No one mentioned Financial strain?
Such as, one spouse sitting on HER a** while the other works 6 days a week to provide a decent life style at a good neighborhood so the kids get the best education and can be safe?

Sorry...let me get off my soapbox...


Also...I wonder how much this information really helps if it is in fact coming from Attorneys, think about it.

No divorces and they would be out of business , lol.

How about lyin', cheatin', hidin' shit, drugs???

Was youre ex a psychotic mexican chick?

I agree, but that's from AOL's poll, not my thoughts

I believe that another major factor in the divorce rate is the fact that people get into relationships and marriages for the wrong reasons to begin with. For some it may be that they fear the loneliness without it, some may feel the need for the financial security, the need to have a family, the list goes on. Therefore people take being in love too lightly for the simple fact that they are too impatient to wait on real, honest and true love. People tend to "settle" for who they think they can be happy with then later in the relationship/marriage they reazlize that they are truly not happy with the person they are with and resent being in the relationship..therefore eventually ending in breakup/divorce. If two people TRULY love each other they will be willing to compromise and work through any issues that come up in the relationship. LOVE CONQUERS ALL! It's worth waiting for.

Top Reasons Marriages Fail


9. Being Opposites. The saying goes opposites attract but divorce attorneys advice couples to be more alike than different in order to last.
** Definitely true. The concept of opposites attracting will only work in the short-term until both people's true selves begin to emerge.

7. The Grass is Greener. After spending many years in the field, attorneys advice the grass is never greener.
** Usually it's brown and quite wilted. That's why I don't understand why people want go over to where the grass was greener.

4. Second Marriages. Most second marriages fail and there are two basic reasons- 1.) The new spouse is too much like the old spouse and 2.) The raising of step children and dealing with former spouses is too much pressure.
** Shortly after my one and only divorce in September 2002, my sister-in-law told me, "The person person you'll be with will be completely different than anyone else you have dated or married." At first, I thought she was just trying to console me to help me see the light at the end of the tunnel at that time. I realize for a short while now that what she said was truly prophetic, etc. I've dated other people since then, and was in a relationship that lasted a year. However, my sister-in-law is correct. The next person I'll be with will be someone totally unlike anyone else I've been with and such (and I have a pretty good idea of the "how" that person will be able to relate to me).

3. The Marriage Fix. Thinking that marriage, a priest or a minister will change essential attributes of the bride or groom never works.
** Members of my former congregation came to come my place, and spoke condemining things to me (which I refuse to mention) about what would happen if I went through with my divorce. Each person must choose to change, ultimately.

1. Disillusionment. Whirlwind romances and brief courtships make people vulnerable to disillusionment. It's just too easy to paint a rosy picture of the relationship.

its the TOP 10 reasons, not ALL reasons, so i'm sure there are many many more... and i understand each and every one of them...

1-Failure to support each others growth
2-Hypersentivity to control issues
3-Selfishness
4-Taking responsibility to oneself or one actions
5-Forgeting the "or worse" part of the marriage
6-Begining with the end in mind
7-Lack of respect
8-Sneakiness
9-Framing everything compromise as a win-lose proposition
10-Chosing a partner because something is better than nothing

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