| 10/15/2007 6:15:37 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
kirota2
Webster City, IA
age: 35
| Lately we all have been saying that we need more serious mind stimulating conversation and it has been weighing on my mind. I have had a lot of time in the last six months wondering what if's and should of's. I wonder if I have made a big enough impact in the lives of the people around me that they would think of me when I am gone. I know that sounds kind of morbid or that I am ready to give up, but it has had quit the different affect on me lately. I have started in the last wk to really open myself up and make decisions that in the past I would have been scared to make or just didn't think it was important enough to make.
So, my question is......If you were put in a life changing situation do you think that you would be content with the decisions that you have made and the ones that you have been too scared to make?
Kirota
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| 10/15/2007 6:26:17 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
| I have been in a life or death situation more than once. The life changing event for me was when my first husband tried to kill me. Suddenly, I stopped being self destructive. Once I got out of the hospital, I knew I was changed. I knew I wanted to live and make a difference with my life.
Battling cancer (and winning against odds) brought me that much closer to God and my Lord and Savior. My life is nothing like it was even 7 years ago. I do now for others because I want to, not because I ever expect there will be a time they might have to "pay me back". I face life head on and deal with any issues thrown my way because I know I will win in the end. How could I not? There is an underlying peace and grace that I didn't know a decade ago. A decade ago I was in constant turmoil internally as well as externally. Nowadays, my life is constant turmoil, but internally, calm waters.
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| 10/15/2007 6:26:49 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
hanover
Harrison, MI
age: 54
| I believe I made a decision like that
4yrs ago after dad died.I promised my dad
I would take care of mom.(cause I'm single)
Mom is 82yrs.old and in perfect health.I
joke with my brothers & sisters about me
bringing a date home and mom standing there.lol
When I first started out in business,they always
supported me,now its time for me to give back,and
family always did come first.No regrets for me.
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| 10/15/2007 6:39:42 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
striker29527
London, KY
age: 46 online now!
| personal opinion here - - - -
no matter if the decisions are life altering or not, we should always learn from our decisions. no matter if they are right or not.
if the decision is good, no worries. if the decision is wrong, then learn fom it!
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| 10/15/2007 6:56:57 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
kirota2
Webster City, IA
age: 35
| That's nice striker, but I'm talking about a change in your life that made you look at things differently. I mean do something that you were scared to to before or evaluate what contributions you have made if any to the community or to friends and family. I'm not talking at all about right or wrong here.
Kirota
I'm talking about making these decisions because of a life altering experience. Not making life altering decisions. If that make any sense.
[Edited 10/15/2007 6:58:29 PM]
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| 10/15/2007 7:09:30 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
stl1
Saint Louis, MO
age: 54
| Kirota-
Because of your situation you are able to experience your life flashing before your eyes like the guy falling off of a tall building, only in slow motion. Do the things that need to be attended to, do the things you always wanted to do, cherish your time with those you love and those who love you, turn yourself into the person you always wanted to be but were afraid to be, and, then keep it up for the next 60 years.
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| 10/15/2007 7:47:16 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
qwerty159
Martinsburg, WV
age: 39
| answer to your question beauty queen kirota didnt i see you on the miss universe pagent? i was put in a life changing situation when this girl that i dated for only 1 month we split and a month later said she was preagnent and it was mine i was in denial.Iwas wathching the movie cider house rules and when i got to the part and showed the children that nobody wanted them it struck a nerve it made me think about all the chilren that just wanted someone to love them i started to think of my own situation and started crying.I went to cort after he was born paid my child support and all that then three years later his mother abandoned him ,i went and got custudy.I am glad i got custody because she has attempted suicide twice once was on mothers day.i grew up stopped all the partying and i thank god that this all happend i could be in my grave from the type of partying i was doing.
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| 10/15/2007 7:53:58 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
kirota2
Webster City, IA
age: 35
| Thank you for your post guys. It is nice to see that some of you understand what I am talking about. I find myself wondering if I have done anything real. I mean I know I am a good mother, but I think that I should be doing more for them and for others around me. I guess to leave my mark so to speak. Does anyone else think about that?
qwerty, I'm glad you got your son and that both of your lives are better for it.
Kirota
[Edited 10/15/2007 7:55:08 PM]
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| 10/15/2007 8:03:54 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
qwerty159
Martinsburg, WV
age: 39
| you are doing something very good,something this site needs. time for sleep...
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| 10/15/2007 8:20:11 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 54
| I have also been there Kirota..and yes I thought of the same things you are thinking about. My only goal now is to bring a smile to at least 6 strangers every day
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| 10/15/2007 8:24:38 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
qwerty159
Martinsburg, WV
age: 39
| gawd you bring a smile to my face evrytime i see your picture on a posted topic .you remind me of my mother.
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| 10/15/2007 8:27:21 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 54
|  Thank you I think LOL
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| 10/15/2007 8:27:49 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
53lady
Jacksonville, FL
age: 54
| Hey Kirota honey! Let me say this before I get to my experience.
You are still young...spend all the time you can with your kids...now!
I can't say as I abandoned my daughters, but in a way I did. I was always looking for the husband and father figure for my girls. I made a lot of mistakes and sometimes they were put on the back burner in this pursuit. HUGE MISTAKE!!!!
Don't worry about finding a man. I know it's lonely as hell, but looking back...I would have gladly foregone that quest to spend every minute I could with my girls. I was never going to have anymore children, so I should have concentrated ALL my efforts on them. It goes by so damned quickly and you just can't get it back! Please learn from my mistakes...it just isn't worth it. JMO JMO
I can't say as I have had what anyone here would call life altering...but it was for me.
I was here on DH and for some reason went to the Religion forum and began reading. Then just so happened "queenofhearts61" started a thread telling folks to come in and say anthing they wanted, or dared to, and no one could reply. So, I went in and poured my heart out for God to take me back in His life and forgive me...and on and on. I got quite a few nice responses to that prayer. I had to tell them that this prayer was not rehearsed, I just let it all my feelings out while I typed it.
The very next day I got another email from a man here and we've been talking ever since.
Now...I don't know what will come of this, maybe I'm being scammed, he tells me no, but we shall see. Doesn't feel like it.....
Anyway, because of being here on DH, I have renewed my faith & commitment to God through my belief in Jesus Christ, and this has been my life changing event!
Peace & Love in His name
Cindy
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| 10/15/2007 8:39:38 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
cutencuddls
Hopewell, VA
age: 38
| 53... even being moments from death didn't renew my faith. Took losing my twins.. having my daughter live her entire 7 minutes in my hands, before I renewed my faith and put all of it in Him! That is an awesome testiment you just wrote. Thank you for sharing.
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| 10/15/2007 8:44:22 PM | Serious Topic............................................!!!! | |
kirota2
Webster City, IA
age: 35
| Cindy thank you so much for sharing that. I can relate to what you are saying. I have found myself praying a lot more than I used to. I'm hoping that has something to do with the fact that I am feeling better and getting stronger, even though I have always been strong I have made the decision to make every one that I make count for something. It is just that feeling of being missed I guess if something does happen. It sounds terrible but I hve nightmares about having an empty church for me funeral with the saying "She could have done more".
Like you Cindy I do feel lonely, but I think that I use my girls as a wall to keep men at arms length. Like if I let someone in I will be sacrificing what I have with them. I'm hoping in this new found strength that I can make the right decisions to have a personal life and a life with my girls. I don't want to live with what if and should of anymore.
Kirota
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