| 9/6/2007 9:28:26 PM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
mammyof4
Dungannon, VA
age: 49
| Well for you all that know me I thought I would post and let ya know that my divorce was final as of Wed. I am so glad it is over. He had me ready to fight at the court house and his lawyer had me ready to punch his lights out to but when we got in front of the judge I showed my wings. hehehe
He wanted the trailer so I gave it to him and said I never want to hear from him again, I ask the judge to make him give me my things of my mom and dads back that he had took and the judge gave him till the 17th to give it all back.
After that day I hope I never see or hear from that ass again. lol
I am now gettin over the party I gave myself hehehe but is nice that that is the only headache I have now. I won't make that mistake again at least for a long long time. Being single is nice.
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| 9/6/2007 10:02:38 PM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
shycowgirl
Oak Run, CA
age: 50
| congratulations, mammy. i'm soooo happy for you. how was all the EC? got your email. things will only get better, now that you are free of the jerk!! copter was asking about you. drop him a line, too. take care. shy
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| 9/6/2007 10:07:45 PM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| mammyof4 ... know the feeling ... let the celebration begin. Your new adventure starts ... may it be nothing but happiness from now on.
see you on the flip side 
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| 9/6/2007 11:02:21 PM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
chinatown_girl
Oyster Bay, NY
age: 19
| hi mammy, i hope this is the beginning of a new and lightfilled life 
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| 9/6/2007 11:31:06 PM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
wolfnboots
Spokane, WA
age: 43
| Hello mammy, I'm Wolf. On this site I am wolfnboots. You know I must give my 2 cents in this with myself being twice divorced. My first wife screwed around while I was in training in the US Army, and I was just a plane ticket to the USA with my second I found out. However, I can say this from experience and I want to share it with you. Don't hate. Forgive instead. As long as you hold bitterness in your heart, you are still chained to your ex and you will constantly carry the hurt. It is too bad that you are both divorced, it really is. It only shows how selfish you both were no matter how much or how little or who was wrong in the first place. You both had something special at one time or you both never would have married in the first place. Love is not a feeling, it is a volitional act stemming from a freewill choice. At some point, you both changed your choice to love, you both are guilty of some sort of selfish act against each other. Who started it is not important. Noone is perfect. Marriage takes work, alot of work, and love is always giving and it never rememembers the wrongs committed. Love is always forgiving and it it is based in humility, not self-pride, and it never expects anything in return, love just keeps giving , and it is slow to anger, and always respects no matter what for love is stronger than hatred. To celebrate your divorce would be wrong. I tell you this as a friend who cares because I know that you are really hurting inside, even though its not obvious on this thread.
[Edited 9/6/2007 11:34:36 PM]
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| 9/7/2007 12:28:57 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
mammyof4
Dungannon, VA
age: 49
| LOL yes I know it don't seem like I am hurt, but in the beginning I was, I had so wanted this marriage to work. I have loved with all my heart, soul, and mind. But it got me nowhere. I was indeed a part of the split, because of as you say I gave up on the love that once was there. I will not stay with anyone that abuses me and the love that I have for that person. And I will not ever be used again. I have and I will give my all to a man that is really in love with me and wants to share what love can give to 2 people, but as I said I will never give my all and get only abuse again. And believe me I have done my best to make things work in several relationships and two marriages, and now I am gonna give my all to me and the man I am living with and see where it leads us but it won't be marriage not for me and not for a long time if then. I have learned it is not all in the forgiving it is in forgetting and I don't forget easily. Now with that said thanks guys and I plan enjoying being single. I don't really hate him as much as I despise the way he took my love for granted. As the old Charlie Rich song says, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. And yes it takes two, so in my case with this marriage there was only one trying so what can I say. You would have to had to walked a mile in my shoes during that 5 yrs. to know how it was. LOL I really don't mean to sound like I am being a b*tch about this but I just felt the need to say all this. LOL Now I am gonna go to bed and you all have a good night, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite. hehehe
And thanks guys, I am gonna hide my EC so I won't party again till I am over this one. LMAO
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| 9/7/2007 12:37:47 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
rain_or_shine
Columbia, SC
age: 45
| Well heres a big damn hug from me to you, your great , so live life lady.....Shine
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| 9/7/2007 1:48:12 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
scndlman
Lexington, KY
age: 34
| mammy mine took 3 1/2 years .. big weight lifted ..good luck to you..Randall
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| 9/7/2007 1:49:29 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46
| YAY! Give yourself a high-five & do the nekkid dance around a fire! LOL
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| 9/7/2007 1:53:49 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
scndlman
Lexington, KY
age: 34
| can i join in the dance ?
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| 9/7/2007 2:50:38 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
metu
Mansfield, TX
age: 46
| Yeppers! Scnd! Just drop them drawers! LOL
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| 9/8/2007 4:28:17 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
justaguyhere
Martinsville, VA
age: 56
| mammyof4 so the thrill is back eh
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| 9/8/2007 6:43:38 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
sinfulcharming
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 41
| Hey Mammy... time to get drunk, have a big bonfire, throw the ring in it, and entertainment is free by Jesus's Jigglers Congratulations Girl Best of luck in your new endeavors.
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| 9/8/2007 8:20:37 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
looking4you1972
Tulsa, OK
age: 35
| im happy for 4 you i've divorced now for 6 mo.
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| 9/8/2007 8:55:32 AM | Finally Free of the headache lol | |
brian911
Canton, OH
age: 43
| I wish you much luck...getting ready to go thru that and not looking forward to it!
Brian
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