| 10/14/2007 8:29:31 AM | What if.... | |
sweetangel83
Ashtabula, OH
age: 25
| you fall in love with someone then when you have feelings for them they told you " I am HIV positive"...What would you do? I am dealing with that situation right now...we haven't had any physical contact...I don't know what to do...    
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| 10/14/2007 8:35:00 AM | What if.... | |
sweetangel83
Ashtabula, OH
age: 25
| Nevermind...
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| 10/14/2007 8:39:59 AM | What if.... | |
slowtyper1953
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 54
| run
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| 10/14/2007 8:56:40 AM | What if.... | |
smiley62
McHenry, IL
age: 45
| This is a tough one. Don't go any farther in this relationship unless you're willing to go the distance with all that it means. You're putting your own life in danger and you will eventually have to watch this man get sick and possibly die. It's a very hard road to go down.
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| 10/14/2007 10:21:57 AM | What if.... | |
onlyforyou44
Helena, MT
age: 63
| That would be a very difficult position to be in but you have to wonder what is good for. I can't emagine how tuff that would be to love someone and find out that. You not only have too look at sexual part of a relationship but enen if the cut them selves and have blood on them. You could stay friends with him but as far as a sexual or lifelong partner you are just putting yourself in danger and setting yourself up for hurt 
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| 10/14/2007 11:06:19 AM | What if.... | |
kissme1967
Loves Park, IL
age: 40
| i would get out befor u get too deep in ,,,,, for one he is going to die with it. and so will u if u have sex with him, NOT good
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| 10/14/2007 11:28:10 AM | What if.... | |
stl1
Saint Louis, MO
age: 54
| First of all, this person should have told you about their status long before it could have gotten to this stage. It makes me want to question their integrity but this is tempered by your and their ages. How long has this person known of their status and have they had time to accept and fully realize their responsibilities to others? God knows he has to walk a fine line if he wants to have any meaningful human contact because of his status but his desires have to be overridden by his responsibilities to others, especially in interpersonal relationships. Assuming he is close to your age of 24 years, he has been dealt an awful sentence in life but he has to step up to the plate and take responsibility with each and every person he wants to date for the rest of his life. I also question how you feel you have fallen in love with this person when , hopefully, this relationship has not yet reached the physical stage. Be cautious with your heart, young one!
This thread hits very close to home for me in that my first ex-wife died of AIDS. She met the wrong guy about 6 months after our divorce. She was a very intelligent woman and was a labor and delivery nurse and should have known better. She's been gone over a dozen years now but I remember her telling me a story about the time she had a female roommate move in with her without telling her of her status. The women moved out without saying a word the next day. It is always best when someone is upfront with you in this circumstance. Now this was before all the amazing drugs they have to treat HIV these days but the disease is just as contageous as always although no longer the automatic death sentence it once was. I would strongly urge you to think long and hard before engaging in any romantic activity with this person. I hugged my ex-wife but didn't ever consider anything more. Your long term prospects with anyone these days are not good and even worse with him. Do you want to have children? Would being with him be what you want out of your life? These are all tough questions you have to ask yourself but they do need to be asked. Living (and dying) with someone with AIDS was never a choice I would have willingly opted to involve myself in.
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| 10/14/2007 12:16:23 PM | What if.... | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| OMG This has to be the toughest question I've ever read..NOT a clue
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| 10/14/2007 12:18:21 PM | What if.... | |
eroticartist
White Plains, NY
age: 49
| Not all HIV'ers are fatal now. I know of one who has had it for several years although he's not that healthy looking. I do think he has alot of money. who knows
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| 10/14/2007 12:21:01 PM | What if.... | |
peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 41
| I'd have to agree with St...How could someone not tell you untill your sprung? Sounds kinda selfish and mean to me...Sorry and I hope it works out for the best for both of you.
xoxoPeaches.
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| 10/14/2007 1:25:08 PM | What if.... | |
chopperbabe
Overland Park, KS
age: 47
| If people had morals we wouldn't have thread like this. Very sorry about your situation. I'm with stl1 on this ... a person who isn't upfront on what could affect others doesn't have morals nor a conscience 
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| 10/14/2007 2:02:36 PM | What if.... | |
floyeeyy
Riverside, CA
age: 39
| I agree chopper. I would not proceed with the relationship it is a serious issue life changing and not for me........
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| 10/14/2007 2:17:12 PM | What if.... | |
trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 48
| could have been worse that he didnt tell you at all until after you had intimate contact.
still i agree that was big big time wrong that he didnt tell you early on.
if he was married and didnt tell you until much later on, would prob think he was a cheat and a liar and would dump him.
why would this be different? its a major issue. can put your health at serious risk. he didnt give you the choice to get involved or not until he charmed his way into your heart.
at the very least, would take time off away from him until you really think about all this.
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| 10/14/2007 4:53:53 PM | What if.... | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
| Your only 24..I would tell him that you only see him as a good friend and that is as far as it can go..
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| 10/14/2007 5:00:37 PM | What if.... | |
dazlinbynature
Fort Calhoun, NE
age: 50
| sweet - i agree you are only 24 - and you have only one life - do what is best to protect yourself and just be a friend.
xoDaz
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