you are right on some things, like she will dump you for a bad boy in a new york second, they want to control the money, they want a bad boy to open the door for them , just to say they conquered him,
but i think its that they really dont know what they want.
They run to their friends for approval, and really cant make a decision on their own. they run in crouds, like chickens.
i laugh when i see post like this, not at you, but with you, what is it really they want. God only knows the truth
| | 5/26/2008 9:31:14 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | 
wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 43
| 'Nice guy' thread no. 5,435,879,362........
Yawn.
Agree: All those 'What Women Want' columns anywhwere are complete BS.
You can basically assume the exact opposite is actually the truth.
Disagree: None of the bad-boy-born-the-wrong-side-of-river-Styx whatever Harley riders I've ever seen (and there are a LOT in this part of the world) look anywhere near what you've described.
Most of them are fat druggies who look at least 10 years older than they actually are, thanks to many, many years of booze, STD-ridden hags, one joint after another, and lots and lots of sun over-exposure.......
| | 5/26/2008 9:31:37 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| Ironman, you are absolutely right! Exactly, in fact!
| | 5/26/2008 9:34:32 AM | Of interest (Warning: long) | | kerryc
Panama City, FL
age: 36
| Kudos to Ironman & Wolfie! Common sense lives! Thank Christ!
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