| 9/15/2007 12:12:00 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
harborman
Vallejo, CA
age: 41
| When did we begin to clamor to the idea that it was ok to relinquish our stringent parental doctorine for the easier philosophy to allow the child to become our equal? I hear far too often parents claiming that their daughter is their best friend or my son is my best buddy. Doesn't this circumvent the natural order of things where you as a steward of your young are there primarily to guide and teach and to provide food and shelter for. When you trade in your role as parent to friend now you've become more of a peer or somewhat like a sibling and this gives the child the inadverant signal to reduce if not annihilate due respect!
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| 9/15/2007 4:27:00 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| My older sister did that with her daughter and I think it messed her up. She didn't have any guidance. I think her mom needed to be just that ... her mom.
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| 9/15/2007 4:28:58 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| I just make my daughter my best friend choc chip cookies
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| 9/15/2007 4:29:38 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
iron_ranger
Owatonna, MN
age: 40
| kids are not mentally or emotionally equiped to be on the same level as grown ups. there are things kids should not be exposed to - they just cant handle them. my ex has done that to our oldest son..... and it has screwed him up.
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| 9/15/2007 4:31:48 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
justed57
Willoughby, OH
age: 58
| so true so true....
My neices an nephews are a mess because of that.
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| 9/15/2007 4:33:47 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| they are if they are grown up..mine are
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| 9/15/2007 4:34:13 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
| Hmmm... but, there does come a point in time in life when the parent has to come to the realization that their child is no longer a child but an adult "offspring" and at that point in time, the mutual respect that was nurtured and fostered through the appropriate guidance and parenting of the child's early years, can very well turn into a close friendship. It is at that point in time the child no longer needs a mentor, but an unconditionally loving "friend" to lean on.
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| 9/15/2007 4:37:15 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
thepkk
Everton, MO
age: 53
| My son's were not my best friends when they were younger. I was the enemy. LOL But now they are grown with families of their own and we are friends now. But they still give me respect that is due.
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| 9/15/2007 4:39:23 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 51
| I raised my sons all on my own. So I was their mom always, a dad when they needed that and a friend when they needed a friend. But as they were growing up, they were my sons and I was mom first and foremost
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| 9/15/2007 4:43:17 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
duligan30
West Chester, PA
age: 32
| Yah, I don't thiink it's right. When did that become alright anyway, it wasen't like that 30-40 yrs ago when our parents were kids, it seems as though they rebelled against theire parents. Why is it ok now, when did that all change?
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| 9/15/2007 7:20:48 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
mclassie
Newport News, VA
age: 42
| the relationship a mother and daughter have really isn't for anyone to judge. Everyone has different views on their own family relationships. Everyone was raised in their own particular way. So who are you (or anyone) to judge any type of relationship that a mother has with her child? I carried my children inside of me and raised them to be the great people they are. Now, they are grown you are saying i can't assume a friend role? My kids are my best friends because they are awesome individuals. They are grown and don't need a disciplinarian.
Don't be angry that you don't have a relationship similar to the great one we share.
And the backhanded forum topic... I know where it was directed. So, i really appreciate you acting like a sad little kid who didn't get his way.
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| 9/15/2007 7:31:22 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
draguncustoms2
Martinsburg, WV
age: 21
| my parents are my best-friends, but they never hesitated to kick my ass when i messed up. but moral support, and guidance is the key to good parents. be able to talk to them about anything, but know they have good advice..being older then me and all..
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| 9/15/2007 7:36:51 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
sommertime
Newport News, VA
age: 22
| my mom is my best friend and showed me an example of a strong willed, independent, and brave woman. I think not having a relationship with your parents makes you more screwed up. It's hilarious to me that people sit there and over analyze a relationship that isn't their own. I could go to my mom with anything and trust her completely. Luckily for me, my mom taught me that people can have their own opinion and right now we are taking a shot together and laughing at your narrow minded forum. Cheers!
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| 9/15/2007 7:48:25 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
missmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
| jmo but i think the original post was probably intended for parents with non=adult kids. you can't be 'friends' with your kids when they're growing up...they've GOT friends, they NEED parents who can set boundaries and give them guidance, along with love. of course, there comes a day when they are grown up and we CAN become friends with them...
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| 9/15/2007 7:52:21 PM | My Child is my best Friend | |
waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
| That is so true Mismatch. As they are young, we are the parents. When they are adults it is different. JMO
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