| 9/1/2008 2:26:05 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
renee1970
Portland, OR
age: 38
| To find a decent, caring and understanding mate? Is it because many of us don't really know what we want? We have a hard time seeing what we want because we are too busy seeing what we don't want! I am tired of spending weekend after weekend alone! Where is the one that will accept me as I am and just fit into my life easily? Am I asking for too much when I want the whole package, the full meal deal? Looks, brains, personality and a job?
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| 9/1/2008 7:14:26 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
whitehawk
Eugene, OR
age: 54
| Simple ..really.... Everyone is into//( the all about me) syndrome... everyone and their dog..wants it all! and today's society has gravitated to the me me me syndrome.. so.. in the way of the trucking world..hows it feel to want?
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| 9/1/2008 9:32:10 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
nosilla
Springfield, OR
age: 57
| Maybe it's time to learn to compromise.... Figure out what is most important to you. Does looks really matter? Or is the person himself more important? Is he/she have the same morals and values that you have? Do you enjoy the same things, the same out look on life. If the answer is yes then who cares how old or how fit or handsome or how much money they make or not make. Things will work out, but the ground work has to be there.
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| 9/1/2008 10:37:43 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
patrick812
Eugene, OR
age: 49 online now!
| Gets worse as you grow older and wiser....
Seems to always break down to two things in my relationships...
It's either Religion or the love of Money!!!
Soul-Mate? The perfect Man/Woman???
In MY opinion (MY OPINION) Your soul-mate or perfect mate
was that snot nose kid you fell in love with in your early
teens and grew up together marrying after High School
and a full family by the age of 21. LOL
Compromising comes right after Communication in my book of relationships.
Respect and honesty shortly after...
Thus, I'm now 49 and never married nor have any children.. Very sad for me
as I've always had the American Dream. Why you may ask???
Because I have a two year rule before marriage and its either
religion or the love of money that breaks us every time!!!!
So, good luck to you... Best advice I can give to finding someone
that best fits you is to keep doing what YOU like best. Expose that
to others and soon an interesting person will appear...
Geee... I should take my own advice but I'm a boring person so don't matter.
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| 9/1/2008 10:52:55 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
vebee
Eugene, OR
age: 65
| Sounds like you need to figure out what is the very most important things to you, and then be willing to bend a little to a lot with the rest of your wants.
If looks is way up on your want list join a gym, if it's brains take some college classes. If it's a family type person join co-ed bowling league or start coaching kids sports.
You gotta go where they are.
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| 9/1/2008 10:59:12 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
doctord777
Independence, OR
age: 63
| Maybe you are looking for it to happen too soon. Love don't come easy. I'm no expert but I've been in love 3 times. I was married for 28 years and still had alot to learn, along with age. comes wisdom. In our minds we have expectations, of what we want, what we are looking for and what we will accept. It begins at home, from within. Start there. Don't look outside for happiness, look for some to compliment your life.
One of the biggest concerns you should have is good communication skills. Open up, Look for some one who makes you smile. If you feel that smile in your heart, your on your way.
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| 9/2/2008 12:01:24 AM | Why is it so difficult? | |
duffy67
Klamath Falls, OR
age: 41
| ya know sometimes ya gotta sacrifice one of four to find a mate.....not all us guys are perfect....although we say we are. i just finished divorce with mty best friend...we thought we were perfect...so much for thinkin!....hope you find your perfect man...gl.
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| 9/2/2008 5:10:54 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
imacountrygirl
Lebanon, OR
age: 49
| I know I am not too picky and I'm not having any luck.
One guy thinks someone is after him. One guy thinks the world is
ending very soon and will have to continue a relationship with me in
the next life. And one just wants sex! And don't forget the players.
What is it? I know these women are out there too.
Is anyone out there "really" looking for a long term relationship?
Am I the only one looking for my soul mate, my forever man?
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| 9/2/2008 8:08:12 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
curious8024
Eugene, OR
age: 52
| Good question. I have even explored the speed dating for "professionals". You would not believe what qualifies as a professinal. Pathetic. It seems not matter what site, the same guys are on all of them, and you go broke trying to figure it out. Believe it or not, the nicest guys I have met are on the "adult" sites, but you have to be really careful. Let me know if you find the secret. I am still finding all of the chicken shit, insecure guys out there.
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| 9/2/2008 9:19:28 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
morris8
Estacada, OR
age: 58
| HI From Morris , I`m 58 male from Estacada , Oregon . Looking for a good friendship that lead to some thing wonderfull . It not what she look like , but what in her heart . Don`t let life pass you by . Love in the air for people who will take a chance at it .
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| 9/3/2008 7:45:50 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
keldia
Bend, OR
age: 48
| Country Girl you are toooo funny! You got one that thinks the world is gonna end too??????LMAO Does he stock pile food and water. How about one that is convinced he was abducted by aliens???? LOLOLOL Thanks so much for the much needed smile!
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| 9/6/2008 9:35:37 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
skills7
Portland, OR
age: 25
| Because most of you don't have profile pictures!
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| 9/6/2008 9:48:53 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
recross77
Eugene, OR
age: 52
| Never settle for less! Once you start compromising then life loses it's flavor and zest. Your not asking for to much, your just perhaps having to much hope and when things fail you become a skeptic and a recluse in your world. Don't let that happen. If it sounds like i know what i am saying....I do because unfournatly it has all happened to me and now it is to late for me!
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| 9/6/2008 9:51:10 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
recross77
Eugene, OR
age: 52
| Hey had my first encounnter with the wierd kind in Prineville and i havn't been the same since! they had a banjo as well!
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| 9/23/2008 8:47:34 PM | Why is it so difficult? | |
yfz
Salem, OR
age: 32
| Perhaps if you posted a picture on your page you might find someone!!
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