| 6/8/2008 8:41:41 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
lrbear
Hickory, NC
age: 23
| Ok seriously what really f**kin grinds my gears...is ask a gorgeous girl who's worth the world or so i thought out, have her say yes..talk a long a** time..then after that night, she never responds to texts, or calls, or emails ever again to this day.(has been a month now)....girls are so stupid to be so blind towards the guys that would treat her good..they complain and complain and complain about never findin a sensitive, romantic guy who'd treat her with respect and protect her from anything andyet go out and find the most pathetic scum of the earth and then come back cryin again about how she go her heart broken...HELLO!!! get your damn ovaries in order!!! we good guys are out there!!! TAKE SOME F**KING TIME TO ACTUALLY LOOOK!!!!!!
I'm done now  
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| 6/8/2008 8:53:17 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| There there you feel better now getting it off your chest...Gee I am sorry about the way you were treated happens to us all regardless of our ages....move on son you deserve better.There is a right girl out there somewhere hopefully with better manners than that one..All the best..
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| 6/8/2008 9:22:56 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
lrbear
Hickory, NC
age: 23
| THanks, i know....but yeah it was the straw that broke the camel's back
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| 6/8/2008 9:24:38 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
mjkittredge
Nashua, NH
age: 27
| Yeah, I agree with the OP. I've had great, wonderful starts with women, then for who knows what reason I don't hear from them again. Or I get some lame excuse that doesn't even make sense, and never get to see them again. A person really gets their hopes up when they have an awesome date and they know the other person is really into it. Then, to have those hopes trampled on, destroyed - it makes a person feel helpless and confused.
Eventually though, you get to a point of acceptance. You realize that whatever the other person does it out of your control. You realize that all you can do is keep trying. You think about how to manage your expectations, temper your hopes, and not be too upset when things don't go your way, while not becoming pessimistic or jaded. It's a challenge, a big one, but the reward is lasting happiness and companionship. Things like that are worth whatever hardship & heartache comes along the way.
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| 6/8/2008 9:26:00 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| It hurts yes but in time it will fade and you have a whole life in front of you...Dont waste it over some ignorant girl...Take up a challenge find a girl who will respect you and appreciate your decency... Come on smile...
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| 6/8/2008 9:39:08 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
simplegal08
Bacliff, TX
age: 26
| Sometimes you work up this person in your mind to be something totally great. You communicate online and over the phone and you feel a connection. However, once you meet the person in real life, the attraction or connection you felt isn't there. No one's fault really, just what you both felt wasn't there for one or maybe even both of you.
Don't blame a girl's ovaries on it. Guys do the same crap. You're gonna have to realize not everyone is going to be perfect for you and you aren't going to be perfect for everyone. Don't be in too big of a hurry - just have fun while things last. Hopefully sooner than later, you'll find a girl that realizes what she has found in you.
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| 6/8/2008 9:45:57 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
itsjustmeadj
Everett, PA
age: 24
| Ok seriously what really f**kin grinds my gears...is ask a gorgeous girl who's worth the world or so i thought out, have her say yes..talk a long a** time..then after that night, she never responds to texts, or calls, or emails ever again to this day.(has been a month now)....girls are so stupid to be so blind towards the guys that would treat her good..they complain and complain and complain about never findin a sensitive, romantic guy who'd treat her with respect and protect her from anything andyet go out and find the most pathetic scum of the earth and then come back cryin again about how she go her heart broken...HELLO!!! get your damn ovaries in order!!! we good guys are out there!!! TAKE SOME F**KING TIME TO ACTUALLY LOOOK!!!!!!
I'm done now
shouldn't generalize one specific group, that's unfair and untrue.
with that being said, i've had the same thing happen to me...and it was a with a guy. but, i know that not all guys are like that loser.
it def hurt after he ignored me, and then tried to make me see crazy. like when i asked why he was ignoring me he said, "what are you talking about? you have me all wrong". gah!
he's a cowardly prick!
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| 6/8/2008 9:51:03 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
| Just because you are a good guy and treat women well doesn't always mean there is chemistry on both sides..I've dated gentlemen that know how to treat a woman like a lady but if there is no chemistry for me, then I have to bow out gracefully...she should at least respond to your emails or calls to let you know..some people are afraid of confrontation in fear of hurting others so they just ignore the situation instead of dealing with it in a mature manner..
