| 7/24/2008 7:26:03 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | 
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
| I tell my family and my friends that I love them almost daily. I love them because I know them personally and they are in my life. It is unconditional love. But I don't tell strangers that I love them. I care about people and don't want bad things to happen to them though. Listening to the news upsets me, as I hear of awful things that happen to some and I get real emotional about it at times. I have empathy and sympathy for strangers, but again, I dont love them because I don't know them. I personally think that telling someone you love them is a personal, precious, endearing way of letting them know how you feel. It isn't a word I throw around lightly. I am wondering what someone who uses the word love casually to stangers, says to people they are intimate with, or people who aren't strangers in their life. If I had a partner that told strangers that he loved them all the time, to me it would lessen the impact when he said it to me.  How do you feel about telling strangers you love them?
| | 7/24/2008 8:20:48 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | justme1952
Rural Retreat, VA
age: 56
| When i tell a stranger that I love them, it's because i really do love them with a godly love. And quite frankly, that might be the only time they hear it. People need to be loved. There is a godly love and there is a personl love. I'm sure people know the difference.
God bless,
Char
| | 7/24/2008 8:23:59 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | 
jmk83
Florissant, MO
age: 25
| I tell my family and my friends that I love them almost daily. I love them because I know them personally and they are in my life. It is unconditional love. But I don't tell strangers that I love them. I care about people and don't want bad things to happen to them though. Listening to the news upsets me, as I hear of awful things that happen to some and I get real emotional about it at times. I have empathy and sympathy for strangers, but again, I dont love them because I don't know them. I personally think that telling someone you love them is a personal, precious, endearing way of letting them know how you feel. It isn't a word I throw around lightly. I am wondering what someone who uses the word love casually to stangers, says to people they are intimate with, or people who aren't strangers in their life. If I had a partner that told strangers that he loved them all the time, to me it would lessen the impact when he said it to me. How do you feel about telling strangers you love them?
I agree with you that it is a word that gets used too much and has lost some of its true meaning in our society. Besides family i dont use it much. I dont use with a girlfriend until we have been together a long time. For me its way to personal i dont like to mislead people expecially women i like alot.
| | 7/24/2008 8:47:30 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
| When i tell a stranger that I love them, it's because i really do love them with a godly love. And quite frankly, that might be the only time they hear it. People need to be loved. There is a godly love and there is a personl love. I'm sure people know the difference.
God bless,
Char
I can understand compassion for others and genuine concern, but to me the word has become sort of generic to a degree. When people I don't know tell me that they love me, I think to myself....really?... but you don't even know me. I know there is a difference in love we feel for our friends, spouses, and family but it is the same word that is used referring to stangers. IMO it just seems to lessen the meaning. And it is true, some people need love in their life, but then there are some that are afraid of it.
| | 7/24/2008 8:50:47 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
jmk83
Florissant, MO
age: 25
| When i tell a stranger that I love them, it's because i really do love them with a godly love. And quite frankly, that might be the only time they hear it. People need to be loved. There is a godly love and there is a personl love. I'm sure people know the difference.
God bless,
Char I can understand compassion for others and genuine concern, but to me the word has become sort of generic to a degree. When people I don't know tell me that they love me, I think to myself....really?... but you don't even know me. I know there is a difference in love we feel for our friends, spouses, and family but it is the same word that is used referring to stangers. IMO it just seems to lessen the meaning. And it is true, some people need love in their life, but then there are some that are afraid of it.
That is very true i was afraid of love for a long time. I was also afraid of taking help, advice, or anything since i was always told that nothing is free and people will want something back.
| | 7/25/2008 5:11:01 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | 
classicsfan
Charlottetown, PE
age: 51
| The word 'love' is just like any other word in the English language. It has specific meanings within a certain context.
To tell someone you love them I within a relationship has a very different meaning than to say "I love dark chocolate" (the love affair with chocolate would likely last longer  ).
Outside of my immediate family, I don't use the word for describing my relationships with anyone. At the same time, I can say that I have a great love for this world and for the human race. Same word, different context. Ain't English grand.
| | 7/25/2008 5:31:07 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
| The word 'love' is just like any other word in the English language. It has specific meanings within a certain context.
