Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment

12/10/2008 4:47:22 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
romancer15 Plover, WI age: 35	This one is for all you women out there. I have alot of girlfriends and I have learned one thing that is so messed up about you women. Why is it that if a man cuts you down, you take it to heart and believe his bull**. But if a man tells you how beautiful you are or how sweet you are, you think he is full of or he has some hidden agenda. Can't you women have the philosophy that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you want to believe a *hole who cuts you down, then you should believe a man who tells you that your beautiful or sweet or whatever other nice thing he may say.
12/11/2008 1:59:13 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
futureunknown Marshfield, WI age: 40	it's called "low self esteem"
12/11/2008 3:12:45 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
hodag Little Suamico, WI age: 56	Ok, ......so why do so many women have such low self esteem? Is it our society that places so much "importance" on looking like a Barbie Doll? I personally always try to be as respectful as possible to women. Maybe I'm just "old-fashioned". Hodag
12/11/2008 5:52:49 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
futureunknown Marshfield, WI age: 40	some of us have had ex's who told us we were worthless and other shit...mine even called me a psychob*tch
12/11/2008 7:34:36 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
romancer15 Plover, WI age: 35	Dear Futureunknown sorry for your ex's stupidity...but why not believe future potentially good men who want to tell you your beautiful and from your blogs seem like a woman with a sweet personality. Why let past *holes ruin it for the nice guys that finish last? And you wonder why nice guys finish last.....because we never get the chance because of the past *holes. I swear the more I try to understand women, the more I get lost and more confused.
12/12/2008 2:53:05 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
lynners07 Kaukauna, WI age: 20	Women shouldn't believe anything that a man says ( or in this case anyone)..it's all about actions i've learned that you need believe those actions.. anyways i think the reason why its hard for woman to take a compliment is because they have always believed words and never got any actions behind the words so they stop believing them...and lol low self esstem,...i enjoy compliments and its not hard for me to take them..for the most part
12/12/2008 6:40:37 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
jeffs327 Marshfield, WI age: 51	Maybe it's because they are narcissists and sociopaths. Merry christmas!
12/12/2008 7:16:54 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
katcheerup Whitewater, WI age: 24	I can honestly say I think it has more to do with... if a guy is always telling me I'm beautiful.. or he miss me... it kind of becomes meaningless after awhile. Like when your parents tell your your smart and pretty... you start to think they just say that cause there your parents. As for the jerks women are drawn too... I think that has to do with I love to help people. I love when I bring out the best in someone. Therefor when a jerk tells me I'm beautiful I really take it to heart cause thats not something they may say every day. I'm not saying to be a jerk, but maybe not be so gun ho on the your beautiful... make her wait to hear those special words. To the point she thinks you may not even care... Most women are a bit nuts and will eat this up every time. I honestly just got ripped a new one because I told a guy he was too nice, and freaking me out a bit because he told me he missed me every five mins. His response was along the lines of "woman like you say you want a nice guy and when you final meet the real thing you think were stalkers.... then he acted cold... the odd thing then I found him actual attractive. Then again I might be a total nut.
12/14/2008 7:47:08 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
kricketclark Burlington, WI age: 50	I can only speak for myself but I appreciate a compliment and can only hope that I'm not coming off as finding it hard to accept. The majority of my friends are men and I can't say that I've ever heard this particular complaint before. I suppose if someone were shy they might not know how to react or if someone were used to hearing the opposite of what you were complimenting them on they might find it hard to accept this new view. But in any case, know that there are women out there who do know how to take a compliment and sincerely appreciate it. And thanks for the insight, never really noticed this in people before.
12/20/2008 3:52:43 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
emt854again Appleton, WI age: 55	Actions always speak louder than words..
