| 6/23/2008 7:32:11 PM | So here we sit..... | |
trustme086again
Radcliff, KY
age: 37
| So, you are looking for your "best friend". the "one for you"....you may have found them, or started the relationship towards that goal....do you stop flirting on here? Or is flirting an innocent pass time that should just be taken with a grain of salt?
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| 6/23/2008 7:35:23 PM | So here we sit..... | |
blueyedbobbie
Poultney, VT
age: 37
| So, you are looking for your "best friend". the "one for you"....you may have found them, or started the relationship towards that goal....do you stop flirting on here? Or is flirting an innocent pass time that should just be taken with a grain of salt?
i think there is nothing wrong with meaningless flirting as long as you make it known you are seeing someone and are here just for fun. jmo
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| 6/23/2008 7:36:05 PM | So here we sit..... | |
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
| Good question....but if the relationship is stable and both are secure, then the harmless flirting should be ok. It's no different than being out in public doing it as long as you don't act on it. We are human and I wouldn't expect my man to NOT flirt as long as he does it lightly like "you look pretty today" to a beautiful woman...thats no big deal....I know he would be coming home to me.
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| 6/23/2008 7:42:31 PM | So here we sit..... | |
irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
| I am a ruthless flirt, but I have never let it cross a line. He knows this about me and accpeted it, as a side of my personality.
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| 6/23/2008 7:44:56 PM | So here we sit..... | |
sweetiepie1977
Jacksonville, FL
age: 31
| I am a ruthless flirt, but I have never let it cross a line. He knows this about me and accpeted it, as a side of my personality.
My man has too....he knows its just who I am but that I wouldn't cross the line!
 sweetbaby!
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| 6/23/2008 7:46:28 PM | So here we sit..... | |
likketysplit
Paris, ON
age: 53
| my daughters (both grown) constantly bust me for being a flirt - waitresses, etc. But they know it's just in fun, nothing serious. I think if someone has a playful personality, and their sense of humour leans that way, then it's going to happen, and doesn't mean anything.
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| 6/23/2008 7:47:46 PM | So here we sit..... | |
annigma6
Madison, WI
age: 34
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting that you CAN see on these boards (even tho the majority of the flirting on here, I feel, can cross the line), but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
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| 6/23/2008 7:49:37 PM | So here we sit..... | |
likketysplit
Paris, ON
age: 53
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
Well said. What we may feel is innocent tomfoolery may in fact be hurtful to our partner. It behooves us to try to tune in to our partners feelings and concerns, and not create needless problems. Relationships are difficult enough!
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| 6/23/2008 7:50:34 PM | So here we sit..... | |
trustme086again
Radcliff, KY
age: 37
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
OH NO...she did not just use the word "respect"! Damn she just comes from out of no wheres with this stuff. And whats odd is she makes sense!
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| 6/23/2008 7:51:33 PM | So here we sit..... | |
likketysplit
Paris, ON
age: 53
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
OH NO...she did not just use the word "respect"! Damn she just comes from out of no wheres with this stuff. And whats odd is she makes sense!
Be very careful with her Trustme - she is very skilled at plying her wily, womanly ways!
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| 6/23/2008 7:52:45 PM | So here we sit..... | |
annigma6
Madison, WI
age: 34
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
Well said. What we may feel is innocent tomfoolery may in fact be hurtful to our partner. It behooves us to try to tune in to our partners feelings and concerns, and not create needless problems. Relationships are difficult enough!
EXACTLY! And trying to say this to the other person may get you nowhere, becuz they don't think that it's a big deal. And to them, maybe it's not. But it really could be to me....
It's kind of a touchy tightrope you need to walk, here....
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| 6/23/2008 7:53:46 PM | So here we sit..... | |
trustme086again
Radcliff, KY
age: 37
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
OH NO...she did not just use the word "respect"! Damn she just comes from out of no wheres with this stuff. And whats odd is she makes sense! Be very careful with her Trustme - she is very skilled at plying her wily, womanly ways!
LoL....I aint skeert! LOL, what she gonna do, drive here and kick my butt....LOL
But tank you for the warning, appreciate it Sir
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| 6/23/2008 7:59:23 PM | So here we sit..... | |
itsjustme4
Stanton, NE
age: 35
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
Well said. What we may feel is innocent tomfoolery may in fact be hurtful to our partner. It behooves us to try to tune in to our partners feelings and concerns, and not create needless problems. Relationships are difficult enough!
Just went through this situation a bit a go............the person I was talking to and I didn't agree. I was hurt and he didn't feel that I should have been. Different personality types handle things differently..........so I guess it is an individual thing.
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| 6/23/2008 8:03:30 PM | So here we sit..... | |
annigma6
Madison, WI
age: 34
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
Well said. What we may feel is innocent tomfoolery may in fact be hurtful to our partner. It behooves us to try to tune in to our partners feelings and concerns, and not create needless problems. Relationships are difficult enough! Just went through this situation a bit a go............the person I was talking to and I didn't agree. I was hurt and he didn't feel that I should have been. Different personality types handle things differently..........so I guess it is an individual thing.
I also think that a lot of people get on here and like the attention they can get from more than one person...it makes you feel attractive again when you weren't feeling that way in real life. So it's hard to give it all up for the attention of just ONE person. Not saying that everyone on here is like that, but I'm rapidly finding that there are quite a few on here that ARE.
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| 6/23/2008 8:09:19 PM | So here we sit..... | |
likketysplit
Paris, ON
age: 53
| I don't know. I'm kind of torn on this one. I guess I see nothing wrong with the harmless "innocent" flirting done on these boards, but I also feel that if you find someone that you want to be with, you shouldn't need to do the outrageous flirting with everyone else on here, too. You should be happy to do the heavier, more outrageous flirting with the one you are with.
I try to keep the more outrageous stuff down when I'm with someone, in respect to them and their feelings. But I also know there are quite a few others that don't feel the same way. And that can hurt.
Well said. What we may feel is innocent tomfoolery may in fact be hurtful to our partner. It behooves us to try to tune in to our partners feelings and concerns, and not create needless problems. Relationships are difficult enough! Just went through this situation a bit a go............the person I was talking to and I didn't agree. I was hurt and he didn't feel that I should have been. Different personality types handle things differently..........so I guess it is an individual thing. I also think that a lot of people get on here and like the attention they can get from more than one person...it makes you feel attractive again when you weren't feeling that way in real life. So it's hard to give it all up for the attention of just ONE person. Not saying that everyone on here is like that, but I'm rapidly finding that there are quite a few on here that ARE.
How could you ever feel unattractive! 
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