| 11/13/2008 11:03:20 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | | 
madskillz69
Toronto, ON
age: 39
| I have been a bit stumped about a question I have been wondering about for a number of years now,and I really need a womans perspective here to help me to understand.
I have already asked one female friend and I just wanted to see what other women might say.I had found someone on one of these dating sites,I won't say which one because it's irrelevent.
I found that when my ex and I would find ourselves in social settings with family and with friends
early on in the relationship,that when we would be asked how we had met,my ex would be embarassed to give the honest answer and instead say that we had met at a party.
I had asked her about that the first time she was'nt honest about how we had really met,she told me she found it to be embarassing,but did'nt really explain..I just kind of let it go.One day I had asked a female friend of mine about how she would answer under the same circumstances,she too said she would also answer that we had met some other way,that she too would be a little embarassed to tell her friends,family,peers the truth.
I on the other hand would NOT be embarassed...'who really cares how we met as long as we are happy to have found eachother'.
This could just be another example of how men are from mars and women are from venus (read that).
I feel strongly that the answers would differ greatly between men and women being posed with that same question.
I am interested in hearing from other women who would also find it too embarassing to reveal that she had met someone the same way...care to explain?.
I always appreciate a womans perspective on these sort of things,thanks in advance for taking the time to help me to understand this,I understand..it's embarassing..I want to know why is it embarassing?,how?
Do you think you would be embarassed as well,or would you NOT be embarassed by this?
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| 11/13/2008 11:20:59 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
jewelz72
Chickasha, OK
age: 37
| I can't answer that for you since it doesn't embarass me to tell some one, friends or family that I meet the man in my life online. I have meet some guys online that are very dear to me and my friends and family know about them.
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| 11/14/2008 5:13:12 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
angelips
Villas, NJ
age: 33
| i think its a little embarassing bc most of my family would think that i was deperate and weak to go on a diating site and as to avoid a shit load of stupid questions and comments that i wouldnt want i would avoid that and say we met at a party as well unless it bothered the other person then i would say online and deal with it to not make him feel some kind of way
[Edited 11/14/2008 5:13:31 AM PST]
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| 11/14/2008 9:41:10 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
suzy_cakes
Madison, WI
age: 31
| i wouldn't be embarrassed at all about it. one of my best relationships was with someone i met online. my brother met his now wife on a dating site. not everyone has the time to go out to meet people. i find more comfort doing things online than in person cuz i get very shy and for some reason people think i am intimidating in person.
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| 11/14/2008 10:44:53 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
catsnascar
Manchester, NH
age: 38
| For me it is not a matter of embarassment, it would be more that my family would be freaked out that I met a complete stranger. I guess they watch a little too much Law N Order and would be freaked that I put myself in that situation.
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| 11/14/2008 12:13:16 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
brujacakes2
Jim Thorpe, PA
age: 37
| I wouldn't lie about it but I have my doubts that "meeting online" has the same storybook romance effect as other possibilities.
Women always want the dream
Men are ok with the reality.......in ref to dating.
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| 11/14/2008 2:55:43 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
typeseven
Suffolk, VA
age: 32
| It is 2008 and computers have become a huge part of our daily lives. I wouldn't be ashamed at all personally and as far as I am concerned anyone who thought or said something negative could kiss it.
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| 11/14/2008 3:21:42 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
eque
Torrington, CT
age: 35
| I think a lot has to do with the sighs and looks of disgust we onliners get from friends and family when we say that's where we met our BF/GF
Most people are very negative about online dating and always assuming the worst, so I think for some people it's just easier to lie then have to deal with the sighs, and snot remarks from fam and friends
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| 11/14/2008 8:54:22 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
sowhats
Hamilton, OH
age: 38
| wouldn't a person who was ashamed how they met,also be ashamed of "you" deep down inside. i never thought of that, i would sing it from the mountain tops. that might be something to know in advance. could be a personality conflict, that could pop up in other ways. thank you very much.