12/20/2008 3:11:04 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
romancer15 Plover, WI age: 35	Quote from emt854again: Actions always speak louder than words.. This is very true but even so ....I'm a man who will show and tell that woman she is beautiful but even if a man goes out and buys a woman a beautiful rose and goes out and gets her favorite fast food and brings it to her work to drop it of with a note that says .....Just because your beautiful and sweet. Women here in wisconsin seem to think a man does all this for his own reason. Um duh ladies ....we do or at least I do it to let a woman know .....she is beautiful and sweet. I don't expect anything from her but to look in the mirror and see what I see but these Wisconsin women are so.....I wanna say High maintenance cuz it seems like a man has to do something extraordinary just for her to see how sincere a man really is and that he has no alterior motive. Like I said ....the more I try to understand you beautiful women the more confused and lost I get
12/21/2008 3:16:25 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
emt854again Appleton, WI age: 55	romancer maybe your just choosing the wrong women. Not all women are like that or are they high maintenance it sounds like your romancing women that dont think much of themselves therefor they cant accept compliments or kind gestures. Keep trying..
12/21/2008 6:46:14 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
reenie4 Milwaukee, WI age: 52	Quote from romancer15: This one is for all you women out there. I have alot of girlfriends and I have learned one thing that is so messed up about you women. Why is it that if a man cuts you down, you take it to heart and believe his bull**. But if a man tells you how beautiful you are or how sweet you are, you think he is full of or he has some hidden agenda. Can't you women have the philosophy that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you want to believe a *hole who cuts you down, then you should believe a man who tells you that your beautiful or sweet or whatever other nice thing he may say. Perhaps it's because you have so many girlfriends that you have told them all the same thing!
12/21/2008 7:43:34 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
cojati Manitowoc, WI age: 39	Reading the topic and all the replies, I tend to laugh!!!! All I know is that this state is quite different than others, At least it seems as tho the people are. other states you could be walking down the sidewalks and pass someone and they say hello to you, (in most cases.) but yet in this state you find that this does not happen.. here I think many of the women out there are looking for someone to take care of them...thats just my opinion, thats what I see, or that they are to good for you, it seems they are looking for someone or something that does not exist. I think that women, maybe not all, look at you when you give them a compliment, depending on what you look like, there they respond to that, if you meet their standers than they appreciate it, if not than tuff luck. To many stuck up women here, which give some men an attitude of who the heck do you think you are. it seems as tho, no matter what you say or do it is not good enough at times! I think there is something in this wATER THAT WE DRINK...
12/21/2008 10:04:44 AM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
whitebird58 Kendall, WI age: 51	You got that right sista...actions will always speak louder than words.
12/22/2008 1:12:46 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
emt854again Appleton, WI age: 55	Quote from cojati: Reading the topic and all the replies, I tend to laugh!!!! All I know is that this state is quite different than others, At least it seems as tho the people are. other states you could be walking down the sidewalks and pass someone and they say hello to you, (in most cases.) but yet in this state you find that this does not happen.. here I think many of the women out there are looking for someone to take care of them...thats just my opinion, thats what I see, or that they are to good for you, it seems they are looking for someone or something that does not exist. I think that women, maybe not all, look at you when you give them a compliment, depending on what you look like, there they respond to that, if you meet their standers than they appreciate it, if not than tuff luck. To many stuck up women here, which give some men an attitude of who the heck do you think you are. it seems as tho, no matter what you say or do it is not good enough at times! I think there is something in this wATER THAT WE DRINK... I agree with you that this state is different. I moved here from NC and I have found that when I say hi or smile at people they seem to be quite shocked. I always pay a compliment to a man or woman if I meet them at the grocery store or gas station, just trying to make them feel good. There are too many bad things happening in this world that if you can make just one person smile every day it really makes a difference in their day. I always have a smile on..just the way I was brought up. We could all learn from the people in the south. Just my opinion.
12/23/2008 10:37:27 PM	Why is it so hard for a woman to take a compliment
romancer15 Plover, WI age: 35	Great.....this is so depressin.....emt has made me realize that Im going to be single for the rest of my life unless I get out of this state. I really wish women were sweet like that to look at me walking down the street and say hi to me. It sure would break my shyness and look at them and say hi beautiful how are you doing. I am the man that opens up the doors for her and does whatever it takes to make his woman happy (unless she is material) I was born in Portland Oregon and I never went this long being single there. Here in Wisconsin ....it's like a ahole is prince charming here and Im sorry to all you wisconsin women but I cant be that heartless ahole. I tell ya ....another state is lookin a hell of alot better then wisconsin. Women here are just to picky and high maintenance .....no woman in this state believes in the story of beauty and the beast. He may have been a beast but that beast had the biggest heart in the world. At least some of the women in Oregon seen it.