| 8/3/2008 12:11:06 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | | 
potpie71
Gig Harbor, WA
age: 37
| | 1. Sure, why not? We all need friends. | | 2. Um, HELL NO | | 3. That's not fair to the other person | | 4. RED FLAG!! Run, Forrest, Run!! |
So, if you've started a relationship with someone and agreed that it was cool to keep the friends you already have on a dating site... is it OK to contact NEW people of the opposite sex for "friendship"?
Tell me what you think.... I am SO interested to see what others feel about this matter.
How would it make you feel if your partner did this to you?
Thanks in advance.
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| 8/3/2008 12:14:33 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 49
| So, if you've started a relationship with someone and agreed that it was cool to keep the friends you already have on a dating site... is it OK to contact NEW people of the opposite sex for "friendship"?
Tell me what you think.... I am SO interested to see what others feel about this matter.
How would it make you feel if your partner did this to you?
Thanks in advance.
why not.. If your friends and the relationship is based on trust it shouldn't matter. But then I'm not a jealous person.
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| 8/3/2008 2:11:01 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
pallyboy
Ramona, CA
age: 48
| You just can't stop making friends and nobody should want you to. People come into our lives like a gift for a reason. Maybe you are the "gift" that somebody else needs. Why would you isolate yourself from someone who might need what you, their friend has to give them? Why would you cut yourself off from something someone else might have for you?
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| 8/3/2008 4:52:14 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
potpie71
Gig Harbor, WA
age: 37
| I guess I should have been more clear.... soliciting unknown females from ON LINE dating sites, not just in regular, every day life. Has nothing to do with jealousy, really. More of common curtousy and respect for another's feelings. There's a difference... to me, anyway. Anyway, it doesn't matter anymore, and I've asked that this thread be removed. There's more behind this question than I can give, so again, it doesn't matter.
Thanks for the 2 honest replies. No more comments needed. Peace.
[Edited 8/3/2008 4:53:47 AM]
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| 8/3/2008 3:24:55 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
| for me I wouldnt contact more ppl if I was in a relationship..Matter of fact I wouldnt be here at all
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| 8/3/2008 4:51:21 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
potpie71
Gig Harbor, WA
age: 37
| for me I wouldnt contact more ppl if I was in a relationship..Matter of fact I wouldnt be here at all
Thank you. 
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| 8/3/2008 4:55:20 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
roadrisingup
Waldo, OH
age: 39
| I would not do things that
would allow my mate to have doubt in me
not for me
If I have a good mate
I am very loyal
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| 8/3/2008 5:21:16 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
potpie71
Gig Harbor, WA
age: 37
| I would not do things that
would allow my mate to have doubt in me
not for me
If I have a good mate
I am very loyal
THANK YOU!!
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| 8/3/2008 6:01:11 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
kwietkptkatie
Las Vegas, NV
age: 39
| I mean, you're a big girl, no need for permission. Like my gramma used to say, don't let the right hand know what the left is doing!
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| 8/3/2008 7:23:43 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
daspas
Nashville, TN
age: 24
| I feel that if you really care for the person you would have enough respect to not be here. Insecurity lies in everyone so why allow yourself to make that person you care for more insecure about themselves. By you been here, your telling the one you care for that he/she is not interesting enough to have ur full attention or to keep ur attention.
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| 8/3/2008 9:11:11 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
potpie71
Gig Harbor, WA
age: 37
| I feel that if you really care for the person you would have enough respect to not be here. Insecurity lies in everyone so why allow yourself to make that person you care for more insecure about themselves. By you been here, your telling the one you care for that he/she is not interesting enough to have ur full attention or to keep ur attention.
That's ok... you've misunderstood the post. No worries, though. Your points are valid and respected, but again, the post wasn't about being on a site to keep mutual friends.... I erased my last profile, which would have explained it better, but this isn't about me. It was about my partner soliciting strangers of the opposite sex on dating sites, and sharing personal information about our relationship with them.
Thank you for the input... but it's over and no longer a problem for me. Good luck to everyone here!! 
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| 8/3/2008 9:16:13 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
lifetimeskier
Olympia, WA
age: 47
| Oh best of luck and we are doing WA DH party #2 in Bonnie Lake this time, Aug. 9th...Great people...Do you wanna come???
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| 8/3/2008 10:32:27 PM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
| making a friend online is okay..off line i hope we all will continue to make friends even if we find someone. sometimes a friend has a shared interest in something that ur bf or gf might not have. like, i'm studying poli sci and medicine, if i saw that on someones profile i might message them. this might be interests very important to me, but not necessarily to a b/f
i don't think a bf or gf should be sharing personal information about me with a third party,unless its ok with me. but then again, depending on the info, maybe he was just emphasizing to the new friend that he was taken.
"I wanna be the one to walk in the sun" - cyndi lauper
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| 8/20/2008 8:59:27 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
ugrindmebad
Kent, WA
age: 38
| Yes my sweetest bestest friend ever,I understand,I get it ,all I need is only you 
I was a dork,my bad,Ive learned,I am better now,your the only one I love and you know this for a fact,I know you love me also matter of fact.We are faithful to one another without question Baby,you rock n I roll,together we jam!!
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| 8/20/2008 9:03:33 AM | Soliciting "friends" of the opposite sex when in a relationship | |
xlibra75x
Gateway, AR
age: 33
| might as well be....
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