| 6/30/2008 7:59:20 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
joss70
Lexington, VA
age: 29
| I had to cut & paste, after I saw everyone under the sun had a BBW.. Read mine ppl I think it would help you men understand the WAR under way with us woman....After a million threads....HaHa, BBW is exactly that not an interpretation of it!!! We all should STOP and think, be happy woman are HAPPY with themselves finally....
BBW & body image: Why us woman can't stop asking this same OLD QUESTION!!!!!!
An important theme running throughout much of the discourse concerning the adolescent female is that of the ideal archetypal woman having a perfect body. The idea and image of the perfect female body is one which has a pervasive influence on woman's consciousness and first creates conflict during puberty. Woman in western cultures are bombarded with images of "ideal" woman. An historical analysis will show us that this ideal is wholly socially constructed. The rounded contours of the Renaissance ideal contrasts sharply with the asexual flatness of the 20's flappers. In more recent times, the 1950's ideal was buxom and curvacious, in contrast to the ideal of the starved appearance of the 60's woman. As woman squeeze, constrict and pad their bodies in order to comply with some artificial ideal they are internalizing the message that the natural body is unsightly, not attractive, and needs to be changed.
The messages in the media warn the young woman to be afraid of her body because it CAN and WILL let her down: by becoming fat, emitting unpleasant odours and bleeding. At the same time, she receives the message that her passport to happiness (you know five ft 4 and only 140lbs) It is through her body that she entices a man, which should be her main objective.
This attitude, which is instilled in adolescence, carries throughout a womans life, resulting in constant worry over weight, appearance and dissatisfaction with her body.
This is called the internalized norm of beauty!
The influence of the female body on the consciousness or behavior of woman has either been exaggerated (in a negative way) or denied, thereby preventing woman from integrating their bodies with their conceptualizations of self, and ultimately producing fragmented and split identities.
So in these threads we pour false aggression out of lack of empowering ourselves with knowledge of our history as woman....That was the point I was trying to get across earlier, we are not talking about big, fat, skinny its beneath that entirely...Wake up woman.....Open your eyes be kind to one another
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| 6/30/2008 8:20:55 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
jessicka
Dellroy, OH
age: 34
| Exactly!!
Stop the madness!!!!
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| 6/30/2008 8:28:13 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
timeforanything
Elkton, MD
age: 26
|  I don't care about size. I am a big guy and i love all people regardless of shape or size. All people are equals in my eyes. BEAUTIFUL!!!
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| 6/30/2008 8:30:15 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| I spent many many years very unhappy because i did not have a big bust...I had to listen constantly to put downs and yes it affected my esteem so much that when i did have a date many years ago the first thing i said to my son was (but i dont have a big enough bust).. I now am happy with with who i am having my health is the most important thing without our health we have nothing...I will be honest enough to say if a man shows interest i still tell him upfront if hes looking for a big bossomed annie hes looking at wrong one...Some scars run deep this is one that is still there but if you dont like me for myself then its your loss not mine... At least the pressure is off myself now I accept myself and I love me too...
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| 6/30/2008 8:32:08 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
onelife2live
Janesville, WI
age: 44
| Do you love yourself?....If yes, than don't worry about it. Sure I'd like to be like Arnold Schwarzenegger but I'm just a skinny white guy...but I love myself.
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| 6/30/2008 8:37:49 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
jessicka
Dellroy, OH
age: 34
| yeah!! REAL men 
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| 6/30/2008 8:45:33 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
joss70
Lexington, VA
age: 29
| I spent many many years very unhappy because i did not have a big bust...I had to listen constantly to put downs and yes it affected my esteem so much that when i did have a date many years ago the first thing i said to my son was (but i dont have a big enough bust).. I now am happy with with who i am having my health is the most important thing without our health we have nothing...I will be honest enough to say if a man shows interest i still tell him upfront if hes looking for a big bossomed annie hes looking at wrong one...Some scars run deep this is one that is still there but if you dont like me for myself then its your loss not mine... At least the pressure is off myself now I accept myself and I love me too... [/quote
That was so wonderful to read, you really have come along way to be able to write about it here!! Thank you...
