| 8/5/2008 6:05:12 AM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | | luvanurse54
Durant, OK
age: 54
| Except for the music threads I haven't been posting much lately, but this is a subject that needs to be discussed for many reasons. It is needed for people to let others know the pain and lets face it, humiliations, of loving and dealing with a drunk. My father was an alcoholic and a diabetic. I watched as he ran off everyone who cared or would have cared about him. Always a pessimist, never saw any good in anyone. Thank God my mother divorced him before he influenced my sister and I any further. The sad part is that she only divorced him because he almost killed her in his tirades, not because she was thinking of us. Married someone else who was abusive, but he didn't have alcohol for an excuse. My father died with complications from the alcohol and the diabetes, which is a no-no to mix. He didn't have all of his limbs from amputations relating to both diseases. And last, but certainly not least, he died without his daughters around him. How lonely was that? Think he ever thought about what he should have done differently?
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| 8/5/2008 6:49:12 AM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
stargazzer
Creighton, NE
age: 60
| I will take a pass on all additive personalitys except sex LOL.
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| 8/5/2008 7:33:21 AM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
soullygrounded
Seven Springs, NC
age: 53
| Crimson, take all the strength you need from here...know that we will all stand behind you and support you...one day at a time is key. At least I believe I can speak for most as we have always been a very supportive group. Postive thoughts and blessings sent your way for strength and the ability to forgive yourself. You have taken the first step, and now you can start your journey with one small baby step at the time.    
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| 8/5/2008 9:56:28 AM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
luvanurse54
Durant, OK
age: 54
| You are listening to yourself and others, something that most do not do. You, sir, will be fine as long as you continue to care about others feelings as you obviously do or you would not put yourself out here for all of our pent up feelings to explode in the posts...mine included. So sorry...good luck to you.
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| 8/5/2008 4:13:46 PM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
shari1955
Butler, KY
age: 53
| My dad was a drunk his dad was a drunk my moms dad was a drunks and his dad died in a snow drift walking home from a bar drunk..Then I married two drunks.. I myself started drinking too much .. Then I seen it and stopped..My x would never admit he had a drinking problem then to prove to me he didn't he stopped cold turkey for 7 years.. But he is what they called a dry drunk.. He was moody and quiet and hard to understand.. It was always on his mind.. He is now back at it full force with his new thing a bar maid lol..
When he drank you couldn't say a negative thing to him it caused a fight..Then he would say you knew I was drinking..duh thats my fault too..My kids hate him when he drinks.. cause now he takes it out on them.. Actually gettin physical.. He don't have me anymore to pick on lol And yes he has thrown me before.. Got in my face but his line was I have never punched you.. nope he didn't do that but did everything else. He was the love of my life and drinking ruined what we had..
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| 8/5/2008 7:25:08 PM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
olderblueeyes
Morganton, NC
age: 52
| crimsom, I have heard a lot of great stuff so far on the topic. But I need to tell you my side of that alcoholic. I was that person, but Febuary 1990 I stopped drinking and starting going to a 12 Step Recovery Program. I divorced my drinking mate of 25 years. I still go to meeting and now a different kinder person. So, if you love the alcoholic that much, may I suggest a 12 Step Program for family and friends.
For more information ----- email personnally
Thanks for helping me to day.
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| 8/5/2008 10:17:37 PM | Any of y'all ever tried to love an alcoholic? | |
dannachanna
Des Moines, IA
age: 58 online now!
| Yes, I've loved an alcoholic, they can be very lovable indeed. Number 1 on their list is the alcohol and number 2 is the one who loves them because that person usually does a heck of a lot to enable them to continue to drink and keep a roof over their heads while they do so. It's very painful when you first realize that you were second to the addiction. You'll spend your life waiting on them to see you, to hear you, to love you. ache city.
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