| 12/8/2008 10:16:10 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | | 
roch_guy
Rochester, MN
age: 38
| I have experienced after sending very cool & funny messages to multiple women that I get no response & what do ya know the message is deleted?!?  I also have read on many of the women's profiles that in a nut shell, "If they had enough courage to respond to guys on-linethey may not be using this site anymore" ?!? In their defense a few may have met someone or had other personal dilemmas come up.....But ALL OF THEM again I am not that bad of a guy & I am sure many other guys on this site are not either.... Ladies give us a break!! I never claimed I was a 21 yr old perfect stud either...... actually 38 but the rest stands true  Actulaly like ALL people I have several flaws & multiple good qualities as well. I want to hear from the ladies on this what are your thoughts (besides my joking)?
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| 12/8/2008 10:36:15 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
darkside1958
Saint Cloud, MN
age: 50
| Rock guy I'm with you. Please judge me on my own merits. Just like there are some guys out there that maybe be real ass-holes there are also women out there that can be real b*tches. I'm not going to judge them all based on a few. Also just because I have been with some women that have had some real issues. I'm not going to critique every thing they do based on those experiences.
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| 12/8/2008 2:33:15 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
lisadomz
Saint Paul, MN
age: 37
| Hi there,
Well I hope you are not one of those guys who only sends emails to girls out of state. If a gal is looking for long term she will probably not reply to those out of state. Most of the time when a guy sends you an email from far away they are only looking for sex talk. I know shocking but true...  
Maybe it's just me but I would like to actually date someone. I want to meet in person and go to dinner, the movies, shoot pool, go for coffee, talk in person or try something new with a person that lives within a reasonable distance. I want a real person to date not just a cyber date.   If there from out of state or far away in MN I am just not sure it would be worth it.....
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| 12/8/2008 9:54:09 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
nerull
Minneapolis, MN
age: 23
| Here is a hint, if your only lookin for attraction and the good lookin ones....look at there friends list, if you dont fall into the category of shirt less muscle heads then they got absolutley no interest in talking or getting to know you. Before you send a message look at there friends, who they have on that tells alot about there personality and wants. And as 85% of the girls on here its with punks with no shirt flexin there muscles and whispering sweet nothings into there ears. (and yes i know i am negative)
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| 12/20/2008 5:50:36 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
gabod_tarye
Aurora, MN
age: 37
| I believe that some people are too hung up on looks and some people don't care enough about looks, namely their own. I also believe that if your trying to change the world your gonna lose. The only one you can change is you, now I'm not saying that one should go out and get some reconstructive surgery, but you could look in the mirror before you walk out the door. Furthermore if your looking for a certain type of woman (younger, smarter, better looking, model types) or a man (younger, smarter, better looking, model types)you should know what those type of people are looking for. Your not gonna get Paris Hilton with a user Id like "p....licker09" and dress like Larry the Cable Guy. (No offense intended to Larry or p....licker09). I guess what i'm saying is just be honest with yourself and honest with your expectations. Don't try to change the world. Find someone who completes you, don't worry so much about what they look like.
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| 12/22/2008 4:18:22 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
eshadowgirl
Superior, WI
age: 31
| But I LOVE Larry the Cable Guy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Seriously..There are men that are worth the time, and getting to know them. As long as both parties are honest about what they want, it'll be just fine. Just need to keep the mind open, heart protected, and you'll find that person thats worth having around.
Never happens overnight.
By the way..I normally talk to everyone..even if its just a few IM's or emails. Sometimes things just dont click. But I am honest about it.
I'm single..and lookin.....So my mind is open to the fact anything can happen. 
[Edited 12/22/2008 4:19:33 AM PST]
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| 12/22/2008 9:31:31 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
opticaljl
Staples, MN
age: 67
| roch_guy; Am I old fashion or does your handle speak to your brand of smokes? I would redo my bio, say as little as possible, view the bio's your interested in. Serious women that have a need, will contact you, because they want to justify why they have no man in thier lives. List your income high and weed out the players, we all can loose a job to cover, or simply say I must have checked the wrong box.
I have found some of the most interesting people when I reviewed a persons friends, a previous person also mentioned it.
If you don't make it a mistery you take all thier fun out of trying to decide if it's worth thier effort to try to remake you to what they think they want. We men are often blamed for playing games but in truth women are the experts. After 40; honest men are nothing more than a meal ticket, or thropy for most unmarried women, and remember thier hormones no longer function the way ours do. I find a more truthfull class of women that are widowed and miss having a man in thier lives, just started looking and I will find that special one, at my age I don't have to worry each year I age more widows come on line. Hope my expierience helps drop a note to me direct if anything I say gives you a different look on things. For any women that are reading this I have daughters ranging in age from 45-10, I've been there, done that, and worked at a prison watching some real con artist study for how they would use there knowledge of phycology to get even once they got the chance.