I love myself too, no one is perfection that is only with God, I only wrote this so maybe just maybe that poor soul could learn something and strive to be better or understand why she felt & acted the way she does...But a better gift than that came from you all being so open with yourselves...  |
| 6/30/2008 8:55:07 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 42 online now!
| You should learn to be comfortable in the skin you're in...
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| 6/30/2008 8:58:31 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51
| Thanks joss it was good to get that off my chest lol
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| 6/30/2008 9:01:32 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
jessicka
Dellroy, OH
age: 34
| I was the early bloomer in high school...I tried everything to cover my chest because they got so much attention from the guys! I remember wishing i could get them reduced because I couldn't even find a prom dress because of them! I hated my body from the age of 16-18!
And then I had 3 kids lol
actually I didn't gain the weight untill after the divorce..I think it might have been a mix of depression and stress but now...I would give anything to have the body I had when I was 18!
I have been so affraid to date because of the weight but then I thought oh well.. this is me and it's not likely to change any time soon... so I would be better to find someone that loves me for WHO I am, and when i lose the weight he will just get an added bonus lol
ahhh feels good to vent
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| 6/30/2008 9:01:59 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
tink48
Anderson, IN
age: 48
| are u for real
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| 6/30/2008 9:06:34 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
joss70
Lexington, VA
age: 29
| Is who for real??? We are finally having a nice time writing and chatting!!! You must have missed something, sorry...
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| 6/30/2008 9:15:55 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
jessicka
Dellroy, OH
age: 34
| Last time I checked I was real
And hey this is saving me alot of money!
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| 6/30/2008 9:25:29 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
joss70
Lexington, VA
age: 29
| Yes since we're all delusional we might as well use each other instead of paying that $90 a visit RIGHT....LOL
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| 6/30/2008 9:25:51 PM | BODY image whats up with that... | |
ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 48
| It's a shame that there is so much emphasis on the physical for some/many.
If you aren't white/black enough, look too ethnic or not ethnic enough, don't have the right color eyes or hair, not thin enough, too thin, too curvey, not curvy enoug, are you then discounted in "value", undesireable, unattractive? Bodies change over time, gravity, age, use or non-use and sometimes abuse, health, childbirth, challages of life.
Society changes it's mind on trends and dictates the concept of "ideal" that individuals may or may not agree with. What ticks people off is the attempt to invalidate thier worth as a person based on these arbitrary ideals.
To put it in context without stepping on toes, I think a vintage jag is the hottest thing on wheels with it's sleek lines and ample power. They are sure head turners and the attention you get driving them brings a smile to your face and pumps the ego for sure. I've owned some. Don't now. They are expensive. Everything about them is expensive: The price tag; They get poor gas mileage; The parts; High maintenance with specialized needs from trained mechanics; the insurance and they are unreliable. There's a standing joke about marrying into a jag mechanic and having three of them as two are constantly in the shop. So hey, if you're a jag person willing to step up for all of that go for it, enjoy! Does that mean that BMW's, Porsches, Harleys, scooters, 18-wheelers, delivery vans, Pickup trucks and VW bugs are useless undesireable junk? If we all liked the same things, had the same needs, and budget, there would only be one model of vehicle instead of the diverse variety that exists.
Why is it so different because we're talking about people - which are usually not manufactured, certainly not interchangeable but flesh and feeling, thinking blood? Hell, try to tell some one their dog or harley is ugly and don't think you won't have a fight on your hands. Most of us have better manners (and sense) than to do that. When did it become acceptable to degrade a person because of how they look or what they weigh? If you aren't attracted, have a preference, are in the market for that Jag that's cool. But to tell someone thier Honda a** should be towed for scrap is just plain boorish and rude.
That's all I gotta say about it.
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