Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? 16

8/4/2008 7:52:24 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
crimsoncruiser Huntsville, AL age: 56	I'm not proud of this....but I think I'm beginning to understand what I put my wife through. It hurts
8/4/2008 8:01:01 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
judi35 Madisonville, KY age: 59	Yep,I did.Yep it does hurt.
8/4/2008 8:02:31 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
weaimtoplease Donalsonville, GA age: 59	Crimson - I guarantee that an alcoholic will never truly know what they put their spous or significant other through because when you are married to an alcoholic: 1. You can't have friends visit you unless you tell them that you are married to an alcoholic who just might (probably) be drunk at 9 in the morning! 2. You walk on egg shells constantly because you don't want the alcoholic to say that you are the reason they need a drink! 3. You never know when they will be physically, mentally or emotionally abuse you. The physical abuse is the easiest because the bruises and broken bones go away but you live with the mental and emotional abuse daily! 4. You know that they are going to be drunk almost 24/7 because they drink when they are happy, they drink when they are sad; they drink because you make them drink and they drink because YOU did something wrong!
8/4/2008 8:03:41 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
carcrazy_fool Interlachen, FL age: 60	yep!! but i drank her beer first
8/4/2008 8:14:29 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
soullygrounded Seven Springs, NC age: 53	Not only did I try, but was top of the line enabler - for 11 out of 13 years I was responsible for taking care of everything - it made me very independent, and almost drug me down to his level...and then a woman 10 yrs my junior turned his head, and off into the sunset he went. Still drinking 21 years later; called me the day after my 2nd husband's funeral, three sheets in the wind, to tell me what a big mistake he had made when he left me. So, after all that time, guess who had the last laugh. No, actually, it was not funny at all; the only feelings I had were of pity. What a wonderful life he wasted. And now on his third wife....you can love them, but they will never love you as much as they love that bottle. A very sad thing to see someone waste away a perfectly good life that way.
8/4/2008 8:16:04 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
weaimtoplease Donalsonville, GA age: 59	If you want to have fun with an alcoholic, find where they hide their bottles because if they are truly an alcoholic, they WILL have bottles hid. Anyway, every time they hide their bottle, move it to another place. Gotta tell you it was fun to watch him try to figure out where he hid his bottle when he's already well under the influence!
8/4/2008 8:18:25 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
cricket128 Ocala, FL age: 56	It looks like I'm one of the few guys who can answer Yes to the OP's question... it didn't take the judge much time to give me full custody of our son due to her drinking (among other things)...it's not fun, nor pretty, nor easy to watch them go into the gutter...
8/4/2008 8:23:12 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
ks52 Corning, CA age: 52	Crimson: I figured you'd get a lot of responses to this. And you're sure to get more. There are alot of us out there. You won't be able to get your mind around the damage caused by the addiction, nor can you undo the damage. You can only change you, ask for the forgiveness from all those that have been hurt or destroyed by the addiction and lastly forgive yourself and move forward to a more purposeful life. Best of luck to you.
8/4/2008 8:28:48 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
mnthigh Columbia Falls, MT age: 57	dated one for over a year but thank God I had enough respect for myself to say good bye to her. She's still drinkin and can always give you an excuse as to why and it is sad to see someone destroy themselves.
8/4/2008 8:29:04 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
jeannieoncemore Warrensburg, MO age: 56	Crimson, you said it hurts to think what you put your wife through. Think what you have put yourself through. There just are no winners in this deal.
8/4/2008 8:30:11 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
soullygrounded Seven Springs, NC age: 53	ks52 - good answer; and seems the first step of admitting there was a problem has been made...
8/4/2008 8:46:05 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
21stcent South Prairie, WA age: 56 online now!	I try everyday to love and understand one. I've forgiven and learned alot about this one. . . . It's myself . Recovering for years thank you [Edited 8/4/2008 8:49:17 PM]
8/4/2008 8:48:32 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
ks52 Corning, CA age: 52	Weaim; yep! Dad died @58 with it + other complications. Ugly way to go. Ex is now 56 and I expect to hear he's died of it at any time. So much wasted in life with an addiction of any kind. Soul: Agreed. Crimson we are here for ya!
8/4/2008 8:50:52 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
soullygrounded Seven Springs, NC age: 53	21st - you've taken the first and perhaps even the second step...hard to tell whether you are a recovering or current. Either way, it's one day at a time and you have to do it for yourself...not for any other reason but for yourself. Is it easy? No, not at all, but it is definitely possible.....blessings wished for you on your journey. I'm sure any one of us here would be happy to help if you want it. Take care man, and all the best and positive thoughts and prayers sent your way. 21st - saw your edit...years? Super... My hat's off to you. [Edited 8/4/2008 8:52:47 PM]
8/4/2008 8:51:54 PM	Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic?
starvinglips Pleasant Garden, NC age: 52	weaim, I know exactly what you are saying. The hurt never really goes away. It's there no matter what. The worst times that I am finding it is what I talk about it. Somethings are better left unsaid and buried....