| 8/4/2008 7:23:39 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | | 
howlinmad
Myrtle Beach, SC
age: 34
| Just trying to figure out this damn Internet thing.
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| 8/4/2008 7:27:22 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
sharolas
Elk Grove Village, IL
age: 38
| First of all Welcome to the DH. What you are supposed to do is look at profiles and see who interests you and send an email or wink. And also join the forums. This is a good way to meet new people and that is what you are supposed to be doing. Looking for friends and romance. It's all up to you. So Get out there and search for the one you find the most interest in. Good Luck.
Hello from Illinois   
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| 8/4/2008 11:37:25 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
69cunnilingus
Diamond Bar, CA
age: 48
| If you're new to internet dating, the objective is to start off with email or IM (instant messaging) to get a general idea of her character. For example, myself, I'm a full-time college student, so $$ is an issue with me right now. If she starts off by saying "I like to go out and dine at fine restaurants, see the world and travel to places I've only read about,..." this is a clue she's high maintenance. If you're not taking home at least $1,200 a week after taxes, it's not prudent to hook up & meet her in person.
When you find someone who seems to meet your criteria in characteristics, then the next step is meeting her in public, like a restaurant, coffee house, or a bar. Of the 3, I don't recommend the latter; it implies you have a drinking problem, or you're looking for a one-night stand. If it's a restaurant, you suggest a cuisine you enjoy, to gauge if she likes the same cuisine you like. If you start off by letting her pick the restaurant, then you're sending a subtle message you're the kind of guy who believes in equality in a relationship. Some guys believe in church doctrine that the man is dominant, and the woman is subservient to him. When you let her take the initiatives, you're sending a subtle message you're not the domineering type.
I think women now a days are a bit feminist; they believe in equality in a relationship. So if she's in this category, she's looking for a guy who's going to break tradition and help do housecleaning, the laundry, take care of the kids, etc... that were once relegated as the "wife's duty." Because a lot of women work now a days, they feel they deserve more say in a relationship, & the old tradition that a woman is subservient to man no longer applies. If you're old school, this new feminist attitude may be a shock for you. This is why some guys get a mail-order bride. The women in 3rd-world countries looking for an American husband still believe in the old "woman is subservient to man" church doctrine.
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| 8/4/2008 11:50:58 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
age: 61 online now!
| To be honest--it is less pressure to scan the forums and answer them--the dating is lousy according to the people that rate these sites. More friends than lovers on here. No one is ever really happy--except for a very few. But chat with people and share your ideas--its more fun. Kills time--you never know who you will meet.
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| 8/5/2008 2:37:20 AM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
judit0606
Big Stone Gap, VA
age: 51 online now!
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 You'll get the hang of it in no time!
Welcome to DH. Good Luck and have FUN!
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| 8/5/2008 1:55:33 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
blondie1946
Lockhart, TX
age: 62
| Don't be "mad" Howlin. Here's a map that should explain everything.
Hope this helps. Welcome and enjoy.
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| 8/5/2008 4:09:16 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
cmfarr
Fort Pierce, FL
age: 61
| Hello,I'm also new.... I'm alittle confused myself,you email ,no answer,they email,you email back -nothing,,whats a girl to do? ....thanks...
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| 8/5/2008 6:10:26 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
tallaveragegirl
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 50
| Hello,I'm also new.... I'm alittle confused myself,you email ,no answer,they email,you email back -nothing,,whats a girl to do? ....thanks...
I'm new to the site and the whole forum/group experience also.
I think the key to the dating is patience--- I've been on dating sites on and off for a few years and what I have learned is not to take anything personally-- it is what it is.
I have particularly enjoyed readiing what people say in the forums/group. There are some very, very funny people. Many have a very quick wit and you wonder how they come up with some of the things they say.
And I have noticed there is great compassion and caring between people. They are willing to help each other with advice. If you want the truth-- they will give it to you.
It is a good place to enjoy the personalities of so many and laugh.
Good luck and I hope you enjoy the experience. I think I will.
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| 8/5/2008 6:12:36 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
realman12345
Fruita, CO
age: 29
| new ta this too im lost also lol owell someone will find me
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| 8/5/2008 6:19:09 PM | Can anyone tell me what the hell I'm supposed to be doing on this? | |
angelleyess
Middleboro, MA
age: 35
| welcome to dh .. sometimes it just takes trial and error good luck!
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