geminisue
Euclid, OH
age: 63
| we haven't met yet, and when we talk, it is all about getting together sexually. We both want to get to know each other first, and find out if we get along together in other ways, too. But we both we so much has been shared, we won't be able to wait, so we need help to correct this situation before we meet. He's almost 40, single, doesn't want children, very caring, helped me in many of my own situations without being upset with me, only caring and loving. Please anyone, please give us your ideas.
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| all you talk about is SEX...... well thats all you are going to have dear lady....what else do you talk about??At his age i would assume he is a randy bull waiting at the gate..Keep it bolted for a bit .. 
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 48
| If all you do is talk about sex, I really don't see how that is getting to know one another. Shoulnd't you get to know each other first? jmo
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zeanah
Clarion, PA
age: 49
| Oh Gee...I too do not want to burst your bubble. But...you ask, so here goes.
I don't know how long you have been doing online chatting, talking on the telephone or meeting others??? I have done it enough to know, that I NEVER count on any real connection until we actually meet in person. Sure it's great to connect well online or on the phone, but the real key here is meeting face to face.
Talking about sex before you meet is not a good sign. It seems it has been a big topic in your friendship and it concerns me about his intentions. You are 63, he is 40. Many younger men approach older women online to get some action. They say all the right things to make you feel sexy and pretty. When in fact, they are just saying it to get in your pants. If you respected each other, then this would not be a problem. If you were both sincere about your intentions of the relationship and truly wanting to "get to know one another" then this would not be an issue.
Be very careful! When you meet,you may not even connect in chemistry or attraction to one another. It is best to meet in public where you are not alone , so you can talk and only talk. DO NOT go off alone because I assure you, it sounds as if it will certainly turn into a sexual situation. If that's all you want, then it's no problem. If you want more, then having sex "may" not be a good way to start anything long term. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not.
Red Flags for me is...he is much younger....he is talking about sex before you even meet...you have not met yet face to face....this is not good for your heart if you feel you want more than a sexual encounter.
JMO...Good Luck!
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geminisue
Euclid, OH
age: 63
| I thank all of you and must say my eyes are opened, and need to share, I thought I was only just having fun,never thinking it was going to be more, stopped talking because of all the sex talk, and than started again two months later.
What's hard for me to understand is why would he act so caring, if he just wanted sex, and if that is what it was, why hasn't he made arrangements with me yet? He is so willing, to make appendages. We live one state away, and I let him know, I would not move there, my family is here. He said, with his business, he could do it anyplace, and he said he could sell his house and buy another one here.
He knows about my health problems, and tells me he will care for me forever, if we were together. It's only been in the last nine months, that I have been seeing younger men, but only because when I tried to see men my age, they had dysfunctional problems, god upset, and took it out on me. This isn't like me at all, went many years without sex, but just seem to want it more and more. I've already went through change of life, so the only other idea I have for this is maybe the meds I take, the health problems I have, and yes being lonesome too. But do I feel good afterwards, while he's here yes, the next day No, I am getting counseling, but it is not helping much.
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