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| 6/8/2008 9:53:12 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
itsjustmeadj
Everett, PA
age: 24
| Ok seriously what really f**kin grinds my gears...is ask a gorgeous girl who's worth the world or so i thought out, have her say yes..talk a long a** time..then after that night, she never responds to texts, or calls, or emails ever again to this day.(has been a month now)....girls are so stupid to be so blind towards the guys that would treat her good..they complain and complain and complain about never findin a sensitive, romantic guy who'd treat her with respect and protect her from anything andyet go out and find the most pathetic scum of the earth and then come back cryin again about how she go her heart broken...HELLO!!! get your damn ovaries in order!!! we good guys are out there!!! TAKE SOME F**KING TIME TO ACTUALLY LOOOK!!!!!!
I'm done now shouldn't generalize one specific group, that's unfair and untrue.
with that being said, i've had the same thing happen to me...and it was a with a guy. but, i know that not all guys are like that loser.
it def hurt after he ignored me, and then tried to make me see crazy. like when i asked why he was ignoring me he said, "what are you talking about? you have me all wrong". gah!
he's a cowardly prick! Ditto babe! Well said! I couldn't have said it ANY better and have had the EXACT same thing happen to ME!
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh        !
unc
gah, and i met him on here!
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| 6/8/2008 10:00:18 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
itsjustmeadj
Everett, PA
age: 24
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the good thing is, i've met many more awesome people on here, so it's all good! and this cowardly prick is going to lead a sad, lonely life. knowing that helps keep a smile on my face, hehehe
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| 6/8/2008 10:07:30 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
pwin_here_n_now
Annapolis, MD
age: 38
| Simplegal: Well said! 
To the OP...Chalk it up as not the right person for you and move on - learn, accept it and keep your heart open for the right one! There is someone for everyone - But... Not everyone is for you!
Besides - I think you are looking for that one special person - Not a harem!
Peace and Blessing of Unconditional Love!
P.Win
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| 6/9/2008 2:54:33 AM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
mistykel
New South Wales
Australia
age: 35
| its about chemistry, I have gone out with alot of nice guys, whom i hope meet really nice girls, but for me i need a guy with a little grrrr. They cant understand why I dont find them "attractive" but it is because they dont connect on a emotional level, and you can continue to be polite and pretend or you can just end it, and sometimes no further contact seems the best way. I know it can be hurtful but I have tried letting guys down and they can be very persistant. It can be frightening, so sometimes no contact is best. I know it sucks for those of you who are normal. I had a guy call me 42x in one day and kept hassling me, texting, emailing wouldnt give up. It got really scary, and all i did was have coffee with him. NO DINNER.JUST COFFEE, so i am sorry but it does make you a little cautious. Good luck finding your SOUL MATE
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| 6/9/2008 3:20:49 AM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
saucybrat
Edmonton, AB
age: 45
| The funny thing is............It's not only women that do that, alot of men don't know what the "Hell" they want either
Hmmmmmmmmmmm.....their loss!
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| 6/9/2008 4:32:24 AM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
jamijoy
Kenosha, WI
age: 40
| Maybe it is just me but I get uncomfortable in those conversations for two reasons. first the person is a stranger someone I know nothing about, When they are probing me to tell me what is special about myself, what I am looking for in a man, ect. I feel like I am at an interview I didn't apply for.
The other side is the replies returned. Okay so whats important to you? (r) my family so I follow up with tell me about your family (R) they are cool fun to hang out with. That tells me nothing. I feel like I am being pressured into talking to someone who isn't revealing anything about themselves. Just the same pat things I am a good guy give me a chance, I just want a friend to maybe go out to a movie with.
That is not an unreasonable request but my freinds don't ask me to explain myself. Conversation is easy and genuine and reveals our personalities. I am not sure you can do that here because somebody has an agenda.
In fairness this is a dating site, and it isn't unreasonable for people to be trying to date. I would not just cut off contact without an explanation but sometimes I don't think the other person is really listening, they are just going through the motions to get to the next level. I don't roll that way.
I am not looking for a man to fill a role. I would like to meet someone who makes me laugh and I am comfortable around. then see where things go. I don't know that this is typical behavior or that your conversations feel as forced as mine but I thought I would share how I feel. Maybe it is something like that?
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| 6/10/2008 6:44:24 PM | What Grinds My Gears (Thanks Peter Griffen LOL) | |
simplegal08
Bacliff, TX
age: 26
| Simplegal: Well said!
To the OP...Chalk it up as not the right person for you and move on - learn, accept it and keep your heart open for the right one! There is someone for everyone - But... Not everyone is for you!
Besides - I think you are looking for that one special person - Not a harem!
Peace and Blessing of Unconditional Love!
P.Win
thanks pwin
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