| 6/30/2008 12:50:26 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
stedmo
Phoenix, AZ
age: 52
| Childless singles are such a minority.
One I find myself in.
Is it a positive aspect or viewed negatively ?
Are people with children more likely to gravitate towards others likewise?
what are your thoughts… 
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| 6/30/2008 1:03:01 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
1lastchance
Lima, OH
age: 55
| I never had any children either, so I don't know.
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| 6/30/2008 1:26:02 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
convoluted
Redford, MI
age: 51
| Well sir, I can only speak from the parent side of this issue. Having had sole custody of my daughter since her second birthday, I have experienced all sort of different reactions throughout the twenty years that I have remained a single, custodial father. Dates were not difficult to acquire, but building a relationship was very difficult. The reason for the difficulty could be directly attributed to the fact that I had a child at home. This seemed consistent whether my date had children or not. I can only speak for myself, and do not put this forward as a generalization, but in my experience, I have to say that I would have benefited far more in the relationship world having been childless. But to be absolutely honest, I would not have revised my circumstances for any reason on earth.
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| 6/30/2008 1:28:54 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
huskertomboy
Hiawatha, KS
age: 51 online now!
| Being a mother of two with five grandbabes I guess that entitles me to give my opinion. Speaking for myself Stedmo, it has no influence on me either way whether a man has children or not. Although I make it understood that my children and theirs are important to me and a big part of my life. But I would hope he would want to be a part of that. My children just want me to be happy and trust my instincts so any man I became involved with they would accept and treat with respect. Otherwise Mom would have to get out that can of you know what...
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| 6/30/2008 1:30:35 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
jo5256
Elgin, IL
age: 51
| I can see where it may be viewed negatively, but, if you think about it, not everyone can have children for various reasons. That alone should have no bearing on whether they are dateable or not. There is so much more that is added into determining whether I would be interested in dating a person or not. Personally I look to see if they have been married before, how many times, children or not, have they raised children even if they are not their own, How long were they married, Age, personality, chemistry, things in common and so much more.
It's complex, but not--meaning it's that gut feeling as you get to know someone and taking the time to do that. If someone makes a decision not to date because of the fact the person doesn't have any children, or that is a negative mark against them, then they are not willing to go deeper and find out about the person and in my opinion they are not the type of person that I would be willing to date anyway.
Don't know if that makes sense or not-- but It's my humble opinion and I'm sticking to it!!!
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| 6/30/2008 1:32:31 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
ellyrockaway
Rockaway Beach, MO
age: 57
| Husker, I second that emotion: and stold for less typing
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| 6/30/2008 1:39:28 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
1mauibabe1
Lahaina, HI
age: 52
| It does not really matter to me if he has kids or not. As long as he understands that my kids and my grand kids are the very soul of my life.... If he has kids I would want them and mine to be part of ONE family... He would also have to be able to stand up to his kids for US... My kids love me and want me to be happy... I would not have to Stand up for US as long as we treat each other good. One should not let the kids come between them.
Hey stedmo hows the pond of blue????
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| 6/30/2008 1:43:40 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
smiles4ualways
Colonial Beach, VA
age: 52
| to date childless or to date with child. m,y felings on this is that I feel at our age our children, or wait! your children should be grown if not almost there, so it is now time to enjoy the rewards fo your sacrifice for all those years. I would not be interested in dating someone, or posibly getting into a relationships with someone who has young children, and by young I mean under 10 yrs of age. Yet being of open mind, I leave it to chance, that if I do fall for someone with a child, well then changes to my ways of thinking will have to occur, and that is what will take place. so I guess I can say, she'd have to knock my socks off with her charm, and it may happend.
" and that's all I got to say about that."
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| 6/30/2008 2:12:24 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
tara7c
Westerville, OH
age: 50
| I don't have any children...but I haven't been single long enough or dated enough to know whether it makes a difference or not. A few guys have indicated to me that it was a good thing. I don't know.
Personally, I think it would be wonderful to find a man who has children who would accept me and come to love me as I would them. If that were the case, at least I would possibly have "grandchildren"...if all went well. Now...if his children didn't accept me...it probably wouldn't be a good idea to stay together as that would most likely be a strain on the relationship.
I don't know if men with children would see a childless woman as not capable of dealing with children...but, I have experience working with about 25 children every day for 26 years...so it's not like I'm inexperienced with them. In general, children love being around me and think I'm alot of fun...so I don't think that would be a problem.
Overall, I don't really consider whether a man has children or not when I want to get to know him. It's him that I would be living with the rest of my life...ummm...hopefully his children wouldn't be living with us all those years....yikes! But...I hear the "move back in rate" is rather high. 
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| 6/30/2008 3:31:07 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
junebug101
Coalinga, CA
age: 51
| I don't have any children either, but I would love to meet a man that has children that would be willing to except me, so I can become a part of a family
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| 6/30/2008 4:44:09 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
midnightmoon123
Albemarle, NC
age: 51
| I've raised my 3 boys. I wouldn't mind if a man had teenagers or grown children but I wouldn't get involved if he had small children. I didn't realize this until I started online dating, but there are alot of men out there well over 50 with small children and that's fine. I just don't want that responsiblilty again.
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| 6/30/2008 6:01:33 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
pylgram
Checotah, OK
age: 59
| I find children entertaining and wouldn't mind little one's at all.
Most of us have grandchildren and love them as much as our children.
I don't have any grandchildren yet and it doesn't look like I will any time soon but, I would welcome a woman who has little ones.
Pylgram
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| 6/30/2008 6:15:52 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
whalemstr
Corning, CA
age: 51
| crap
smiles
won't
date
me!!
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| 6/30/2008 6:16:57 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
jeannieoncemore
Warrensburg, MO
age: 56
| Try not having children AND not having ever been married!!!! Now, there's a situation that makes you REALLY strange! But, I think being on this site has helped me realize my flaws...I think I understand alot more about why I never married. AND, that's a good thing!
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| 6/30/2008 6:49:21 PM | Singles... Without Children | |
h82w8
Homer City, PA
age: 56
| As far as me dating a man, it really doesn't matter whether he has children or not, except possibly a father who lets his children dictate his life.... I think that would be very difficult for me to handle; I might give it a try, but it wouldn't take much for me to back out of the relationship. And I'm not talking about the father spending time with his kids, but letting them manipulate him to the point that his entire life revolves around his child/ren.
The age/s of the kids doesn't really matter, either. For most of us in this age group, our children are now adults, but there are some fathers who started later in life, and have teenage children or even younger. Although that would be more challenging at my age, I think it would be doable.
I would like to find a man who is a father and either already a grandfather, or has that possibility, since my 2 sons aren't in any hurry to give me grandchildren. But that is only a dream, and it doesn't mean I wouldn't get involved with a childless man.
As for my kids, my sons are both very independent and have accepted any man that I've dated, and would not interfere. In fact, I think that both of my sons will be very happy if/when I do have a man in my life.
~M
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