How do you tell someone your not interested?

11/12/2008 9:54:11 AM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
fairyshy Katy, TX age: 42	Okay, I am just wondering how some of you tell people here that your not interested without being rude or hurting their feelings. I most of the time don't respond to people that I am not interested in but I really don't want to be like that. There has got to be a nice way of telling them that I don't think we are a match.
11/12/2008 9:56:34 AM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
asl_65 Charles Town, WV age: 43	I was wondering why you never take my calls or respond to my emails!! actually, just come right out and say that you guys don't think you will make a good couple...it may sting a bit at first but it will pass.
11/12/2008 10:03:47 AM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
not2timid Rockford, IL age: 47	Are we talking in the forums or in our boxes... that's email in box for you pervs! hahaha How's this... Thank you for your compliments but I do not wish to lead you on. It is truthful in my case... so if I need to ignore someone it is on them. Tell me, if someone sent you a letter via snail mail every day, would you feel obligated to write one back... if more than 1 did it, if you were busy would you take name calling because someonelse predetermined how fast you should reply... If someone knocked on your door everyday... would you answer it and invite them in if you didn't want to. I wouldn't. Yet... I try to be cordial believe it or not... when someone is trying to compliment me. Practice saying no... if you need to take a drive in your car and as you are on the freeway say... Look, I have not gotten into S&M in my life but if you want to get hurt... LOL... just don't tell them to email me! Good luck!
11/12/2008 10:04:57 AM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
mejust4us Portland, OR age: 52	FOR ME JUST SAY THANKS FOR YOUR INTEREST BUT THERE IS NO INTEREST FOR ME HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND
11/12/2008 10:26:09 AM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
fairyshy Katy, TX age: 42	Quote from asl_65: I was wondering why you never take my calls or respond to my emails!! actually, just come right out and say that you guys don't think you will make a good couple...it may sting a bit at first but it will pass. That is what I started doing. I guess there is no easy way to do it. Yes, I was referring to our mailboxes. I have never had anyone cuss me out for not responding quick enough or anything. I have had people not respond back when I respond to their initial mail. Which is fine. Sometimes it can be disappointing but oh well, I get over it quickly and move on.
11/12/2008 12:34:26 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
firstlight Strasburg, VA age: 49	I usually try to find a reason that is not too personal. Distance is the easiest and most common. Smokers, drinkers, men who have a defined interest of which I am certain I will not share.
11/12/2008 12:46:01 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
lookin4luv63 Columbus, OH age: 46	Just come out & tell them that you don't feel that you are a good match. It'll hurt, but better that than to lead them along.
11/12/2008 12:49:21 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
smiles4ualways Colonial Beach, VA age: 53	and the best method of putting someone down without hurting them, IS, never pick them up in the first place.................... Ok the method I use to put someone down nicely is to say, " thanks for the note. I am currently seeing someone who I'd like to devote all my attention to." OH hell! I've just given it all away! here come repeat emails now! NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! I've been discovered. In actuality, I find this to be a way to let them know that maybe my sight is on someone else, and have always received a return email thanking me for my honesty....if you think, there are ways to put someone down gently, and have them thank you for doing so. JUST THINK! [Edited 11/12/2008 12:49:40 PM PST]
11/12/2008 2:07:04 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
ryn514 Cobourg, ON age: 49	I always write back to anyone kind enough to take the time to write in the first place..unless they're a piglet. A simple "thank you for taking the time to write, best of luck in your search!" has always worked for me.
11/12/2008 6:03:09 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
webwiser Fort Worth, TX age: 49	You tell them you're not interested, whether it hurts them or not. If you think that's being inconsiderate, then your left with only three options: ignore them, lie to them, or lead them on instead.
11/12/2008 6:31:32 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
1st_breath Saint Louis, MO age: 51	I always thank them for the kind email (after I read their profile) and tell them Good Luck in their search.
11/12/2008 6:50:42 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
fairyshy Katy, TX age: 42	Thank you so much for all of the replies. I don't want to lie to them, nor do I want to lead them on as I think that would be mean in itself. I would rather be honest with them and let them know where we stand. I have said something like "Thank you for taking the time to view my profile but I don't think we are a match. Good Luck in your search". So I guess that will have to be good enough. If anyone else has any ideas please post. I would be interested in knowing what you would do.
11/12/2008 6:56:38 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
not2timid Rockford, IL age: 47	You can always tell them you would like to talk to them and then give them the number to your local police department... that is for the ones that want to argue the point that you must be attracted to them because you answered there email! LOL Hang in there sweetie, they will astound you with the emails. But... us ladies do it too at times. hahaha
11/12/2008 7:03:31 PM	How do you tell someone your not interested?
fairyshy Katy, TX age: 42	Quote from not2timid: You can always tell them you would like to talk to them and then give them the number to your local police department... that is for the ones that want to argue the point that you must be attracted to them because you answered there email! LOL Hang in there sweetie, they will astound you with the emails. But... us ladies do it too at times. hahaha Oh God....I hope I don't get any of those. Thank you for the heads up