| 7/18/2008 8:20:23 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
| Started talking to a guy on here, and he seemed great, but he would never call me at night, only during the day when he was at work or away from home. BIG RED FLAG! Sad, because he seems really nice, and I think I could have something with him, but he's probably either married or living with someone, or at least involved.
I learned to pay attention to that little feeling in the pit of your stomach after the last relationship! I was so blinded by what I wanted to see, I didn't see what was slapping me right in my face. By the time I did, I ended up blinded by anger and hatred toward this man. Not even his fault, really, now that time has passed. I just refused to see the warning signs and chose to believe the lies.
Not this time.
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| 7/18/2008 8:35:32 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
sophias
Greenville, SC
age: 22
| Started talking to a guy on here, and he seemed great, but he would never call me at night, only during the day when he was at work or away from home. BIG RED FLAG! Sad, because he seems really nice, and I think I could have something with him, but he's probably either married or living with someone, or at least involved.
I learned to pay attention to that little feeling in the pit of your stomach after the last relationship! I was so blinded by what I wanted to see, I didn't see what was slapping me right in my face. By the time I did, I ended up blinded by anger and hatred toward this man. Not even his fault, really, now that time has passed. I just refused to see the warning signs and chose to believe the lies.
Not this time.
you learned a good lesson then...
not everyone learns
from mistakes
but you did...
when you see these, run...   What is a good lesson? Jump to a conclusion without thought or consideration of facts?
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| 7/18/2008 8:38:24 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
| You dumped a guy because he didn't call you at night? That sounds odd.
Did you even ask him for an explanation or did you just come to the conclusion he was married on your own?
Did you ever consider he went to bed (by himself) early?
Look, it's a "been there, done that" situation, and yes, I did ask. No answer.
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| 7/18/2008 8:45:11 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
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Tell us the rest of the story please and not about the previous guy. Thanks.
Maybe the guy doesn't have a telephone at home.
The guy has a cell phone with free long distance (which I am). The only way he contacted me was through here, and through his work email, never from a personal email. I know he has a computer at home, because he talked about it. He gave me his phone number, so I called him a couple of times at night, and he didn't answer. No, I didn't leave a message, because he said he was going home to watch a movie after work. Told me he would call me later. I was worried he had been in an accident, because he drives the interstate and a very dangerous stretch of state highway getting home, so I called.
I've emailed him telling him my concerns and he said he didn't get the email, but it was sent to his work email, so he would have checked it sometime that day, right?
I'm telling you, something just ain't right.
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| 7/18/2008 8:46:31 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
angmar
Bowling Green, KY
age: 49
| You dumped a guy because he didn't call you at night? That sounds odd.
Did you even ask him for an explanation or did you just come to the conclusion he was married on your own?
Did you ever consider he went to bed (by himself) early?
Look, it's a "been there, done that" situation, and yes, I did ask. No answer.
Okay... and therefore, having decided on the reason (and you may be right, I have no idea), you're telling us about this because....theraputic, getting it straight in your own mind, looking for support or affirmation by people who know neither of you or the situation?
I really don't understand these awful types of posts 
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| 7/18/2008 8:50:27 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
| You dumped a guy because he didn't call you at night? That sounds odd.
Did you even ask him for an explanation or did you just come to the conclusion he was married on your own?
Did you ever consider he went to bed (by himself) early?
Look, it's a "been there, done that" situation, and yes, I did ask. No answer. Okay... and therefore, having decided on the reason (and you may be right, I have no idea), you're telling us about this because....theraputic, getting it straight in your own mind, looking for support or affirmation by people who know neither of you or the situation?
I really don't understand these awful types of posts
I'm sorry, but I didn't ask for your opinion, and I don't have to explain my motivations to you. You're really ticking me off now, and that isn't easy to do.
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| 7/18/2008 8:57:58 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
angmar
Bowling Green, KY
age: 49
| You dumped a guy because he didn't call you at night? That sounds odd.
Did you even ask him for an explanation or did you just come to the conclusion he was married on your own?