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| 12/24/2008 4:13:06 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
grumpeolmn
Rochester, MN
age: 58
| Well, roch-guy I know how it is live down here too. Been on a lot of sites and wonder, why most women put a profile on em, (know some of em were paid to on yahoo, and some other high dollar ones} So, bout all I've had luck with is chatting, least ya get to talk to a woman, although most the time she's a long ways away The one thing you don't want to do is hit the bars in this town, they just love to arrest ya for a DUI. and they'll hold ya as long as they can to make ya breath over the limit. Good luck Bro if I ever find out any secrets on meeting women in this town before I croak will pass em on to ya
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| 12/28/2008 12:01:02 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
grumpeolmn
Rochester, MN
age: 58
| got a news flash Rock-guy. Had a little challenge with Randij to find three people to e-mail in the coming year for each other she picked three for me and I was sposed to pick three for her. I did a seach, she is from st.paul. I got two pages, so I expanded was up to two hundred miles out and got three pages, never saw your profile on there. you fit right in the parameters of the search go figure, anyway not sure everything happens on this site the way we think it should.
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| 12/28/2008 11:06:38 AM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
czechlervitz
Glenwood, MN
age: 21
|  I am a good guy. I am actually evil in God's sight, but in a human standard I am a good guy.
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| 1/3/2009 12:10:45 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
opticaljl
Staples, MN
age: 67
| got a news flash Rock-guy. Had a little challenge with Randij to find three people to e-mail in the coming year for each other she picked three for me and I was sposed to pick three for her. I did a seach, she is from st.paul. I got two pages, so I expanded was up to two hundred miles out and got three pages, never saw your profile on there. you fit right in the parameters of the search go figure, anyway not sure everything happens on this site the way we think it should.[/quote
Grumpe;
When a known individual is in the system and that person dosen't show up on searches that match thier parameters, I believe that the missing party has requested this to happen. (I take it as a cyber brush off), I have only been on this site for a short time but when you know a party is on line and an area search shows otherwise it's a safe bet this person has blocked thier profile from you. I am not very hep on computers, and well;  I could be wrong.
Every profile I have read speaks of HONESTY, If I find one I'll let you know. Youth over-estimates, and most women over 40 under-estimate what they are capable of bringing to a relationship. 
All of the confident ladies I have written too; have replied and I respect them for it, furthermore these same ladies will I'm sure have success.  |
| 1/3/2009 9:09:23 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
grumpeolmn
Rochester, MN
age: 58
| eader]Quote from grumpeolmn: got a news flash Rock-guy. Had a little challenge with Randij to find three people to e-mail in the coming year for each other she picked three for me and I was sposed to pick three for her. I did a seach, she is from st.paul. I got two pages, so I expanded was up to two hundred miles out and got three pages, never saw your profile on there. you fit right in the parameters of the search go figure, anyway not sure everything happens on this site the way we think it should.[/quote
Grumpe;
When a known individual is in the system and that person dosen't show up on searches that match thier parameters, I believe that the missing party has requested this to happen. (I take it as a cyber brush off), I have only been on this site for a short time but when you know a party is on line and an area search shows otherwise it's a safe bet this person has blocked thier profile from you. I am not very hep on computers, and well; I could be wrong.
Every profile I have read speaks of HONESTY, If I find one I'll let you know. Youth over-estimates, and most women over 40 under-estimate what they are capable of bringing to a relationship.
All of the confident ladies I have written too; have replied and I respect them for it, furthermore these same ladies will I'm sure have success.
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| 1/7/2009 8:15:30 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
guyinaturtlenec
Mound, MN
age: 47
| I very much agree with the sentiments of the original post.
I am working, I have a sense of humor, I look considerably younger than my stated age, I'm in great shape, and yet I can't seem to get a date at gun-point (do you think that my trying to get a date at gun-point has hurt my chances?)
WTF do they want?
I have thought that maybe they want someone who is completely generic -- go Vikes!
Or do they want you to accept their "baggage", but you are not to have any baggage (meaning kids)?
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| 1/15/2009 8:52:57 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
matthew5893
Northfield, MN
age: 27
| Well I am with you on this subject here.I am like all the other guys wondering the same thing.If you ladies wanna know more about me then read my pro and email me and get to know me as I will for you I am looking for that one besides friends on here too
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| 1/15/2009 10:36:48 PM | WOMEN there have to be a few guys that are worth it!!! | |
damyth
Rosemount, MN
age: 33
| I hear you guys on this. I don't know if it's not a good enough proile for them or they are just being that judgemental. I get along with just about everyone I met an these sites are suppose to be for people that want to meet someone for a relationship. I just don't have any luck on these sites. Sometimes I wonder why I check them out, But if you don't keep trying you will never know. 
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