| 6/14/2008 5:30:47 AM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| I'm generally an optimistic person. However, I'm pretty disgusted with men who shave 5-10 years off their age so can attract a younger woman. Of course the picture they post IS 10 years old! I had telephone conversations with each of these men after emailing and prior to meeting. They had mentioned they had been disappointed meeting ladies where it was obvious the photos were old and that the women had lied about their ages. One man was shorter than me I'm 5'5 1/2" and he "claimed" to be 5'8". OF COURSE THEY'RE DOING THE SAME THING! One man has 2 master's degrees and the other has a PhD!
Guess what? EVERYONE thinks they look young and feel younger than their actual age. In some cases that may be true but MOST of the time it is not.
Personally, in most cases I will probably NOT be interested in a man that is 10-15 years older than myself because of my lifestyle and extremely high level of physical activity. There are always exceptions but 99% of the time it won't happen. Is this judgemental? No, this is my PREFERENCE. However, I would certainly have more respect for someone who provided truthful information and enough facts about their lifestyle to give me the opportunity to make a decision based upon that information. It irks me that people think these little "white lies" about their age, height, weight, old pictures, etc. are ok. They are not.
So much miscommunication and hurt feelings would be avoided if each member did the following:
Have a friend, family member or a photo shop take one head shot and one FULL length photo to post on these sites. These would be time and date stamped. Then we can see what you look like today and not how you looked at your high school prom.
The full length photo would be taken next to a tape that measured height. WE ALL start to lose height after our 30's. Although I'm not one of those women who particularly cares about dating a tall man I DO want somebody who is at least a bit taller than myself.
[Edited 6/14/2008 5:36:04 AM]
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| 6/14/2008 5:43:53 AM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
kenb5b01
Northport, WA
age: 44
| Welcome to life dear. Some people lie.
In my opinion people who lie make it easier for the rest of us.
I personally won't waste my time trying to communicate with somebody who can't even describe them self without lying. What's the point. You can't trust anything they say anyway.
As for the pictures? Well I disagree. I prefer pictures of somebody that depict them in their life. Pictures that show what the person is like every day, instead of glamor shots or posed photos.
However if we were to adapt your reasoning about pictures; I think the pics should include 1 picture without ANY make-up and one full body nude shot. Since so many women paint their faces on before a picture and then squeeze into clothing 4 sizes smaller than they could possibly wear comfortably.
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| 6/14/2008 6:03:39 AM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
aka_neo
Marathon, FL
age: 51
| I agree with both the OP and kenb .
One picture does not tell the story of a woman who is 50 .
Having the most attractive picture posted as ones main photo does not indicate the facts.
Women here ,as well as men do it .
I need to lose ten pounds but ,my photo's are within a years time frame .
And should and will be updated .
I have a new camera and therefor have no excuse to show current pictures .
Edited due poor spellllling .
[Edited 6/14/2008 6:04:45 AM]
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| 6/14/2008 7:45:05 AM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| Ken, the nudes pictures might make everyone lose their appetite. I agree that Glamour shots look fake and you could probably find Jimmy Hoffa under all the makeup. If someone is squeezing into clothing that is too small...most of us can tell. I have many photos on match.com of my horses,dog and myself in my most comfortable environment. Of course I must dress in a corporate style for work as I'm in the financial field.
I'm focusing on people who lie blatantly. It seems rampant. If I meet someone who has obviously lied it's an automatic turn off. If people think they can trick you and that you won't notice or care when you meet they are wrong.
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| 6/14/2008 12:29:26 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
| My pictures are current and updated all the time..without makeup!
To back myself up I also have a web cam!
I so dislike when ppl post pictures that are 5-10-15 years younger.
Come on be Honest cause if you're not it'll never work out for you anyways!
edit: wait I do put on some lipstick so my lips stand out more 
*advertising falsely isnt nice* ppl hate false advertisment
[Edited 6/14/2008 12:32:59 PM]
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| 6/14/2008 4:05:53 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| Neo- the photo I have on my profile was taken at a Rite Aid drugstore within 4 months for just a few dollars.
What I find so disturbing is that these men verbally complained on the telephone(prior to meeting) that were disappointed by the number of women who had misrepresented themselves, yet they're doing the same thing.
