| 10/4/2007 5:00:52 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 53
| Hi guys, I was wondering if you could give me your thoughts about this "situation." I have been IM a man I "met" on DHU for the past six weeks, and we really enjoy talking with each other. We got together in person last week for a couple of hours on my birthday and I thought everything went well. He gave me a hug and kiss good bye and we still talk online each night. The strange part is we never talk on the phone..I've called and left a message a few times but he never calls back. Also, when I ask him if we can get together another time, he changed the subject or just says maybe. I would think if you wanted to see if the relationship would work that you would want to talk on the phone at least some and also spend an hour or two so you could get to know each other. Should I just continue talking as we are or should I ask him if there is a reason for his "avoiding" being more social?
Thanks for your thoughts. 
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| 10/4/2007 5:19:28 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
nonickname49
Belchertown, MA
age: 58
| sounds like he is holding you in reserve while he investigates other options.
In my opinion, if a guy or women doesn't want to put in phone time, he's not
really interested in the women. If he was sincerely interested, most men would
not hestitate at a second meeting. jmo
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| 10/4/2007 5:20:06 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| I think he's giving you an answer he is talking on online wants that type of relationship but, nothing more at the moment. Just keep talking don't rush anything else be glad he is giving you that maybe something more will come in time maybe not at least you've made a new friend. problem is people want everything yesterday, don't want too wait for tomorrow
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| 10/4/2007 5:22:20 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 48
| Last year a woman I knew and dated years ago did almost the same thing to me. I could send a text message and get an instant reply but if I called her right after getting a text reply she wouldn't answer. In an email she said she is always on the phone at work and didn't want to talk on the phone after work.
I think she was living with a man, so talking on the phone she could be overheard. A text or email can be sent without being caught as long as he is in another part of the house.
I think he has a woman living with him. JMO
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| 10/4/2007 5:27:47 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| You know brown, years ago I worked at a job that I was on the phone all day, and to this day I rather not talk on the phone, and yes I do live with 2 men my sons. Seriously I'd rather not talk on the phone I'll let it ring for minutes and several call backs before I answer this makes my oldest son so mad, but it's just a phobia with me now if the guy I'm talking to at this time would call I make an exception
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| 10/4/2007 5:39:10 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 48
| I hear you Grace, but there were other things that made me feel she was seeing someone else that I didn't mention. I guess if I was in the reverse situation, I could have a phone surgically implanted to my head and be on the phone 24/7, there's is still now way I would not take a call from a woman I really like. 
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| 10/4/2007 5:57:21 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 52
| No hard feelings OK brown like you, and I understand what you are saying just some people do hate the phone I'm one of them, and like I said I would answer the phone if that special guy called phobia or not, and you're right only you know all the facts, respect that
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| 10/4/2007 5:57:39 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
jondalar
Reno, NV
age: 52
| Hi Liz
I think lack of attention, on the phone or otherwise, is a sign of lack of interest. I have a friend who I have known for five years, who calls everyday sometimes twice or more often sometimes telling me how much she needs a man in her bed. I avoid the subject and i was thinking today that if she did not call I would never talk to her again. Nice woman but I have no interest in taking the relationship farther. I am gone at the first sign of lack of interest. Is it only women that wonder if they should do more when they feel the connection is not there?
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| 10/4/2007 6:09:50 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
teespoon
Martinsville, VA
age: 56
| he not wanna talk to you hang it up
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| 10/4/2007 6:14:05 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 48
| No hard feelings here either Grace, it's just that I would have to right a novel to fill you in on what went on, (I don't think we the time)that's all.
And I understand the phone thing completely, too.
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| 10/4/2007 6:24:54 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
looking4msrt
Anderson, SC
age: 41
| Sometimes it's best to KISS!
"Keep It Simple Sweety".
You get to know each other better by talking!!
You can't touch each other if you don't meet face to face!!
It's ok to be selfish. You have to ask yourself "what kind of relationship am I looking for".
It appear that he's being clear about what he's looking for.
Is what he's giving good enough for you? Look at what's there and not what you want to see.
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| 10/4/2007 6:39:59 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 53
| Thanks guys. I know his mother lives with him so that might be part of it, but I still feel it's strange. I'll keep "talking" and see what happens. No harm in that, I guess. He sounds sweet so I'll keep trying but not get my hopes up I guess. Dang, just when I thought I might have found someone I was looking for.
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| 10/4/2007 6:45:06 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 53
| How many birthdays can a person have in one year?
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| 10/4/2007 6:49:45 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
brwnsugar59
Albuquerque, NM
age: 48
| I stated how I feel about what happened to me but I hope you have a better outcome. Let us know.
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| 10/4/2007 6:52:50 PM | What's your opinion ? | |
libraliz
South Bend, IN
age: 53
| Thank you, I hope I do too. Maybe he's just taking real slowly..at least he contacts me each night so that's a plus.
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