To tell someone you love them I within a relationship has a very different meaning than to say "I love dark chocolate" (the love affair with chocolate would likely last longer ).
Outside of my immediate family, I don't use the word for describing my relationships with anyone. At the same time, I can say that I have a great love for this world and for the human race. Same word, different context. Ain't English grand.
Yes, good old English, one of the more complicated lauguages to learn if you don't already speak it, and sometimes even if you do. And the word love is used in many ways, and can be interpreted differently by almost everyone who uses it. I use the term when I talk about inanimate things, like you said, things I really like....but casual stangers..I may use the word, like, or that I care for them as fellow humans, but I have a hard time with telling them I love them.
| | 7/25/2008 5:43:42 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 89
| English is a sob...takes words where it can find them....try greek for "love." ...But say it in french to sound romantic!!!...
| | 7/25/2008 8:13:21 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | 
lees224
Cohoes, NY
age: 51
| In Tennis,Love-Means Score is nothing...which still means a tie..But One must still play in order to recieve this score...It is always good to try and love,no matter what the circumstance...Friend or stranger..You will never Know Who May be stranger,yet become a best Friend...
| | 7/25/2008 8:21:42 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | sewright
Evansville, WI
age: 68
| In Tennis,Love-Means Score is nothing...which still means a tie..But One must still play in order to recieve this score...It is always good to try and love,no matter what the circumstance...Friend or stranger..You will never Know Who May be stranger,yet become a best Friend...
I can relate to that. There was one person on this forum whom at one time I was quite angry
at. Through the grace of God this person is now one of my very closest friends. There walk with God totally inspires me. What a blessing this person has become.
Hugs
Danielle
| | 7/25/2008 8:28:09 AM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
| In Tennis,Love-Means Score is nothing...which still means a tie..But One must still play in order to recieve this score...It is always good to try and love,no matter what the circumstance...Friend or stranger..You will never Know Who May be stranger,yet become a best Friend...
I agree a stanger may very well become a best friend, but you have to get to know them first and establish a relationship with them , I think, then with sharing experiences, and time together, you love them, but not until then, I dont' know how this can happen. JMO
| | 7/25/2008 1:57:58 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | 
curiousone2
Springfield, IL
age: 42
| I tell my family and my friends that I love them almost daily. I love them because I know them personally and they are in my life. It is unconditional love. But I don't tell strangers that I love them. I care about people and don't want bad things to happen to them though. Listening to the news upsets me, as I hear of awful things that happen to some and I get real emotional about it at times. I have empathy and sympathy for strangers, but again, I dont love them because I don't know them. I personally think that telling someone you love them is a personal, precious, endearing way of letting them know how you feel. It isn't a word I throw around lightly. I am wondering what someone who uses the word love casually to stangers, says to people they are intimate with, or people who aren't strangers in their life. If I had a partner that told strangers that he loved them all the time, to me it would lessen the impact when he said it to me. How do you feel about telling strangers you love them?
I don't tell strangers that I love them generally, But I almost always find something about all people that I love.
I mean, there are many different kinds of love.
there is romantic love, compassionate love, friendship love, parental love, sibling love.
In MY mind, Love is actually a recognition of something valuable in another person,
to me, ( no offence) but in my mind, someone that places a value on love, as if it is a finite thing, is degrading love, because it is limited. you can only Love certain people,
and some people only ONE person??
I love all people, I Love the common source inside of each person that makes them both unique and similar to all of the rest of us.
I thinking Loving someone really means taking the time to find the part of THAT person that you find good, and valuable, not for you personnally, but generally, or universally.
and then when you find that thing, IT is the value that you place on whatever it is that is valuable in that person.
so, for instance something I love about you, is, you have dedicated your life to teaching others, you are caring, and you are Open minded, and kind.
The feeling that I acknowledge as being inherent in you, is the same energy thatw as inherent in every other person, that has taught, cared about others, been open minded, and since I myself am curious , IT is the part of you, that I value.