I would think that with all that has been written about online dating and "how" people should behave that these folks would get a clue.
I met a man who had a date with someone he met online. She showed up MUCH older than her picture. He asked to see her license and she hemmed and hawed. He looked at her and said, "you deceived me" and left. Although this would appear rude at first blush the onus was on the woman who lied. I believe that I will consider the same move should this happen to me again.
[Edited 6/14/2008 4:08:44 PM]
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| 6/14/2008 4:20:12 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
wkg
Merrifield, VA
age: 54
| My picture is real,my age is real,and my profile is real.The wonderful people I met know that.We're still talking and meeting as friends.Rocket you're right;it is rude to turn around and leave when you meet someone that does not meet his/her profile or one's expectations.The best thing to do is be a gentleman/lady for that period of time,and then you won't need to deal with it.
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| 6/14/2008 6:30:45 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
rocket000
Murrayville, GA
age: 50
| WKG- Normally I would think it's rude too. However, there is a difference between a date not meeting your expectations and blatantly lying. For a date that doesn't meet one's expectations I think you can enjoy a cup of coffee, lunch or a drink and than politely leave. When someone starts off by lying I don't believe they're owed courtesy. Up to this point I've been polite, but the disrespect they've shown in inexcusable and a complete waster of their time and mine. If you saw my pictures and I told you I was a size 4 and showed up significantly overweight how would you feel?
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| 6/14/2008 6:33:22 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
lionessleo
Greensboro, NC
age: 43
| know what you mean, met a guy once smiled when he saw me and was missing most of his teeth, ewwwwww, then had the nerve to say I was much prettier in person, went to the bathroom called a friend to call me back in 5 so i could leave immediately
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| 6/14/2008 6:35:56 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
epiphany4me
Bullhead City, AZ
age: 47
| Gee lion. I didn't think you would tell
everyone!
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| 6/14/2008 6:37:01 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
lionessleo
Greensboro, NC
age: 43
| that's right it was you wasn't it
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| 6/14/2008 8:03:30 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
|  I have heard about this lots of times. It happened to me once, but it wasn't the person's looks, it was that they just wanted to talk about sex.  I just don't understand what they are thinking. Are they so shallow that they won't think that the person they meet isn't going to notice that they lied.?? To me it is a double insult.
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| 6/14/2008 10:36:29 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
bellagioqueen
Portland, OR
age: 58
| The picture I posted is me at my worst. No sleep, no makeup, no contacts and hair not styled. Not interested in a man that is just looking for a trophy.
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| 6/16/2008 6:14:10 AM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
smartipants01
Winchester, MA
age: 44
| This is too funny & soooooo true! Glad to see I'm not the only one this happens to! I met a guy once, who claimed to be a few years younger than me--would have sworn after meeting him that the pic was of his son! Said he was 5'8" (I'm 5'5") we where eye to eye! & I swear he had on heals HA! Had hair in his pic-but no more! Typically I like bald guys--but COME ON? I don't dig bald liars! & no more flat tummy--dunlap was setting in!  Thought I'd stay for dinner/conversation/& be polite--BIG MISTAKE! recieved 7 emails & 3 phone calls by the next a.m. PO'd that I hadn't called to say "what a wonderfull time I'd had"??? He got really nasty when I said I didn't think the chemestry was right & harassed me for 4 months b4 I threatened to call the cops! Being polite isn't always the right way to go--if they're gonna lie about such stupid stuff RUN RUN RUN!
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| 6/16/2008 4:04:24 PM | Another Meeting where my "date" lied about age and pix was old. | |
wkg
Merrifield, VA
age: 54
| See what you did smarti;you made the poor man loose his hair;lucky he didn't loose his head.
Just jolking;you're right,sometimes you try to be nice for the moment/time,and instead of being appreciated for that you end up being harassed.A person should understand that if the other party doesn't return a message or a phone call it means they're not interested and not asking for harassment.I had people send me messages,and after I reply;they don't reply back.I get the message that they're not interested,which is fine,and when I post after them;I'm very polite and respectful of them.No one can force him/her self on anyone else.
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