| 10/3/2007 10:11:40 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
shycowgirl
Oak Run, CA
age: 50
| hard for both but, for different reasons.
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| 10/8/2007 4:52:00 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
danie30043
Suwanee, GA
age: 25
| I think that it is hard for both genders. I think that when you are in a long relationship, it's hard to put yourself back out there. UNLESS...the relationship didn't matter to you to begin with. I think that there is a time period between breaking up and dating again. In that time, you may go out with other people, but you find yourself comparing them to your ex, or trying to date the complete opposite of what your ex was!
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| 10/8/2007 5:09:28 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
fiddlebritches
Duncan, OK
age: 28
| woman ive seen it to many times! they get over it alot faster
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| 10/8/2007 5:14:57 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
darebare33
Louisville, KY
age: 38
| I think women move on quicker and it takes men longer to get "over" it, but when a man is finally "over" it he's done and no longer even thinks about her. The woman will hold on some for the rest of her life over someone she actually loved.
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| 10/8/2007 9:24:02 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
onlyforyou44
Helena, MT
age: 63
| I think it's easyer for women to get over someone, because all my friends that i have known the women moved on way before the men did. It took me 15 years to move on from my first wife and only a day too get over my second.  
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| 10/11/2007 12:23:36 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
cashpi
Anchorage, AK
age: 39
| It really does depend on the person. That's so easy to sy, yet true. When my ex broke up with me, ~6mos. later she had someone else already. I think a big part of her resilience is her willingness to reach out for support from others and, therefore, able to move on more quickly.
Some people might appear to move on more quickly, yet they really aren't dealing with the issues. Such as someone on the rebound. They may appear to have moved on, yet all they are doing is trying to ease their pain,not really having moved on at all.
It's possible to move on/forward and not dealing with your/my feelings, yet still remain stuck in a sense. When a certain situation comes up, the issues they thought were gone all of a sudden surface again.
I know a guy who was married ~41 years and it must have been hell to move on. He's doing really good now. Then there is this lady whose husband passed away ~2years ago, and she is still missing him, kind of stuck in time. I'm not putting anyone down, but it really is your/my choice. It's already been one year already since we broke up and we had a lot of good times together, yet I don't want to be 5 years down the road thiinking about how much I miss her and the experiences we had. That's my choice. I'm not sure that it is either a female or male thing. It's a 'person' thing. Really good question. Thanx for asking it.
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| 10/11/2007 12:24:52 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
cashpi
Anchorage, AK
age: 39
| hya,
I do feel your pain, though.
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| 10/11/2007 8:44:53 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
rocksi
Appleton, WI
age: 49
| I think when someone is seeing someone so quickly after a break up they were already seeing that person or is using that person as a rebound, to try and get over the last relationship... JMO i think it is easier for men...
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| 10/11/2007 9:22:05 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| I don't see this as a male/female issue...to many varriable involved..Who's to say when you should move on? It's all a personal thing.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/11/2007 11:20:41 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
cashpi
Anchorage, AK
age: 39
| I agree with peaches
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| 10/12/2007 12:07:47 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
mishkabacci
Duncansville, PA
age: 43
| equally the same...some take it harder than most...it gets easier with time...but it all depends on the reason for the break up too...
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| 10/12/2007 1:50:01 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| Either way, It is a learning experience none of us relish. jmo
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/12/2007 2:32:26 AM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
yankeeluvspeach
Athens, GA
age: 29
| Well, this isn't directly responding to your question but hopefully you guys will allow me some leniency here. They say that as far as the loss of a spouse goes, at least as far as death widow/widower, is concerned, all things being equal, men struggle more. I think they believe that since in our culture, men are taught to be more stoic and not share sadness, or feelings of hurt, etc. as it can be perceived by some as weakness, they have more trouble grieving the loss and tend to let the psychic wound fester, as it were. They have less of a support network of friends/family and are told to "Man up, suck it up, and pull yourself up by your bootstraps" and a lot of other junk. Keep in mind that I'm speaking in generalities here. Sure there are some women like this, and some men are more in touch with their feelings, but if you want a quick easy answer, men deal with loss (and let's face it, a break up is a loss, as is a change in health) more poorly than women. That's not to say that it's a snap for women or that they don't have their  ripped out, just that they take healthier steps to get back to a point where they're ready to get back on the horse. This is my interpretation of the subject at least. Feel free to correct me.
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| 10/12/2007 3:42:49 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
chellyczangels
Kannapolis, NC
age: 35
| Personally I think it is hard for both...well I might should say...people with a self of reality. Some people dont care and just want to have sex so well for them it is easy. Now dont get me wrong....the sex thing is a very BIG plus but damn....that is not all there is to a relationship. Hell I dont know...most the guys Ive met or been with have either cheated on me or just stupid. I tend to give my all for nothing so maybe I shouldnt even be posting a comment.  OUTTIEZ
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| 10/12/2007 8:17:16 PM | Is It easier for a man or a woman? | |
teresa51
Spring Hill, FL
age: 52
| It is easy for a man i think. Because ladies are more sentamental. I know i have been hurt bad. and it will take a little time to heal. But i will find that special man. I know you are out there looking for me . I am right here see me.
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