Did you ever consider he went to bed (by himself) early?
Look, it's a "been there, done that" situation, and yes, I did ask. No answer. Okay... and therefore, having decided on the reason (and you may be right, I have no idea), you're telling us about this because....theraputic, getting it straight in your own mind, looking for support or affirmation by people who know neither of you or the situation?
I really don't understand these awful types of posts I'm sorry, but I didn't ask for your opinion, and I don't have to explain my motivations to you. You're really ticking me off now, and that isn't easy to do.
Excellent! I don't know if you've noticed, but you put yourself and story into a public forum. If you only want peoples thoughts and feedback that align with your own opinions or needs, then I would suggest this is not the place to do it.
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| 7/18/2008 9:41:33 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
rig216
Red Deer, AB
age: 46
| Have you both made a commitment for a date?
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| 7/18/2008 9:44:36 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
| Not a date, but to meet. I told him in the last email that if he can give me a legitimate reason why he won't call me at night, I'd meet him, but not until. I figure if he really wants to meet me, and he's for real, he'll tell me. If not, didn't lose anything because I never even met him.
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| 7/18/2008 9:55:41 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
roger4314
Baytown, TX
age: 62
| I work second shift and rotate into a week of third shift once every 5 weeks. I'd probably drive you batty with my crazy communication times. Lighten up....maybe he just has a nutty job like mine.
Flash
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| 7/18/2008 10:10:59 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
rig216
Red Deer, AB
age: 46
| Not a date, but to meet. I told him in the last email that if he can give me a legitimate reason why he won't call me at night, I'd meet him, but not until. I figure if he really wants to meet me, and he's for real, he'll tell me. If not, didn't lose anything because I never even met him.
You did not have a commitment for a date or to meet. If he didn't call you at night, was meeting him during the day would be a waste of your time. Think about it, you could have asked him the same question face to face.
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| 7/18/2008 10:18:59 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
florida_gardens
North Port, FL
age: 56
| Not a date, but to meet. I told him in the last email that if he can give me a legitimate reason why he won't call me at night, I'd meet him, but not until. I figure if he really wants to meet me, and he's for real, he'll tell me. If not, didn't lose anything because I never even met him.
You did not have a commitment for a date or to meet. If he didn't call you at night, was meeting him during the day would be a waste of your time. Think about it, you could have asked him the same question face to face.
Honestly, yes, it would, because he doesn't live in the same town as I do, and we were going to meet in the middle, which is about a 40-45 minute drive. I'd rather not waste the time and gas to get bad news. If that makes me a bad person, so be it.
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| 7/18/2008 10:28:57 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
keykeper34
Boise, ID
age: 54
| Perhaps he had a room mate. Some men are very private about their thoughts.
Goodness he might have been living with his sister or something, and didn't
want to use her phone. He might have had a pay as you go phone too. Lot's
of reasons. Just because a man doesn't call you at nite doesn't mean he is married.
Goodness no, sometimes men have second jobs where the boss doesn't allow cell phone
call during work hours. I would give the man the benefit of at least meeting him.
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| 7/18/2008 10:38:07 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
heykoolaidman
South Bend, IN
age: 36
| You dumped a guy because he didn't call you at night? That sounds odd.
Did you even ask him for an explanation or did you just come to the conclusion he was married on your own?
Did you ever consider he went to bed (by himself) early?
Great questions thats what I thought as soon as I read her comment.. Me when I get home I eat and crash out I work to much to stay up all night unless its the weekend.
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| 7/18/2008 10:38:57 PM | Shot down before we took flight | |
fredricko
Pico Rivera, CA
age: 49
| if he knew that it was such a big issue with you him not calling you at night,then he would have done so,just to put your mind at ease,seeing that he did not then the reason for not calling you at night is more important than pleasing you,as a man I dont know of many reasons for not calling a woman at night especially after she expressed a concern about it and if there was a legit reason then he would have told you,not difficult to see hes playing cat and mouse,but at least now you get to let him entertain you with his excuses and efforts in a attempt to try and pursue his deceiving motives
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