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| 11/22/2008 9:18:44 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
ibdamn
Cumberland, KY
age: 31
| It is 2008 and computers have become a huge part of our daily lives. I wouldn't be ashamed at all personally and as far as I am concerned anyone who thought or said something negative could kiss it.
interesting 
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| 11/23/2008 7:20:50 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
simply_me36
North Hills, CA
age: 37
| I don't think meeting someone online is something to be embarrassed about. These days, i think it's totally acceptable since everyone seems to be really busy to with their own agenda that they don't have time to meet people but online. You can also know a lot of that person before deciding to meet them in person...
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| 11/24/2008 12:27:44 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
funrich
Orem, UT
age: 35
| give it another 10 years and meeting from the internet will be common. But for now if I meet them at a park or in front of a diner. Then thats where we met. and side step the details.
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| 11/25/2008 8:10:40 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
mst73
Lawrenceville, GA
age: 36
| I would not be embarrassed or ashamed at all. My father might want to ring my neck but I'm not 14 years old falling prey to petafiles. He may look at me like I'm 14 and yeah, most of the men on here are freaks but in all seriousness, I don't have much for people that want to judge me. There is no reason for me to lie. I would just happy to meet someone that can appreciate the good, the bad, the crazy, the freak, in me!
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| 11/25/2008 10:42:23 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
sarasoda
Calgary, AB
age: 39
| I have met some one and dated them through a dating site. We dated for about 1.5 years and I never had a problem revealing that we had met through on-line dating. My sister dated and married some one she had met on-line and always tells the truth about how they met. I think it might be embarassing for some to reveal they met through a dating site as it might come off as a desperate measure when there are so many places to meet in person not on-line.
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| 11/29/2008 4:19:42 AM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
followurbliss
Barkhamsted, CT
age: 36
| I met someone here and we dated for a short time. Members of his extended family did ask me directly how we met. I told them with out hesitation. I'm not the type of person to be concerned about other's judgments or opinions. I figure the more open we are to each other the more we all can learn about the unknown.
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| 12/4/2008 6:54:08 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
sassi_nepa
Factoryville, PA
age: 38
| give it another 10 years and meeting from the internet will be common. But for now if I meet them at a park or in front of a diner. Then thats where we met. and side step the details.
Oh I don't know about the 10 years thing...that's what online friends and I were saying 10 years ago, and it is still stigmatized.
I think that's the problem, really. People who don't chat, who don't sign up for dating sites, judge it as something negative. No one wants to be judged, so many will not reveal the truth.
I think that I would be honest about it, but I would also put a lot of time into getting to know a guy before I started having him interact with friends and family. Too many times, relationships spark and then fizzle, so why go through any meet and greets in your life without knowing that it will last for a while?
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| 12/7/2008 8:54:21 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
da1975
Orwell, VT
age: 34
| I wouldn't lie about it but I have my doubts that "meeting online" has the same storybook romance effect as other possibilities.
Women always want the dream
Men are ok with the reality.......in ref to dating.
Your right.It doesn't have the same effect.
And just because we might be ok with the reality,doesn't mean we don't dream.
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| 12/9/2008 11:45:03 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
gypsiegirly
Provo, UT
age: 43
| i wouldn't be embarrassed about it either, but i also would wait to introduce anyone i met online and started dating to family, for the same reason stated before, i would want to get to know them first.
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| 12/9/2008 11:49:33 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
whtstarr
Monmouth, IL
age: 37
| i would trll the turth if it is a good relatetoinship why lie
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| 12/10/2008 3:46:30 PM | Would you be embarassed to reveal... | |
otheah
Painesville, OH
age: 35
| I wouldn't find it embarrassing at all...
On the other hand, it would be embarrassing to create some grand lie about how we met and a friend of a family member or other asked openly (and very loudly in front of everyone)... "does he know about your online profile?"... Lies rarely ever go uncovered... better to be honest.
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