Laving just means an acknowledgement, and appreciation, and things that you Love, you want to protect and bring more of in your life, so, it is also kind of saying I appreciate you, I got your back,lol
Love Ya Moon,lol
| | 7/25/2008 2:02:37 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
curiousone2
Springfield, IL
age: 42
| When i tell a stranger that I love them, it's because i really do love them with a godly love. And quite frankly, that might be the only time they hear it. People need to be loved. There is a godly love and there is a personl love. I'm sure people know the difference.
God bless,
Char I can understand compassion for others and genuine concern, but to me the word has become sort of generic to a degree. When people I don't know tell me that they love me, I think to myself....really?... but you don't even know me. I know there is a difference in love we feel for our friends, spouses, and family but it is the same word that is used referring to stangers. IMO it just seems to lessen the meaning. And it is true, some people need love in their life, but then there are some that are afraid of it. That is very true i was afraid of love for a long time. I was also afraid of taking help, advice, or anything since i was always told that nothing is free and people will want something back.
The fear inherent in some love, is a part of you, that is afraid of being emberrassed, or hurt.
It therefore sort of, implies falsity, because if you were sure, you wouldn't be afraid.
fear implies you are afraid your investment in another is not a good idea, maybe.
and, most fear in relationships, stems from being afraid of sexual rejection, or your head and your heart are battling because the body says yes, but the head or heart say no.
alot of attractive people will try to get you in bed, but the sex is really only great when the Love is there.
I think the fear, is being unsure of your motives in a way.
bottom line dear, is when you find the right one, YOU wont be afraid, and you will give up the world to be together, it is JUST the way it works.
it is why children leave their parents, and their friends.
| | 7/25/2008 2:02:58 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | | towfrogg
Lawrenceville, GA
age: 52
| I tell my family and my friends that I love them almost daily. I love them because I know them personally and they are in my life. It is unconditional love. But I don't tell strangers that I love them. I care about people and don't want bad things to happen to them though. Listening to the news upsets me, as I hear of awful things that happen to some and I get real emotional about it at times. I have empathy and sympathy for strangers, but again, I dont love them because I don't know them. I personally think that telling someone you love them is a personal, precious, endearing way of letting them know how you feel. It isn't a word I throw around lightly. I am wondering what someone who uses the word love casually to stangers, says to people they are intimate with, or people who aren't strangers in their life. If I had a partner that told strangers that he loved them all the time, to me it would lessen the impact when he said it to me. How do you feel about telling strangers you love them? I don't tell strangers that I love them generally, But I almost always find something about all people that I love.
I mean, there are many different kinds of love.
there is romantic love, compassionate love, friendship love, parental love, sibling love.
In MY mind, Love is actually a recognition of something valuable in another person,
to me, ( no offence) but in my mind, someone that places a value on love, as if it is a finite thing, is degrading love, because it is limited. you can only Love certain people,
and some people only ONE person??
I love all people, I Love the common source inside of each person that makes them both unique and similar to all of the rest of us.
I thinking Loving someone really means taking the time to find the part of THAT person that you find good, and valuable, not for you personnally, but generally, or universally.
and then when you find that thing, IT is the value that you place on whatever it is that is valuable in that person.
so, for instance something I love about you, is, you have dedicated your life to teaching others, you are caring, and you are Open minded, and kind.
The feeling that I acknowledge as being inherent in you, is the same energy thatw as inherent in every other person, that has taught, cared about others, been open minded, and since I myself am curious , IT is the part of you, that I value.
Laving just means an acknowledgement, and appreciation, and things that you Love, you want to protect and bring more of in your life, so, it is also kind of saying I appreciate you, I got your back,lol
Love Ya Moon,lol  
| | 7/25/2008 3:00:29 PM | Do You Use the Word Love Casually? | |
scorpiomoon
Brattleboro, VT
age: 58
| Curious...Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate you, and I am sure if I had the opportunity to get to know you better I would say I love you as a friend too. It's just me, it takes awhile....some people are a little slower when it comes to love, me being one of them.... Peace to you
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