| 6/18/2008 7:05:39 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
ladyinoz
Wichita, KS
age: 61
| Which would you rather do--meet first in person or by phone? I just had an encounter (my first) where we emailed and seemed to hit it off, and since I don't have my picture in my profile I sent it via cell to him. Unexpectedly he called me on my cell. He was not at all like he was in the emails. After talking to him for 10 seconds I knew this was definitely not a match. He said he was 60 but talked like a nervous 15 year old. I honestly think he had a traumatic brain injury, but I never would have guessed by the emails. If we hadn't talked on the phone I probably would have agreed to meet him. Now I know I don't want to and won't. If any of you know about TBI, you know they are unstable and can get violently out of control. I entered his name in my phone as "do not answer" so I'll know if he calls again, but now I wonder if he'll try to find me through one of the reverse lookup services. I'm just glad I didn't tell him any more personal information. This was a lesson learned, hopefully not too late. BE CAUTIOUS!
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| 6/19/2008 11:40:17 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
nodramaneeded
Tulsa, OK
age: 29
| He won't be able to look you up, it was your cell number. Next time send your picture through an email. (Also, you can email the pictures from your phone to yourself first)
Do what is comfortable to YOU, and if you feel like you would like to call them, block your number until you want them having your number. Personally I would meet first, I would email, chat and then have the phone conversations.
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| 6/20/2008 1:59:00 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
digiskillz
Conway, AR
age: 44
| *67 then the number you want to call that way even with caller id they can't tell your number.
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| 6/20/2008 11:18:09 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
nodramaneeded
Tulsa, OK
age: 29
| He won't be able to look you up, it was your cell number. Next time send your picture through an email. (Also, you can email the pictures from your phone to yourself first)
Do what is comfortable to YOU, and if you feel like you would like to call them, block your number until you want them having your number. Personally I would NOT meet first, I would email, chat and then have the phone conversations.
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| 6/20/2008 9:15:59 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
ladyinoz
Wichita, KS
age: 61
| I tried sending picture from my phone to my email but it didn't come thru. That's why I went ahead and sent cell to cell. Glad to know about *67. Thanks everyone.
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| 6/23/2008 8:57:02 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
age: 43
| A phone conversation does not constitute a 'meeting'.
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| 6/23/2008 9:03:18 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 49
| for me I like to know someone a bit here online watch the posts then if I'm still interested then talk with them on the phone get to know them of course both places you can still tell lies. It happens. When you meet in person it still can happen. There is no guarantees in life even if you were to meeet someone offline and start to date. It's called trust and it takes me a bit to give mine to someone. JMO
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| 6/23/2008 10:26:34 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
insomniac554
New York, NY
age: 26
| Definitely phone conversation before meeting. E-mail tag is too easy to script beforehand, phone conversations are in the moment, so it is much easier to gauge how much, or how little, you relate to someone.
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| 6/23/2008 5:39:13 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
whitechocolates
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| l normally talk to a prospective date by phone plus emails....for at least 3 weeks!
lf he vanished due to impatience..so be it.
Then you meet at a coffee shop..after 3 weeks you at least have already worked out that your safe.
lf he hangs in there for 3 weeks..you have a tollerant,patient,likely a sincere guy.
Who was willing to do the leg work that can lead on to bigger things.
lts a great test ladies,it works!!
Anything too quick doesnt last..its the same with webcam
Why should a guy be able to hastle you into that on your first chat?...to see if he like you or not if he sees your face?
Bit rude really...theres a sign as well!...go for 2 weeks at least.Hes still hanging in there because he actually likes what you say.YOU as a person.
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| 6/24/2008 10:53:13 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
ireneinmia
Miami, FL
age: 41
| 1st meeting on phone. definitly. just for the simple fact that alot of poeple lie on their profile, and probably lie on their computer conversations, then why waste your time meeting them in person, when it is sometimes easier to screan them on the phone. i usually can tell within one or two conversations if i have something in common with the guy or not. if they pass the phone coversation, then i agree to meet them in person. also having a cell number you can call them at different hours to make sure they are single and not married. because we all know married men can not answer their phones after a certain time since they are probably home with the wife.
this does nto guarantee you that when you pass all of these meeting them in person will be good or bad, but at least you can spare yourself a little of agony.
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| 6/30/2008 2:16:19 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
clubkid66
Brooklyn, NY
age: 41
| Whatever is more comfortable.
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| 7/4/2008 10:13:56 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
age: 52
| I most definately prefer to talk over the phone before meeting in person..I had a similar experience more than once..as soon as we talked over the phone, I knew instantly there would be no meeting in person...alot can come through over the phone that doesnt show up in emailing or IM...
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| 7/6/2008 10:03:12 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
crazygroupie
Murrieta, CA
age: 54
| Phone and emails first.......then meet in neutral location.
Then as an added precaution check for exits so you can make a quick get-a-way if you have to.....LOL
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| 7/13/2008 3:20:58 PM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
writer65
Plainfield, NJ
age: 43
| Phone first. I emailed a guy a few times and then we talked on the phone. He was nice and all, but when he said the age on his profile was wrong and then told me that he doesn't expect the first date to end at dinner - I said my good-byes and then sent him a "good luck in your search" email and ended all communication.
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| 7/14/2008 12:43:00 AM | 1st meeting on phone or in person? | |
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 61
| God--what a typical Jersey slob that guy was. Better luck next time. Thank God you were on the phone.
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